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How to become a better conversationalist
Whether you love or hate networking, there's no doubting the importance of face-to-face interactions. Even in our digital world, knowing the art of the conversation is key to building strong relationships. Being a good conversationalist can help you make a lasting impression.

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Mindsets around new conversations

Go into a situation where you will need to speak with people with the mindset of, "I am curious and I want to learn more about other people", rather than going into it with the mindset...

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Listen with intent

The best conversationalists aren’t those who always have witty things to say, but those who are genuine listeners. 

Good listeners don’t just listen with their ears, but with thei...

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Ask open-ended questions

Those that require more than a “yes” or “no” answer, are the best type of questions to ask if you’re looking to establish common ground. 

Just be careful not to overdo your questi...

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Avoid oversharing

Keep your personal anecdotes short and sweet, focusing more on the other person’s stories than your own. 

To find out if you’re speaking too much, leave out some details of the st...

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Know where you stand on the introvert-extrovert spectrum

Know where you stand on the introvert-extrovert spectrum
  • If you’re an extrovert and find yourself talking too much, try to shift the focus on asking more questions. 
  • If you’re an introvert, ask yourself whether you’re spea...

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Become More Knowledgeable
  1. When you don’t understand a topic someone is talking about, don’t try to change the subject or walk away
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Leverage Social Media

Leverage Social Media

Social media is an incredibly powerful tool for personal branding. 

  • Your up-to-date profiles can tout your skills and accomplishments for you, without yo...

Focus on Relationships

Don't pressure yourself into thinking that you need to be the center of attention or speak with a large audience.

If you continue to build one meaningful relationship at a time with the people who actually matter to you, by setting up informal meetings or coffee dates, you'll actually end up with a stronger personal brand than those people who fly around networking events engaging in endless conversations about the weather.

Expand Your Qualifications

Expanding your skills and expertise is a surefire way to solidify and improve your personal brand

Once you complete your extracurricular, make sure to post your new certification on your LinkedIn, your resume (if relevant) and your personal website to cash in on the branding payoff.

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Introverted vs. extroverted people

If you recover your energy while alone or in quiet surroundings, you’re probably an introverted type of person.

You can experience the benefits of both types when you push yourself to ...

Introverted vs. shy/insecure people

There’s nothing wrong with being an introvert. If you are emotionally unstable, being an introvert can become the biggest enemy of your progress in life.
There’s a big difference between being an introvert and being afraid of public speaking, meeting people and speaking up when necessary. Social anxiety is not introversion, it’s a fear you must face and overcome.

Thinking before speaking and acting

  • Make sure that you speak up when you have something important to say. 
  • Take advantage of your ability to observe other people, the environment you’re in and the energy flow in the room.
  • People will pay more attention to what you say when you do speak up.
  • You probably have the ability to study things better and faster, so when you do say something make sure that it’s an eye-opener.
  • People will trust you more and thus you’ll have access to more privileged information.

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