deepstash

Beta

How To Break Toxic Relationship Patterns

How To Break Toxic Relationship Patterns

https://www.nylon.com/articles/how-break-toxic-relationship-patterns

nylon.com

Deepstash brings you key ideas from the most inspiring articles like this one:

Read more efficiently

Save what inspires you

Remember anything

6

Key Ideas

Save all ideas

A Toxic Relationship

A Toxic Relationship

A toxic relationship is akin to an unproductive pattern, the kind that involves the same disagreements again and again with no satisfactory resolution. The issues eventually start to feel unresolva...

337 SAVES


How the Pattern Started

It can be useful to look at your own behavior in your relationships. Look at the role you usually play across all types of relationships.

Look at the early relationships you saw in your fam...

309 SAVES


Own Your Role

Once you've identified the pattern, be accountable for your part. It is more than just apologizing. Own your role and then change your behavior. How could you do it differently?

319 SAVES


Slow Down the Conversation

Focus on clearly conveying your whole emotional message and try to hear the whole of the other person's without thinking it is an attack.

Saying "I feel like you..." inste...

317 SAVES


Talk with Purpose

Important conversations are best when they're intentional and contained. Try to separate the discussion from the arguments or actions that led to it.

It's helpful t...

309 SAVES


A Chance for Change

The best thing about knowing you have a problem is the opportunity to fix it.

Using our struggles within our relationships can help us discover parts of ourselves that need...

311 SAVES


SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:

A toxic relationship

Is any relationship between people who don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there is competition and there is disrespect.

...

What makes a relationship toxic

People who consistently undermine or cause harm to a partner (whether intentionally or not) often have a reason for their behavior, even if it’s subconscious. 

Maybe they were in a toxic relationship, either romantically or as a child. Maybe they didn’t have the most supportive, loving upbringing. They could have been bullied in school. They could be suffering from an undiagnosed mental health disorder.

Warning signs

The most serious warning signs include any form of violence, abuse or harassment, which should be dealt with immediately. But in many cases, the indicators of a toxic relationship are much more subtle: Persistent unhappiness, negative shifts in your mental health, personality or self-esteem, feeling like you can’t talk with or voice concerns to your significant other.

one more idea

Avoid decisions

Just like our muscles, studies show that our ability to make smart decisions gets worn down as the day goes on.

Cut out and automate as many non-essential decisions as possible to preserve your m...

Wake up early

People who wake up early are able to be more proactive and take charge of their life.

Waking up early will leave you with ample time to prepare for your day ahead and take advantage of healthy morning routines.

Follow the 52-17 rule

Our brains need regular breaks to keep functioning at a high capacity.

A glut of research shows that you should take breaks when you can to reap benefits and avoid burnout. The average time to work productively is 52 minutes of work followed by 17 minutes of rest.

3 more ideas