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How to Build Self-Esteem (And Does it Even Matter?) | Mark Manson
In the film, we see this: Post-war prosperity made for heady times, more and more people from all walks of life began to buy into the American Dream -the belief that they could be whatever they wanted to be as long as they worked hard and cultivated the qualities of successful people.

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Self-esteem to measure success

During the 1960s, psychologists started studying what made some people more successful than others. They believed the answer to be self-esteem.

Self-esteem was a measurement of ...

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Promoting self-esteem

The theory is that if everyone has high self-esteem, then everyone will be successful and live a happy life. If a society was inoculated with high self-esteem, it would end poverty, crime, and viol...

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Self-esteem and success

There’s actually very little correlation between self-esteem and success.  Research on self-esteem strongly correlates with how good people feel, in general

Self-esteem is ...

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Healthy vs toxic forms of self-esteem

Researchers have found that there are different types of self-esteem. There are two broad categories:

  • Healthy self-esteem. You base the way you feel on the things you can ...

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Toxic forms of self-esteem

Toxic types of self-esteem arise when we pursue self-esteem for its own sake, instead of letting it be a byproduct of being a well-adjusted human being: trying to feel good about something instead ...

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How to spot toxic self-esteem

Toxic self-esteem is easy to notice. One can see a disconnect between how the person sees himself, and how the world sees him.

It is your coworker who’s incompetent in their job but t...

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Lasting high self-esteem

Self-esteem is how we think we are doing in our own worlds. It is made up of an internal valuation of ourselves. It cannot be an objective assessment, as we decide what our metrics are.

Prior...

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Accept your low self-esteem

First, give yourself the headspace to work on a solution by accepting your feelings surrounding your low self-esteem. Your feelings are temporary. Accept them for the moment. Don't cover them up. D...

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Practice self-compassion

People with low self-esteem tend to be hard on themselves and take everything very personally.

When you catch yourself being very critical of yourself, stop. Take a step back and see the situ...

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Accept what you lack

True self-esteem is not thinking that you lack nothing - it's being comfortable with the fact that you're not great at everything. Accept it and move on.

Accept yourself for who you are wi...

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