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How to Fight off Your Inner Critic
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Your inner critic

Your inner critic

We almost all have a character inside our minds that tends to visit us late at night when we're very tired, telling us terrible things in order to destroy our self-confidence and self-c...

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Every story has two sides

You could tell everything as a tragedy, or you could tell an equally valid and far kinder story. You could say that you made some serious errors, as every human will, and you paid ...

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Your inner critic was always an outer critic

... who has been internalized. You're speaking to yourself as someone else once talked to you or made you feel.

You should acknowledge your failures and be happy to mak...

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Life's a struggle for everyone.

Stop comparing what you know of your deep self to the shallow front others advertise about their lives.

Everyone seems to know how to live, but you don't. However, yo...

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No one knows the future

Despair presumes you know the rest of the story. You don't. Keep going; the loveliest things could happen all of a sudden.

So, if you think that things...

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The fear of being alone

Concentrate on the people with very big hearts. Be honest with them about your pain - they'll find their way to you.

Thinking no one could ever love you sounds very tem...

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Thinking you're ugly

Maybe you think you're ugly. That might be true, but so are lots of people.

When you love them, you start to see their soul, and you love their character in them. You probably...

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Cut your life up into smaller pieces

Who cares where you will be in five years? Make it to the next meal and a nice bath. If nothing terrible happens in the next hour, that is a triumph. Celebrate the peaceful next ten minutes...

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The mind seems terrified of the states of calm and relaxation as if work was a distraction to not let the mind come close to the worries and the existential queries. It saddles us with guilt and shame on the life we have lived, and the things that never materialized.

Doing nothing, it seems, becomes harder than doing any work that fills our time and keeps our mind engaged.

We Have To Keep Engaging Our Minds

Our work has a little known value: protecting us from a sense of despair and agony, and keeping us from doing the most difficult task: Doing Nothing.

The mind has to be kept engaged by providing it with mild challenges, one after the other, to keep it from falling into an abyss doom and terror.

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If we cross the upward barrier in this speed range, we feel terrified, guilty or shameful. If we are below the bottom threshold of this window, we feel lonely, bored, alienated and numb. Remaining within the Window Of Tolerance is our daily challenge as we zig-zag between various emotions and try to keep ourselves sane by self-regulating the mind to remain in the ‘harmonious’ window, while not being stagnant.

Piloting Our Mind

If we continuously feel a lot of distress and draining, we should recover ourselves by moderation in eating and drinking, meditation, reading, exercising, and ample rest.

We need to be aware of the direction and trajectory of our moods, emotions and feelings, and make use of introspection and self-observation to get us out of possible pitfalls, avoiding a ‘crash landing’ at a later stage if we do not pay attention.