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How to Fight Well in Your Relationship - Tiny Buddha
"Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder." ~Rumi I had one of those really intense arguments with my partner recently, and it made me realize the importance of knowing how to fight well in a relationship.

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Soft language vs. hard language

  • Soft language: it uses “I” statements and focuses on the actions that took place, how they made us feel, and what we want to happen.
  • Hard language: it starts wi...

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Create space

It's useful to agree in advance to call a “timeout” or “press pause” before arguments begin.

It will give you the time to work through what happened. Because arguing when you...

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What if…?

Ask yourself these questions: “What if the other person had a point? What if I wasn’t being honest with myself? What if I wasn’t taking responsibility for something?...

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Creating a safe space

Fights often get out of control when you are both full of emotion and expressing it from a place of fear. 

One of you has to have enough presence, away from your emotions, to...

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