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It is difficult to discuss some sensitive subjects, and we are tempted to avoid them. Other times we simply expect our partners to know what we are doing, thinking or what we want...
Be curious about your partner’s point of view rather than trying to anticipate every situation. Active listening involves:
Communication is much more than what you say. In addition to words, you also communicate through:
Put the feelings of your partner before your need to be understood.
Even when you are arguing, be careful what you say and how you say it. An angry or dejected partner is less likely t...
Having fun together brings you and your partner closer. Pick a common hobby or have regular date nights.
The closer you are, the more you are inclined to share your i...
Speak up when you are hurting, or you disagree with your partner.
Do not pretend to be happy if you are not. Honesty will help you and your partner to solve problems more ...
While you want to tell your partner everything, it is wise to find the correct time to do so.
Something that may be rejected if you express it now may actually be he...
Taking responsibility for your actions shows that you are mature.
Remember, there is no shame in admitting that you made a mistake. What is illogical is adopting an ...
Even if you have a few issues that you feel the need to discuss, experts advise that you bring up a maximum of one item per conversation.
If you ignore this rule, you will ...
Bringing up past behavior to defend the present day stance hinders your relationship from moving forward.
After an argument, always move forward with a fresh slate. Resurr...
During intimacy, hormones that are responsible for bonding and attachment are released. The more you are attached to your partner, the better your communication becomes.
Research shows that when you look at your partner in the eye even in time of conflict and say, ‘I love you,’ the brain is prompted to release bonding hormones.
Many spouses o...
How you say something is as important as what you say.
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You communicate a genuine interest when you inquire or listen to the small details that make up your partner’s day. It’s those insignificant moments that make up the reality of our lives.
Words are not necessary for shared feelings to improve a relationship. Just doing something at the same time—riding bikes, watching a movie, or eating dessert, intensifies both pleasant and unpleasant experiences.
Use a technique called “active listening” - a form of listening in which you acknowledge that you understand what is being said.
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Be conscious not to point blame at your partner by phrasing sentences that start with words such as “You make me... “ or “You didn’t…”
Instead, begin by saying, “I feel hurt ...
Once you voice what’s bothering you, be sure to hear how your partner responds. Give him or her a chance to speak and listen to what he or she says.
It may be that you’re misinterpreting the behavior, he or she wasn’t conscious of how you feel, or you’re doing or saying something to influence them.
A devoted husband or wife will want to support you when you need it most, but not if you take your anxiety out on them or take his or her love for granted.
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