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How to keep quarantine from ruining your marriage
Within hours, I was getting texts. And FB messages. And then a call from a quasi-terrified sounding former student: "Any articles or books you can suggest about how my spouse and I spend the next many weeks together in our tiny apartment without offing each other?"

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Couples In Lockdown

In lockdown(or home quarantine), relationships are being stress-tested across the globe, as couples and partners live together 24/7, and have to deal with:

  • New kinds of stressful situa...

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Everyone is stressed out as there are losses all around. Most of us miss life before the lockdown. It is a good idea to let those feelings come out, listen attentively to the partner, and ...

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Rituals

Rituals are important to maintain a positive connection. A ritual can be anything that makes you and your partner regularly turn towards each other, emotionally, physically or spiritually.

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Kinds Of Rituals

Strong and meaningful rituals, whether it is praying together, or even coining nicknames, can stitch couples together and build strong relationships.

  • Certain couples have initiated ri...

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Remembering The Past

Reading old diaries and letters, or looking at old pictures is a great way to bond at home, while revisiting old memories when life wasn’t too complicated. Since there are kids present in most home...

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Rituals play a number of critical roles

  • Rituals in the face of loss can help us feel less grief.
  • Rituals with families can make us feel closer.
  • Rituals with our partners can reinforce our commitment to each other.

They are not “elaborate religious ceremonies”, but more often just private and idiosyncratic activities.

Rituals and repetition

Repeated rituals seem to gain in strength, but even one-time rituals can be effective (for example, burning pictures in the place where you met your ex).

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Change and the unchangeable

We like to think that things can be changed. That we are in control somehow.  That's why “never” hurts, because never means that it can’t be changed. “Never” means it’s over. It’s gone. And ...

Meaning and relationships

  • We generate meaning through relationships. And meaning is the fuel of our minds. 
  • Our relationships also define our understanding of ourselves. And when one of these relationships is destroyed, that part of our identity is destroyed along with it. 

Depression vs. sadness

  • Sadness occurs when something feels bad. 
  • Depression occurs when something feels meaningless. 

When something feels bad, at least it has meaning. In depression, everything becomes a big blank void. 

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Single and happy

According to a study in Applied Research Quality of Life, single people tend to be happier than the married ones, as they are more socially active. 

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Social capital and happiness

The so-called ‘social capital’ is perceived by the singles as a substitute for the affection that a life partner is to provide. 

More than that, for individuals who have recently gone through a divorce or the loss of love of any kind, social interactions seem to have particular importance, as they become a synonym for the support that they need in order to deal with the current difficulties.

Friends and your happiness

All in all, making sure that you keep your circle close to you, especially when you are single, can make a significant difference in your quality of life, as you are going to feel happier whenever you are surrounded by your friends, relatives and so on. 

So stay positive: being in a couple or choosing to stay single can result in the very same amount of happiness whatsoever.