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How to Overcome Your Demons | Mark Manson
As a result, I spent most of my twenties being a terribly unreliable (and often selfish) person. I was the guy who said he couldn't wait to see you and then never showed up. I was the guy who went on three spectacular dates with a woman and then strangely found an endless litany of excuses to not go on a fourth.

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Our inner 'demons'

Our inner Demons, or inner voices, make us do irrational, stupid and selfish things, based out of fear.

We hide and distract ourselves from our inner voice, which is nothing but our fear and ...

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Our common negative parts

Some of our common 'demons' are:

  • Procrastination
  • Laziness
  • Self-loathing
  • Comparing yourself with your peers, leading to envy
  • Loser mentality.

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The downward spiral

Our inner demons lead us to negatively judge ourselves, further leading to avoiding that judgment, and eventually starting the internal self-destruction, if the negative downward spiral is left unc...

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Befriend your insecurities

You can befriend your demons, by facing them and objectively understanding the insecurity.

You will get insights about your demon and will begin to realize your various traits and the side ef...

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The other side of the coin

If you choose to value something in your life, you are also choosing the other side of the coin, which is the failure of that value, automatically.

No one can just choose to take the good whi...

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Internal insecurities

Having demons or internal insecurities is not something exclusive, but is, in fact, a common reality among human beings. 

Everyone faces their demons, and it helps us to understand and l...

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The shadow metaphor

The shadow metaphor

Carl Jung defined shadow as all of the parts of ourselves that we despise or loathe and therefore hide and avoid. It is impossible to run away or lose your shadow because ultimately, your sh...

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Get to the root of the problem by putting a face on that demon. Identify the real problem that is holding you back.

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