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How to Recover From a Breakup the Healthy Way
The pain can be excruciating and debilitating. Our human instinct is to run from it, move on, distract ourselves from feeling the tsunami of emotions that consume our hearts and destroy the landscape of the daily lives we once knew. How do I know? I've done it over and over again.

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Go home

The first step in recovery is to go home. We all have a home, whether in our friendships or in our family. ...

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Spend time with your friends

Friendships (if you are lucky enough to find the right friends) are unconditional, reciprocal and capable of nouri...

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Grief does you, you don’t do grief

Grief is like a squall in the middle of the ocean. It comes without warning and despite how hard you try to avoid ...

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Jumping into a new relationship

Someone who holds onto the branch of one relationship and immediately swings to grab hold of the branch of a new r...

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Reboot your nervous system

The person we choose to be with becomes ingrained in our nervous system over time. The only way to get them out is...

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Learning from the past

Every relationship teaches us something. Even a toxic, abusive relationship has a curriculum we can learn from.

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Plan something to look forward to

Having something on the horizon to plan for, get excited about and anticipate, propels us forward. It is vital to ...

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Settle for the perfect fit

Life is holding you accountable for all of your decisions because you know better now. 

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