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How To Turn Awkwardness Into Confidence
Check Out Charisma University: https://bit.ly/2XcFYEf Subscribe to Charisma On Command's YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Like it or not we have all been awkward at different points in our lives. Sometimes that awkwardness gets in the way of connecting with other people or even feeling confident in ourselves.

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Turn awkwardness into confidence

  1. Adjust your body language.
  2. Learn to handle friendly teasing.
  3. Tell your own embarrassing stories.
  4. Let go of managing people's opinio...

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Body language plays a big role

By simply adjusting your body language, you can improve both how you see yourself (thus, improving your self-confidence) and how other people see you.

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The '3-second rule' of eye contact

Give everyone in your audience at least 3 seconds of continuous eye contact before moving to the next person. This is usually enough to make people feel included i...

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Show your palms

... and gesticulate while you're speaking.

Hiding your hands and palms usually signals to your audience that you are hiding somethi...

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Commit to what you are expressing

Embrace the awkward moment fully.  By doing this, you show true confidence.

The fear of looking ridiculous and being judged by others freezes your emo...

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Handling friendly teasing

  • Take up more space: this signals that you are not afraid to take control on a physical level and it shows increased confidence.
  • Laugh with the grou...

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Tell your own embarrassing stories

  • Show confident body language, especially if the story is self-deprecating.
  • Use high impact words, packed with emotions, to ...

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People's perceptions of you

99% of all awkward situations are mare worse because you are trying to be perceived in a certain way by the others.

Stop managing people's opinions of you....

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Raising Your Voice

When the conversation gets heated, we tend to raise our voices and talk faster. This is a dangerous path because now the ability of both sides to change their minds is close to zero. We dig even deeper into our initial positions and beliefs and no matter how good an argument is, it is not going to be received by the other side.

You can sense this happening when people rush to talk over one another.

Releasing Tension

  • Slowing things down: take a deep breath before speaking, to create a pause, to reduce the tension and to open up the other person to your position.
  • Inflections: upward inflections are good for de-escalating conflict because they show you are not there to control and command.
  • The ability to crack a joke and the ability to take a joke and laugh make you more persuasive, give the impression of being on the same side and release the tension.

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