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Win Arguments

... without making enemies:
  • Make sure you communicate you are not there to fight (using your tone of voice, for example).
  • Avoid making stateme...

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Raising Your Voice

When the conversation gets heated, we tend to raise our voices and talk faster. This is a dangerous path because now the ability of both sides to change their mind...

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Releasing Tension

  • Slowing things down: take a deep breath before speaking, to create a pause, to reduce the tension and to open up the other person to your position.

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Asking Questions

When having arguments, avoid making statements and use questions instead. These tend to come across as less confrontational. Examples of qu...

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The Socratic Method

When you're in the middle of an argument, frame your disagreements in the form of questions.

This gives the other person a chance to respond without feelin...

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Defending Yourself

Use the " Yes, but..." technique: find agreement and follow your agreement up by showing when you disagree.

Finding any form of agreement is crucial...

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The Right Mindset

  • In every argument, you are not necessarily right.
  • Adjusting your beliefs in the face of evidence does not diminish you.

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