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'I Have Everything, But I'm Still Sad and Angry'
Dear Polly, I love how you can take people's problems and strip away the layers to reveal the raw human emotions and desires underneath. Compared to some of the heartbreaking submissions you get, I know I really can't complain about my life. But that's why I'm asking for your help.

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Having 'everything'

We think once we have a fulfilling job, we'll be happy, or once we have a loving partner or children, we'll never feel dissatisfied again.

Yet, when we have all these things, we still feel ne...

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Hiding from yourself

Pretending you’re normal and trying to fit in with the innocents in your midst keeps you sad and negative.

Don't stigmatize your dissatisfaction or restlessness. Don't scold yourself for y...

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Converse with your negative self

Try inviting your sad and negative self to find out why you feel this way. You won’t know what you truly want until you listen patiently to yourself. If you give it time, you'll find out wha...

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Make some room for yourself

A wrong view of yourself can sometimes cloud your understanding of who you are. Thinking you are not enough, you’re doing it wrong, you're making a mess, will make you feel misunderstood and uni...

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You make messiness and procrastination part of your identity when you don't want to do something you have to do and use the excuse that it is just "who you are." 

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Conflicted about your choices

As long as you're conflicted about your preferences and the ways you've chosen to identify yourself, you have a problem.

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Helen Keller
“People don’t like to think, if one thinks, one must reach conclusions. Conclusions are not always pleasant.”

Helen Keller

Think big, act small

Never let anything hold you back when you think of ideas.

You’ve got nothing to lose. Just make sure you act small. Put in the work and stay practical.

Problems are unanswered questions

Every time you experience stress over a problem, you’re basically sabotaging your life.

A problem is nothing but an unanswered question. So stay calm. And figure out the answer.

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