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Is there any truth to Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People"? - Barking Up The Wrong Tree

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Is there any truth to Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People"? - Barking Up The Wrong Tree
Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People is the classic on getting along well with others. But is there any real science behind it, or is it just advice that "sounds good"? In the past I've broken down old sayings and career advice, let's see if Carnegie holds up to scrutiny.

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Dale Carnegie’s advice to make people like you

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile.
  3. Remember names. 
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in terms of the ot...

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Actively showing interest in other people

When people speak, the best responses are both active and constructiveengaged, enthusiastic, curious and has supportive nonverbal action. Ask questions. Be excited. Ask for details...

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Smiling does make you more attractive

And by smiling we influence others to smile. People judge things more positively while smiling, so our own smile can set off a chain reaction causing more positive encounters.

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Remembering a person's name

Research shows people are more likely to comply with your requests if you remember their name.

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Being a good listener

Encourage others to talk about themselves.

Self-disclosure is extra rewarding, neuroscience research shows. People are even willing to forgo money in order to talk about themselves.

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Talk in terms of the other person’s interest

Obviously, we’re all interested in talking about what interests us — and this engagement promotes liking

For example, when women were more engaged in a conversation on a first d...

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Make the other person feel important

People like to feel important and powerful. Feeling like we’re in control reduces stress.

Money doesn’t increase happiness much, but feeling powerful does. Most people would rather be ...

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Techniques in Handling People

  • Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
  • Give honest and sincere appreciation.
  • Arouse in the other person an eager want.
  • 6 ways to make people like you

    1. Become sincerely interested in other people.
    2. Smile.
    3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
    4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
    5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
    6. Make the other person feel important.

    Win people to your way of thinking

    • The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
    • Never say, “You’re wrong.” Respect the other person’s opinions.
    • If you are wrong, admit it.
    • Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
    • Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
    • Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
    • Try to see things from the other person’s point of view.
    • Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
    • Appeal to the nobler motives.
    • Dramatize your ideas.
    • Throw down a challenge.

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    Dale Carnegie

    “When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatur..."

    Dale Carnegie

    Handling People

    • Don’t criticize, condemn or complain. People learn faster and retain knowledge more effectively when rewarded for good behavior than punished for bad behavior.
    • Give honest and sincere appreciation. The only way to get a person to do anything is by giving them what they want.
    • Arouse in the other person an eager want. The only way to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.

    Appreciation and flattery

    • Flattery is selfish and insincere. It’s cheap praise. You tell the other person precisely what he thinks about himself.
    • Appreciation is unselfish and sincere. It happens when we stop thinking about ourselves and begin to think of the other person’s good points.

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    Looking Friendly

    • Smile. It is even more important than you think. It's a great way to create trust. We judge people to be more pleasant when we are smiling.
    • Expand. Body movements th...

    Being More Influential

    The best body language for influence depends on your goal. Make sure your body language matches your words to make you more effective.

    • If you want to increase the attractiveness of an offer, think sales-y. Use animated movements. Lean forward. Move and speak quickly.
    • If you want to reduce resistance to what you're saying, think calm and authoritative. Specific gestures. Lean back. Move and speak slowly. 

    Looking Like A Leader

    It is important to balance the appearance of authority and warmth.

    • You show authority and power by your upright posture, your command of physical space, purposeful stride, a firm handshake, and palm-down gestures.
    • You communicate warmth nonverbally with open body postures, palm-up hand gestures, full-frontal body orientation, positive eye contact, synchronized movements, nods, head tilts, and smiles.

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