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Just One Thing: Find Common Ground
One of the most important practices you can do this year is to "us" all "thems." By "us" all "thems," I mean finding common ground with every person- especially those you fear or are angry with or who are simply very different from you. These days, this practice is more important than ever.

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Being 'Themmed'

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Us and Them Are The Same

We need to stop creating mental divides and see the people around us as our common humanity.

  • We all feel pain and suffering.
  • We all die eventually.
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Fear Is Real

Fear is everywhere and yet fear can be overcome, controlled and can even be a power for good.

Accept your fear relative to you.

Get Some Perspective

  • Are you really at risk?
  • Will this kill you?
  • If the worse was to happen what would it be?
  • Could that really happen?

  • If the worse did happen, how would you recover?
  • If the worse were to happen, what would you need to do next?

By seeing fear as not the end destination but part of being human, you can see through its wily evil ways and move forward.

Hold a Hand

Think of someone you can always rely on, be it your friend, partner, colleague, parent, sibling and say: “Right I need to deal with this, and I’m going to need you to help me.” 

They, in turn, will feel valued, loved and respected.

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