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Living With a Victim Complex
In clinical psychology, a "victim complex" or "victim mentality" describes a personality trait of persons who believe they are constantly the victims of the harmful actions of others, even when made aware of evidence to the contrary. Most people go through normal periods of simple self-pity-as part of the grieving process, for example.

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The Martyr Complex

Individuals who show signs of the Martyr Complex often act in a way that attracts misery. It is actually believed that they do this on purpose, in order to avoid personal responsibility o...

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Recognizing the "Victim"

Recognizing the "Victim"

A Victim Complex sufferer is a person who has difficulties when dealing with trauma, in any shape that this can take

Among the most common traits, we can often find the refus...

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Suffering from the Victim Complex

Persons who suffer from the Victim Complex tend to manipulate their partners, in order to hide their own lack of responsibility and maturity. 

Therefore, it is very often that the...

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Saving yourself from the Victim Complex

When dealing with the Victim Complex, most of the individuals tend to search for the solution in their partner. However, when not properly handled, actions taken by people who believe themselves as...

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Primary factors that make horror films alluring

  • Tension - Generated by suspense, mystery, terror, shock and gore.
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Viewing motivators for horror movies

  • Gore watchers typically have low empathy, high sensation seeking, and a strong identification with the killer.
  • Thrill watchers typically have both high empathy and sensation seeking;they identify themselves more with the victims and like the suspense of the film.
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Theories on why we love to watch horror films

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