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Overcoming a Fear of Vulnerability and Love Your Imperfections
The fear of vulnerability is arguably one of the most common fears of all. Through my clinical experience, here are some of the ways that I have come to understand this central emotional challenge. As small children, we are open and free, sharing all of ourselves with others.

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From Openness to Closing Yourself Off

From a young age, we learn that not everyone is on our side, and not all situations are going to go our way. 

Over time, we build walls around our hearts to pro...

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Protecting Yourself with Destructive Behavior

Building walls create a safe space into which you can quickly retreat, but it also leaves you trapped behind your own emotional defenses, unable to give or receive positive emotions as well ...

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From Protecting to Forgiving Yourself

The fear of vulnerability is ultimately a fear of rejection or abandonment. To combat it, you must first learn to love and accept yourself with all your flaws, embarrassing stories, past...

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Embracing Imperfection

We understand that people that we admire are imperfect, but don't find their flaws unforgivable. Yet, when it comes to ourselves, we beat ourselves up for our own imperfections.

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How to Love Yourself

  • Acknowledge yourself as a whole human being, flaws, imperfections and all. 
  • Own and embrace your past mistakes.

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