The Art of True Confidence

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The Art of True Confidence
Confidence is one of those game-changing qualities-like rapport, empathy and courage-that is both incredibly valuable and highly elusive. As soon as we "try" to be confident, we've already failed. As soon as we "act" more confident, we're already pretending. Telling someone to "be more confident" is like telling someone to be taller.


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What Confidence Is

True confidence is a feeling of self-assurance that is grounded in an authentic experience of our own ability, perspective and sufficiency.

It’s a stable connection to the fact that we...

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Why Confidence Matters

  • Confidence is an amplifier of quality and success. 
  • Confidence is essential to influence and leadership.
  • Confidence isn’t just about style. It’s also about substance.
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Nonverbal communication

Confidence is expressed most profoundly through our bodies. No matter how well we speak, the way we feel about ourselves will always manifest in our posture, our hand movements and our facia...

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Vocal tonality

Vocal tonality (the physical quality of our voice, our pitch, articulation, syntax, volume and intention) expresses and reinforces our sense of self.

Speak in statements, not questions, artic...

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Authentic vulnerability

Authenticity transforms normal insecurity into grounded confidence. 

While faked confidence hides insecurity, weakness and self-doubt, true authenticity owns and acknowledges t...


A process-oriented mindset

Process-oriented confidence is the opposite of the “fake it till you make it” philosophy.

While the “fake it till you make it” approach suggests we should pretend our way toward tru...



The Money We Need

We don't really need massive amounts of money to live a happy life.

A good level of freedom and self-confidence can be attained by a relatively small figure of money.

We can take the mi...

Confidence and Freedom

Many 'high-achieving' people lack flexibility, freedom, and confidence to change things in their life when they want. This is due to the build-in traps and insecurity of living a high achievers life.

A life full of complexity and self-protection lacks confidence and independence.

What Confidence Means

  • It means not equating money with happiness, being self-assured, to understand that you cannot change the world but your response to everything you experience determines your happiness.
  • It means being in control of your lifestyle, to be able to learn new skills, to understand that you can be anywhere, live anywhere, work and make friends anywhere.
  • It is a self-assurance that your kids will be just fine, and the real goal of your life is not to earn money but to attain happiness.

Confidence means believing that you have the personal power to get things done and that your true goal is to live happily.

    Confidence comes from within

    Much of the confidence we crave is based on how we want others to see us.

    Confidence comes from within. It’s not just about owning the stage and giving a knockout performance but putting...

    True confidence

    True confidence in yourself doesn’t come only from the knowledge you already possess, but a willingness to learn more.

    There’s no shame in admitting you don't know something; you’re showing just how confident you can be. Ask questions, be curious about the world around you.

    The confident man is calm

    A truly confident man won’t get aggressive or arrogant, because those traits suggest someone is losing control.  He knows keeping cool and talking in a calm, measured way is the quickest way to get respect.

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    The first impression

    The first impression

    First impressions are like invisible tattoos we imagine for each and every person we meet. While it is possible to change a first impression, it is very difficult to succeed doing this.

    Tips to make a good first impression

    In order to make a good first impression, you should consider checking out the below tips:

    • suitable eye contact: it is a sign of self-confidence. However, do not exaggerate with the duration
    • handshake: a good handshake is at the same time firm, warm and dry
    • the proper voice: your voice should make proof of self-confidence as well
    • dress similarly to the other person: this way, you will give the impression of familiarity and equal terms
    • appreciate cleanliness: your face and your home should always be sparkling clean
    • find the appropriate posture: relaxed and open postures are preferred to make a good impression.