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The Biggest Wastes of Time We Regret When We Get Older
We spend a lot of energy looking for shortcuts to save time, and sure, those shortcuts add up. But when I look back, my biggest time regrets aren't spending too much time on Twitter or mismanaging my daily tasks. Those are bad habits, but there are bigger, more systematic time wasters that have really gotten in the way.

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Not Asking for Help

There are a handful of reasons we don’t ask for help, but it’s usually because we’re too proud or scared, and that’s a huge waste of time, because it keeps you from moving forward.

If you fe...

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Trying to Make Bad Relationships Work

Reasons people usually use:

  • Thinking you have more in common with the person you're dating than you actually do;
  • Being in a relationship just to avoid loneliness;
  • Staying...

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Dwelling on Your Mistakes

Learning from your mistakes is one thing. Dwelling on them wastes your time, diminishes your confidence, and keeps you from getting on with your life.

Dwelling makes you feel like a failure....

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Worrying Too Much About Other People

It’s easy to waste time worrying about other people, too. Your friends and loved ones mean a lot to you, and you want to spend time nurturing them. 

But we also spend a lot of time frett...

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