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The First Steps Toward Creating a Life You Love
"My goal is to build a life I don't need a vacation from." ~Rob Hill Sr. The other day I had an interesting conversation with a friend, who asked me the question "Who is the happiest person you know?" Ask yourself this question now. It's difficult to answer, isn't it?

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“My goal is to build a life I don’t need a vacation from.”

Rob Hill Sr.

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Be authentic

Make choices leading to the life you want to create for yourself. Don't let your past hold you back. 

Your life might not seem to be the best fit for someone else, but it should a life y...

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How to create an authentic life

How to create an authentic life

Start where you are right now. 

  • Align your life with your own core values - those things that are most important to you personally. Regular meditation will help you disc...

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