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The foolproof way to fix a broken heart, according to a psychologist
A broken heart can feel like the end of the world, especially if you didn't expect it - and moving on can feel impossible. But it is possible - and one psychologist has identified the foolproof ways to fix a broken heart.

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Your brain can't admit it's over

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Social media stalking your ex

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When everything makes you cry

The emotional pain of a breakup often results in your body pumping itself full of cortisol, which suppresses the immune system and affects coping mechanisms.

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When you blame yourself

While it is normal to wonder, “What did I do wrong?” giving in to negative thoughts can sabotage our efforts at mending our broken hearts.

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You still believe he was “the one”

Looking back on a relationship in hindsight, it is easy for our minds to trick us into remembering the relationship as much better than it really was.

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Withdrawing from the places

... where memories of happier times still linger may sound appealing, but it can only make the heartbreak worse in the long run.

Rather, we need to “cleanse” our associations with these place...

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Your self-identity is off

In order to move on, we need to reconnect to who we were before the relationship.

Do not let your heartbreak define you. Remember the things you love, and do them. And if they were...

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Get back on the dating horse

The variable that has been found to predict healthier and quicker adjustment to heartbreak is finding a new partner.

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  • Visual reminders are likely to create dopamine surges in your brain that relate to feelings of craving and withdrawal.
  • Replace those surges of dopamine by taking a fitness class. Exercise can also release endorphins that trigger positive feelings.
  • Find a "new normal".
  • Accept the reason for the breakup.

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Become Anti-Social (Media)

Nothing good can come from looking at your ex’s Instagram stories or Facebook timeline. When it comes to social media, just say no.

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The Protest Phase

When people experience breakups they go through the ‘protest’ phase initially, and the rejected lover becomes obsessed with winning back the person who has quit the relationship.

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Chemical Reactions

The rejected lover experiences high levels of dopamine and norepinephrine in the brain, and are visibly stressed out. These chemical reactions trigger many to do crazy things to win their ex back. Such feelings are erased quickly if the lover starts dating a new partner.

Some people also feel increasingly passionate and loving after the breakup and are more likely to forgive their ex.

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