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https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/01/friendship-crucial-adolescent-brain/605638/

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The Outsize Influence of Your Middle-School Friends
The intensity of feelings generated by friendship in childhood and adolescence is by design. Early in 2010, the year we moved to Hong Kong, our three boys were 11, eight, and six. When we sat them down to tell them we'd be moving there for a few years, we tried to sell it as a challenging adventure.

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Vulnerable Time for Kids

A child's pre-teen and teen years are a high-emotion transitory period. This is due to shifting classmates, social pressure, multiple classrooms and a period of many 'firsts'.

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Deep Friendships

A study on sixth-graders revealed that friendship is crucial and real for kids, and can be as deep as a parental relationship.

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