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https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2019/11/why-endings-are-hard/598339/

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The Science of Getting Over It
Endings can be healthy, even when we fear them.

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A Brush With Death

People who survive major accidents or have a life-changing near-death experience are more likely to live in the present moment and be more appreciative of life. They have a deep sense of spiritual ...

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Dealing With Endings

Dealing With Endings

No matter how endless something seems, nothing lasts forever, and we have to handle the inevitable end. *This may be a healthy thing and not something to fear.

Deadlines have a...

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Coping Mechanisms for Different Endings

People navigate the ‘ending’ of something using different coping mechanisms.

  • Some use detachment, when they distance themselves emotionally from something or someone they are abo...

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How Thinking About Death Changes Us

First-hand exposure to death makes one live life in a spiritual, reflective manner.

  • Terminally ill patients who write their last words are more often than not filled with positiv...

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Change is inevitable

If a change is well planned, it can produce positive results. However, without planning, change can be hard to accept and appreciate.

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After the model was widely accepted, it was found to be valid in a majority of cases and situations related to change.

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The Kubler-Ross Change Curve is also true when it comes to business, work, or employment.  

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Deep nostalgia fosters a sense of serene melancholy and spiritual longing.

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The deepest form of suffering is a feeling of extreme dissatisfaction about the impermanence and the insubstantiality of everything around us.

Buddhism mentions suffering as inevitable as long as there is desire, lust and a sense of coveting/craving in our lives. Once we grasp this fully, we stop craving and struggling in hope and fear.

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The Colours Of Fear

Fear has the tendency to divide and isolate us, to shrink us to a tiny version of ourselves. Other negative emotions like jealousy, resentment, anger, bitterness and self-pity also have their roots in fear.

Some fear is good, like staying away from things or activities that can endanger us, but most fear is psychological and a false shadow inside our heads.

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The waning of ability in people of high accomplishment is particularly difficult psychologically. Retired athletes struggle profoundly after their sports career ends. They are prone to depression, addiction, or suicide.

"Unhappy is he who depends on success to be happy. For such a person, the end of a successful career is the end of the line. His destiny is to die of bitterness or to search for more success in other careers and to go on living from success to success until he falls dead. In this case, there will not be life after success."

"Unhappy is he who depends on success to be happy. For such a person, the end of a successful career is the end of the line. His destiny is to die of bitterness or to search for more success in other careers and to go on living from success to success until he falls dead. In this case, there will not be life after success."

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The imposter

True mindfulness has been spoiled by an imposter. The imitation provides an excuse to be self-centered and self-indulgent. It promises health and spiritual purity.

Definition of mindfulness

Mindfulness is the nonjudgemental awareness of the richness, subtlety and variety of the present moment, not just of the self. It is not the same as meditation, although meditation can form part of it.

Mindfulness acknowledges every moment of existence, good and bad. It is used to stand still in the moment, reflect and gain perspective.

Mindfulness is a limited tool

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