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The Science of Staying in Love - Mindful
We all hope to find a healthy, engaging relationship with a special someone-but the truth is, a long-term partner is a lot harder to find (and keep) than they make it look in the movies. So what gives? It turns out, "falling in love" and "building a relationship" activate completely different parts of the brain, and they don't always work together well.

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The Benefits Of Sex

Schedule it if necessary. Having sex regularly helps with keeping a relationship from going stale and drives up the testosterone system, which makes you want to have more sex.

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Avoiding Routine

Trying new things will keep the relationship from coasting into routine. this drives up the dopamine system and can sustain feelings of romantic love.

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The Benefits Of Touch

Touch is proven to foster connection, it drives up the oxytocin system and can give you feelings of deep attachment to your partner. 

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