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The single biggest trait that contributes to your growth.
Let's not beat around the bush, if you are here just to see the trait, let's get you in and out. But I would encourage you to read on and really understand how it contributes to growth. We are often...

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The starting point

We are often excited at the idea of learning something new. We are excellent at identifying new skills and can visualize how they may change our life. 

But, we tend to overlook where we ...

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Pride stunts our growth

True humility allows you to plot Point A and accept that risk and failure are part of moving to Point B.

  • On the other hand, pride allows us to say we are beginners, but not to accept the...

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Humility and growth

Humility brings growth. Pride is good at trying to convince us that we are not prideful.

Approach learning and growth with real humility. Accept that pride affects us all and will try to limi...

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Dale Carnegie

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Handling People

  • Don’t criticize, condemn or complain. People learn faster and retain knowledge more effectively when rewarded for good behavior than punished for bad behavior.
  • Give honest and sincere appreciation. The only way to get a person to do anything is by giving them what they want.
  • Arouse in the other person an eager want. The only way to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.

Appreciation and flattery

  • Flattery is selfish and insincere. It’s cheap praise. You tell the other person precisely what he thinks about himself.
  • Appreciation is unselfish and sincere. It happens when we stop thinking about ourselves and begin to think of the other person’s good points.

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The Way We See The World

Each of us looks at things differently, and it's largely based on our thinking patterns, education levels, inherent bias, self-identity, and real, first-hand experiences.

Higher Mind Vs Primitive Mind

Human beings tend to have two kinds of conflicting mindsets:

  • The Higher Mind, the conscious truth-seeking mind, has made human beings an advanced civilization.
  • The Primitive Mind is our hardwired, thousands-of-years-old survivalist part, the one that's still stuck in the dark ages.

The Psych Spectrum

Our Higher Mind and the Primitive Mind always have a tug-of-war like conflict. The degree of the conflict can be placed in a spectrum, which is called a Psych Spectrum.

If the Higher mind is in control, we are placed higher in the Psych Spectrum and have the Primitive Mind under check. If we are placed at a lower degree in the Psych Spectrum, then the Primitive Mind is under control.

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Diffusing difficult situations

Diffusing difficult situations
  • Avoiding challenging conversations allows room for assumptions and continuing negative behavior.
  • Meet with the person to understand their concerns.
  • Listen

Your attitude is crucial

Regardless of whether you are right or wrong, your attitude will determine the outcome of any contentious experience. It’s incredibly important to have a peaceful state of mind before entering into a potential conflict situation.

Choose your words wisely

  • Stay away from starting sentences with “you." 
  • Hear the other person out first. Don’t apologize, but acknowledge that there is a problem. 
  • Ask questions for clarity, and be sure that you understand all the facts before you proceed with a resolution. 
  • If you need to clear the  a false accusation, do so concisely. You can say, “I would like to present information that may clear up this matter.”