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This Is How To Overcome Anger: 5 Powerful Secrets From Mindfulness
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Mindfulness

It involves paying attention to something while letting go of judgments and assumptions. Don’t try to change it. Instead, be open to the experience, regardless of whether you like or...

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Knowing what triggers your anger

Usually we don’t even realize we’re angry until furniture is being broken. But if you know the circumstances that trigger your anger, you can avoid them or prepare yourself.

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Emotions are made up of 3 components:

  • physical (the way your body responds when you experience an emotion),.
  • cognitive (the thoughts that go along with the emotion).
  • behavioral (the things you ...

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Overcome anger with mindfulness:

  • Study your anger: It’s hard to prevent something if you don’t know what causes it. 
  • Avoid triggers: Now that you know what causes your anger,

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Mindfulness does the opposite by making you aware of your state of anxiousness.

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The Impostor Syndrome

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  • The impostor syndrome is like a nagging feeling that our success might be due to luck, good timing, or even a computer error.
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