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What Are You Working Towards? Because You Better Know
There is a French saying popular with revolutionaries: On s’engage et puis on voit. “One jumps into the fray and…

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Purpose, not passion

Purpose, not passion

There is a famous saying that translates: "One jumps into the fray and then figures it out."

Usually, some version of this strategy is that people don't take ...

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The alternative to a passion-driven mindset

The passion-driven mindset can be contrasted with an alternative: a poise-like discipline and a sense of purpose.

The key is to know what you're actually working to...

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Working aimlessly

Few people take the time to find out what is possible or have the courage to probe themselves. It's unpleasant, and they'd instead figure it out as they go.

  • They network but ...

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Ask the big questions

You have to take the time to ask the big questions:

  • What is your big goal?
  • Why is it your goal?
  • How will you get there?
  • Why do you think it is the path ...

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The dilemma of personal worth

Late bloomers don't realize they're good at something until they're about fifty. It's not that they start late; It's that they simply aren't much good until late in their careers.

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Early and late bloomers

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The Goal Gradient Hypothesis

The Goal Gradient Hypothesis

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The "Buy Ten Get One Free" Line

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Offering Free Bonus Points

Studies show that if a person is offered a bonus reward or push, he or she is more likely to complete the goal as he has been provided with a further incentive and help to reach a stage where his reward is within his sights.

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Helping a loved one

Helping a loved one

Many people try to help a loved one make significant life changes but fail. They may try to help a spouse quit smoking or get a roommate out of an abusive relationship. They may feel that if they d...

Different forms of enabling behavior

Enabling may accidentally happen when you are trying to help, but after an extended period, you realise that you are really helping.

  • Cleaning up after someone is one form of enabling behavior and includes any way of protecting the person from the negative consequences of their own behavior.
  • A partner lies to his in-laws about his wife's drug problem to protect her from embarrassment.
  • A sibling pays his brother's rent because he regularly loses his money to gambling.

It might be okay if it happened once, but if these "rescues" happen repeatedly, they don't get to learn from the cause-and-effect pattern of their behaviors.

Giving someone non-specific help

  • Our loved ones often come to us in a moment of crisis. They're losing their job or need to pay someone back. We sometimes feel we have to give money or bail them out in some form. But after a time or two, you become the consistent rescuer while they continue in their unaccountable ways.
  • Boundaries can be used to stop the cycle, but not letting those boundaries slip is hard. If you put your foot down on not loaning money, don't give in. The person you're trying to help will ultimately feel more secure if they know you keep your word. You're also a good role model for consistent behavior.

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