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Why Strong Chemistry Doesn't Always Lead to a Strong Relationship - Tiny Buddha
"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed." ~C.G. Jung Everyone says it. They say chemistry is a must. I know I say it. But why do we say this?

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