“The most successful people, in work and in life, are those who have what psychologists call an ‘internal locus of control,’ the belief that their actions have a direct effect on their outcomes.”
By tackling one small challenge at a time—a narrow circle that slowly expands outward—we can relearn that our actions do have a direct effect on our outcomes, that we are largely the masters of our own fates.
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If you want to create a new habit, you have to make it easy to integrate by decreasing the activation energy for the habits you want to implement. In a nutshell: the less time it takes to get done (ideally 20 seconds or less), the more likely you’re going to do it!
The 20-second rule teaches us how to replace bad habits with good ones to create happiness in our life.
"The most successful people often see adversity not as a stumbling block, but as a stepping stone to greatness."
We think the happiness equation looks like this
Work Hard -> Success -> Happiness
But in reality:
Happiness + Positive Mindset -> Success
'Waiting to be happy limits our brain potential for success, whereas cultivating positive positive brains makes us more motivated, efficient, resilient, creative & productive which drives performance upward. '
"Give me a lever long enough and a fulcrum on which to place it, and I shall move the world." --Archimedes
The fulcrum is actually our mindset and the lever is the power or potential. This principle teaches us how to adjust our way of thinking in such a way that it offers us the power to be more fulfilled and successful.
We just need to get a long lever (the power) and a fulcrum (mindset) to place (at the right position), then everything is possible!
“When over a thousand highly successful professional men and women were interviewed as they approached retirement and asked what had motivated them the most, throughout their careers, overwhelmingly they placed work friendships above both financial gain and individual status.”
The more social support you have, the happier you are.
“The most successful people invest in their friends, peers, and family members to propel themselves forward.”
"Happiness is not all about yellow smiley faces and rainbows. For me, happiness is the joy we feel after striving our potential."
Just like the game of Tetris you can think that every block that is falling making your position better or worse than before. If you consider it to be 'Better' then it's The Positive Tetris Effect.
In life, if you go along with the 'Positive Tetris' mindset i.e, everything that is happening to you is making you better than before, then you will see more opportunities and become happier and the inverse is also true (The Negative Tetris Effect)
“Happiness is not the belief that we don't need to change; it is the realization that we can.”
"Happiness is not the other side of success. Success does not create happiness. Happiness creates Success."
There are 3 types of reaction when we face failure -(1) No change, (2) More bad things happening - Worse than before and -
(3) Falling Up: Accepting the failure, learning from the mistakes, the failure makes us stronger.
Falling Up is the way to respond to any failure which will make us stronger and happier in the long run.
Most people think that if they simply work harder, then they'll be more successful. And if they're more successful, then they'll also be happier.
The problem is that this logic is scientifically broken and backward.
Happiness and satisfaction are subjective concepts – while for some of us monetary benefits can be equated with job satisfaction, some might strive for recognition of their hard-work and lose motivation on failing to achieve so.
No matter what the standards are, being content with our careers is crucial for maintaining the ‘work-life’ balance.
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