deepstash

Beta

deepstash

Beta

Vanilla Eyes

@iceicegrama

f-confidence without competence is of as little use as is competence without self-confide

Bernice Milburn Moore

1.33k SAVES

1.55k READS

IDEA EXTRACTED FROM:

How To Build The Self-Confidence You Need To Win At Life - Darius Foroux

dariusforoux.com

TOPICS IN THIS IDEA

Self Improvement

These instant confidence boosters can help you overcome your nerves

Maybe you're getting ready to give a big speech or presentation. Or perhaps you're prepping to interview for your dream job or an important stretch project. Then, it happens. You can feel your breath leave your body. The nerves take over. You feel like the poster child for imposter syndrome.

fastcompany.com

Trick your brain into calm

Become aware of your safety and breathing. Your fight or flight response may be in overdrive.
Take note of five things you can see, four things you can hear, three ...

Using affirmations

Remind yourself how awesome you are with affirmations. Write down affirmations that remind you of your capabilities and strengths and keep them somewhere you can find them if nerves strike.

Another suggestion is to keep a file of praise, awards, and other evidence of how good you are at your job an read them when you are struggling with a confidence crisis.

Get clear about your feelings

Take a moment to really analyze what you’re feeling and strategize for that.

Can you reframe negative feelings, like fear, into something more positive, like anticipation? If not, remind yourself that it’s perfectly normal to be nervous before a high-stakes situation.

one more idea

Gian Dara

@gianrad

10 Reasons Why You Fail

It goes without saying, we all fuck up big time. That's obvious. Of course, some of us are better at it than others, but that's kind of obvious too. And then there are those who string along coulda-shoulda moments throughout their life like the toilet paper I used to string up along my neighbor's house as a kid - a failure so consistent, it borders on art.

markmanson.net

Bad behaviors cascade

That reticence to ever ask someone out on a date probably plays out in your failure to move to a new city, to take that new job or the timidity around your co-workers.

Standing out of the crowd

People don’t like it when someone changes or does something that makes them feel awkward or insecure. They will think he’s crazy, selfish, arrogant. If you want to do something incredible, you have to become comfortable with being different from the rest.

Nothing worth having comes easy

As cliche as that sounds. Most of us give up on something we’re passionate about too soon. But anyone who’s been successful has a tale of struggle and perseverance to share.

8 more ideas

Kevia Taylor

@keviataylor

Are You Living a Life of Endless Excuses? Here's How to Stop!

He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else. - Benjamin Franklin Do you ever catch yourself making excuses when things don't entirely go your way? Have you ever neglected taking responsibility for the events and circumstances of your life?

blog.iqmatrix.com

Defining excuses

Excuses are rationalizations we make to ourselves about people, events, and circumstances.

They are invented reasons we create to defend our behavior, to postpone taking action or simpl...

The Fear Trap

We make excuses for the following key reasons:

Fear of Failure
Fear of Embarrassment
Fear of Success
Fear of Change
Fear of Uncertainty
Fear of Responsibility
Fear of Making Mistakes
Perceived lack of confidence or resources

To successfully eliminate excuses we must first consider removing all traces of fear. Fear paralyzes us and prevents forward movement in all areas of our lives.

'There’s just not enough time'

This excuse means a lack of desire, focus, discipline, and direction.
It suggests the wrong priorities or time management problems. It could also indicate laziness or procrastination.

10 more ideas

deepstash

helps you become inspired, wiser and productive, through bite-sized ideas from the best articles, books and videos out there.

Over 2M Installs

4.75 App Score

Deepstash is better on the app. Discover new ideas and get inspired daily.