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How To Size Up A Friendship

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This is like having two simple friendships in one; you socialize with this person, and you help each other as well. 

This one you can ask for lifts to the airport, and call during emergencies like car accidents. You don’t rely on your helpmate for emotional support.

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How To Size Up A Friendship

How To Size Up A Friendship

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/how-size-friendship.html

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Understanding friendships

Understand why some friends stay for years, while others fade away after a few months, or weeks. 

If you understand the nature of the friendship you have with a person, you can better predict where it’s heading, and better understand why this friend behaves the way they do.

Simple Friendships

  • Associate:  The relationship revolves around that specific thing, and you barely ever talk about anything else.
  • Useful Contact: With this type of friend, you exchange useful information, job opportunities, industry news, you introduce each other to people, exchange tips on good deals, etc. But, you don’t discuss personal matters with each other.
  • Favor Friend: This the type of friendship you could have with a nice colleague or neighbor. You help each other with the simple stuff.
  • Fun Friend: This is the type of friend that makes you take yourself less seriously. The friendship doesn’t require a lot of investment from you; it’s just about relaxing, having a drink, partying, laughing, etc. 
  • Helpmate

    This is like having two simple friendships in one; you socialize with this person, and you help each other as well. 

    This one you can ask for lifts to the airport, and call during emergencies like car accidents. You don’t rely on your helpmate for emotional support.

    Comforter

    You socialize, help each other, and provide emotional support for each other. 

    This kind of friend is generally present in case of the loss of a family member, a breakup, loss of a job, or similar. You trust each other enough to talk about fears, frustrations, and insecurities; you look to lift each other’s spirit.

    Confidant

    With this kind of friend, you can support each other emotionally, and you also enjoy each other’s company when you meet. He or she doesn’t necessarily live near you. 

    With this friend, you can confide in each other about anything, and not just when something bad happens. You talk about your goals, your secret opinions, but also your general life challenges.

    Soulmate

    With a soulmate, you enjoy each other’s company, you help each other, you provide emotional support, you confide in each other, and you share a similar outlook on life.

    You’re committed to being each other’s friends, even without realizing it. Moving away or not meeting for a year won’t change this friendship that much.

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    The Non-Question-Asking Friend

    No matter what's going on in your life, good or bad, this type of friend will never ask you anything about it. 

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    Not because you dislike each other, but because you have no individual friendship with each other whatsoever.

    This makes alone time very awkward for both of you.

    The Friend Terrified Of Earnest Interaction

    He has tall walls up, at least toward you, and so he builds a little skit for you two to hang out in to make sure any authentic connection can be avoided.

    Sometimes that person only does this out of social anxiety and can actually become a great friend if you manage to break through that wall. 

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    The importance of friends

    Having a weak circle of friends carries the same risk as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.

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    Connecting to people

    Don’t be interesting. Be interested.

    • Listen to people and ask them to tell you more. 
    • When they mention something you have in common, point it out.
    • Be enthusiastic and encouraging.

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