Use the WOOP strategy for achieving goals:
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Everything starts with a wish. But don't transform that into fantasy.
When you fantasize, your brain thinks you’ve actually achieved your goal. So rather than ramping up, motivation dials back.
Be specific about the form your wish should take.
For example: If a "better work-life balance" is your wish, your outcome could be “No work on weekends."
You need to deliberately think about the obstacles that might prevent you from achieving the outcome.
This might also help you realize if your goals are actually realistic and worth pursuing.
The best way to make sure your plan addresses your obstacles is by using the planning strategy called "implementation intentions."
It uses "If-Then” responses to known stumbling blocks: “If ____ happens, then I will _____.”
When you make a positive change in your life, it affects the people around you and ripples out to others.
Productivity systems rarely take emotions into account. And feelings are a fundamental and unavoidable part of why humans do what they do.
We need to think to plan but we need to feel to act.
Sometimes suppression is the only thing you can do to avoid an escalation. And sometimes reappraisal can cause you to tolerate bad situations.
Telling yourself a more compassionate story about what’s going on inside the other person’s head is usually the best way to go.