How To Avoid Toxic People: 5 Simple Secrets That Will Make You Happier - Barking Up The Wrong Tree
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People that cause grief
We all know a few people that cause grief, not merely because they have a bad day but because they have severe problems and are unwilling to change.
We can learn enough to recognize if someone is a "high-conflict person" and avoid them as much as possible.
High-conflict people (HCP)
While these are disorders and these people are suffering, mental health professionals would advise you to keep your distance from them, if at all possible.
Behavior Patterns Of HCP
Everybody has bad days or weeks. To tell if someone is a High Conflict Person, we can look for four traits of behavior.
Nobody is perfect, but if someone has all four traits, they almost certainly are an HCP.
Words To Look For
Each type gives clues if you pay attention:
All three will eventually display the blaming of others, all-or-nothing thinking, victim stories, and a desire to punish.
Emotions To Look For
When you feel extreme emotions with someone you barely know, pay attention.
How you will most likely feel
Method for handling HCPs
If you are in a situation where you cannot avoid a high conflict person, use the 4-step CARS method.
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