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Learn and Improvise

Develop an attitude to learn and improvise, every day. Regular negative feedback tapers our sensitive, reactive nature by making us thick-skinned and takes us on the path to make ourselves better.

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MORE IDEAS FROM Stop Fearing Critical Feedback — Fear Not Getting It Instead

Unless it is completely uncalled for, negative feedback generally has the intention of informing us about our areas of improvement. If feedback isn’t provided, you may not grow and improve. If no one tells you that you are doing something wrong, you will keep doing it wrongly forever.

Providing timely feedback may be a sign that the manager cares and wants you to improve.

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Getting Negative Feedback

... is not the best thing to happen at work. It normally leads to a racing mind, emotional discomfort and increased blood pressure.

We may try to defend ourselves, or brush aside the feedback. We can also be stuck in a loop of negative thoughts.

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  1. Specify exactly whose opinion you are worried about.
  2. Identify the source of your fear.
  3. Don’t get defensive as a reflex action.
  4. Drill through the talk to find the real areas of concern.
  5. Politely disagree with anything you think isn’t right.
  6. Maintain a balanced posture and remain civil.
  7. Think about how you will be able to handle it.
  8. Remember that perceptions and opinions can change.
  9. Check your existing belief patterns.

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One should not be defensive when provided with negative feedback, and understand that it is for our own good.

One needs to act on the feedback by approaching it from a neutral and objective standpoint, not taking it as a personal attack. Instead of reacting, just pause and listen. Reflect on the feedback, giving yourself some time and space to respond with a level head.

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  1. Set up a 1-on-1 meeting with your boss proactively and ask for feedback.
  2. Feel the discomfort and endure it, removing any initial fear or resistance.
  3. Listen to understand, not to blurt out your defence.
  4. Express your gratitude to the person giving the feedback.
  5. Regularly ask for advice with your bosses and peers.

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Negative Feedback
Negative feedback is a more important component of the feedback cycle than positive feedback. 92% of people say in a study that negative feedback improves workplace performance.

To do it right:

  • Check how it will impact the individual
  • Make it guidance or advice
  • Be direct
  • Let it be an area of improvement information
  • Build a culture of trust.

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  • Be direct by avoiding the feedback"sanwich"(which can dilute the message and sounds insincere);
  • Don't let criticism accumulate: schedule weekly check-ins with your team, so feedback becomes part of the regular routine;
  • Don't make it personal: Stick to the facts, and avoid making assumptions;
  • Offer praise, but keep it separate from criticism;
  • If you think the feedback will be difficult to hear, consider giving the person space to process the information.

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3. Be Specific With Your Feedback

The more specific your feedback, the more actionable it is for the one receiving it. Example: Asking for an article on communication is vague while asking for one on public speaking is specific.

An specific feedback that doesn’t target the person is easier to understand and act upon. 

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