To do what you love, you have to have:

• Courage: the shoulds and socially-acceptable activities you merely like, often are the default, and doing what you love automatically makes you a bit weird.
• Discipline: our society is full of addictive behavioral loops that hijack our impulses, without providing meaningful satisfaction.

And it's almost completely in your control.

You can't fully avoid the things you have to do. But you can make adjustments to the things you slightly like or reduce guilt from the things you feel you should do.