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Hamish Joy
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Watch Yourself from a Distance
In an emotionally charged situation, try to imagine watching yourself from a distance. Ask yourself, "what you would think of someone else's behavior is you saw them in the same situation?"
By changing the focus to a third-person view, you can stop some of the immediate reactions and reconsider your behavior.
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