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8 tips to help you become more resilient

Meg Jay

"Resilience is not a trait. It’s not something you’re born with. It’s not something you just have."

Meg Jay

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Don't get swallowed up by your troubles. Don't lose what you still have to what you have lost.

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Resilience: Psychological Facts
  1. Resilience comes automatically to most of us.
  2. It is part of a set of skills and behaviours and not a standalone concept.
  3. Resilience is not an individual trait or quality, but dependent on many contextual factors like one’s upbringing, social factors and health conditions.
  4. It is not a static concept but a flowing, dynamic process based on our life cycle and external conditions.
  5. Resilience does not make a person a superhuman being, and the journey of suffering, misery and pain has to be undertaken.
  6. Positivity is one-sided, and running away from negativity does not build resilience.
How To Be Resilient
  1. Don’t isolate yourself, but connect with others, and nurture your relationships. One can reach out to others, play and have fun by joining online or offline groups, or while going for a morning walk. One need not wait for a pandemic.
  2. Accept what is happening to you(and others) and allow it to exist, while taking affirmative action towards stuff that is in your control.
  3. Don’t avoid discomfort, but move towards it occasionally. It’s not always about comfort and convenience.
  4. Distance yourself from your thoughts by practicing gratitude journaling, or simply writing on paper what is on your mind.
  5. Find growth opportunities in adverse situations by reframing them as a new challenge, something known as Cognitive Reframing.