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The 27-year-old woman who realized the importance of self-care and wants to learn how to practice it, the 33-year-old divorced person who wants to start all over, or the 45-year-old person who wants to find new meaning in their life.

Good Vibes, Good Life is a book about manifesting what you want, living meaningfully, and appreciating the little things. The author explains how to be happy with yourself by embracing what is already there. With this knowledge as a foundation, you can start manifesting right away.

One of the most interesting parts of this book is how our thoughts can change our moods at any time. Vex King encourages us to take care of ourselves physically and spiritually so that we are ready for whatever may come into our lives.

In life, you can choose the way you want your mind to work for you. Let’s imagine, for a moment, that your beliefs are the seeds that take root in your unconscious mind. You either have helpful or unhelpful beliefs, which in turn lead to either a joyful, serene garden or a toxic wasteland.

To successfully change your reality, you need to weed out the bad seeds. In order to do this, you first need to recognize that you have limiting beliefs and then develop an awareness of how these beliefs are impacting your life.

  • Identify the situations that are causing you pain or stress.
  • Figure out what you want for yourself in those situations.
  • Decide how much time and energy you’re willing to put into making them better (or not).

Setting boundaries isn’t just about cutting toxic people out of your life; it’s also about helping yourself grow as an individual. When we allow others to dictate how things go for us, we often end up feeling resentful toward those people, and we don’t get what we want out of life because we’re too busy trying to please them.

Setting boundaries means creating rules for yourself about what behaviors are acceptable and unacceptable in your relationships. This way, if someone steps out of bounds (i.e. acts like a jerk), then they’ll know what they did wrong and how to fix it next time around.

When it comes down to it, setting boundaries isn’t about hurting anyone else—it’s about taking care of yourself first. In the long run, people will respect you more and you’ll get to enjoy quality time by yourself without feeling bad.

The book talks about how we attract what we focus on, whether it’s positive or negative. It also talks about how we need to improve our ways of thinking and doing things, so that we’re more aware of our limiting beliefs and change them for better outcomes.

The Law of Vibration states that your emotions have an effect on your reality. You can’t just manifest something—you need to believe in it and channel those emotions toward your dream. You can’t just wish for something; you have to feel it! This is how you will bring yourself closer to your goals and make them a reality.

  • The law of attraction isn’t enough – you need to master the law of vibration and control your emotions.
  • Boundaries are not rigid – they’re necessary when it comes to your social life.
  • In life, you have to choose to plant good or bad seeds into your subconscious mind.

Good Vibes, Good Life Summary – Book Summary

Good Vibes, Good Life explores ways to unlock your true potential by loving yourself more, practicing self-care, manifesting your wishes, and transforming negative emotions into positive ones using simple tips and tricks for a happy life.

This might sound like a cliche, but a happy life doesn’t necessarily come from more money, more possessions, or a different job. A fulfilling life is about finding what makes you happy and then doing that thing.

This is basically a philosophy on life in which love requires work. If you're putting in effort, then you're doing it right.

When you hit an inevitable rough patch, you say, is this someone with whom I can navigate challenges and make hard decisions? And you invest more into the relationship. You don't give up on it. And this is so important because romanticizers need to understand that relationships are work.

The soulmate mindset is the idea that love is effortless when you find the right person.

Love is something that happens to you, and if it feels like work, then you're with the wrong person. This is what brings unrealistic expectations into a relationship.

Burnout happens when, over a period of time, our resources are depleted faster than they’re restored. It’s partially explained by exhaustion at work, cynicism toward the meaning of work, and a sense of inadequacy at work.

It’s mediated by workload, control, reward, community, fairness, and values. There’s a pretty substantial overlap between the symptoms of burnout and depression, as both entail a loss of motivation.

NIR EYAL

"Using a detailed, timeboxed schedule helps clarify the central trust pact between employers and employees."

  • When only one basket holds all of your self-esteem eggs, bad things happen. If we feel like we need to do something or prove ourselves in one area to feel good about ourselves, our self-worth is based on something.
  • Contingencies of self-worth represent specific domains on which people stake their self-esteem.
  • Contingent self-worth is an ineffective source of motivation; although boosts to self-esteem feel good, they can become addictive, requiring ever greater success to avoid feelings of worthlessness.

As long as the economy rewards productivity and efficiency, there will always be people:

  • piling on the work
  • working on the weekend.

It’s nice to think that some companies might adopt anti-burnout measures—minimizing those small tasks, and doling out fewer projects.

Sync with Stakeholders at Work

Synchronizing your schedule with workplace stakeholders is essential to take time for traction in your day.

Without visibility of how you spend your time, colleagues and managers are more likely to distract you with superfluous tasks.

Synchronize as often as your schedule changes. If your schedule template changes from day to day, have a daily check-in. However, most people find a weekly alignment is sufficient.

MARIANNA VIRTANEN

"In fact, studies have found that workers who spend more than fift-five hours per week on the job have reduced productivity; this problem is further compounded by their making more mistakes and inflicting more useless work on their colleagues, resulting in getting even less done in more time."

4. Fix your physiology

Many think they need the energy to exercise. But the truth is they need to exercise to have energy.

Aim for 20 mins of physical exercise, 3 times a week.

Go on walks regularly, meditate or do yoga/stretching. Just do whatever activity excites you. But don’t be lazy.

3. Fix your caffeine use

We all know that caffeine helps you stay awake.

But very few of us know that caffeine stays in your system for up to 10 hours!

So, if you have coffee at 1 pm, you can still feel it at 11 pm.

This not only affects your sleep quantity and quality. Cut caffeine 10 hours before bed.

Schedule Important Relationships

If someone is important to you, make regular time for them on your calendar. The people you love deserve more than getting whatever time is left over.

Go beyond scheduling date days with your significant other. Put domestic chores on your caalendar to ensure an equitable split.

As a relational being, maintaining important and healthy relationships is crucial for your life. A lack of close friendships may be hazardous to your health. Ensure you mantain important relationships by scheduling time for regular get-togethers.

2. Fix your rhythm

Your energy is influenced by your circadian rhythm. This rhythm is influenced by melatonin (a hormone).

Your melatonin is affected by your light exposure.

More light = Less Melatonin = Easier to stay awake

Less light = More Melatonin = Easier to sleep

NIR EYAL

"The people we love most should not be content with getting whatever time is left over. Everyone benefits when we hold time on our schedule to live up to our values and do our share."

Use 1–2–3 routine for bed:

  • Avoid phone screens 1 hour before bed
  • Avoid stimulating work 2 hours before bed
  • Avoid eating 3 hours before bed

This puts your mind in a relaxed state and allows you to fall asleep easily.

CAL NEWPORT

When there’s too much for us to imagine actually completing, we short-circuit our executive functioning mechanisms, resulting in a feeling of anxious unease.

The autonomy that defines the professional lives of those who toil in front of computer screens has led us into a trap of excessive work volume. We cannot escape this trap by expanding the weekend. We must ultimately brace ourselves for the larger challenge of slowing down the pace of the workday itself.

1. Fix your sleep cycle

Sleep has 5 cycles:

a. Wake/Alert

b. N1 (Light Sleep)

c. N2 (Deeper Sleep)

d. N3 (Deepese Non-REM sleep)

5. REM (Rapid Eye Movement)

Each one is 90 minutes on average.

This is crucial for maintaining your memory, energy and body recovery.

The central goal of Slow Productivity is to keep an individual worker’s volume at a sustainable level.

When our work volume increases, so do the accompanying overhead and stress, reducing both the time remaining to actually execute the tasks and the quality of the results. If we can work more sequentially, focusing on a small number of things at a time, waiting until they're done before bringing on new obligations, the rate at which we complete tasks might actually increase.

Introduction

Are you part of 85% of people who feel tired every day?

This is due to a lack of energy. Low energy can lead to:

  • Depression
  • Poor Health
  • Weight Gain
  • Lack of Focus
  • Impaired Memory
  • High Stress Levels

So how do you raise your energy levels? Here are 4 easy tips to fix your fatigue.

Control the Inputs, not the Outcomes

You are at the center of the three life domains, in order to fully experience relationships and work you have to schedule time for yourself first.

Outcomes are difficult to control, but what you can really control is the time and dedication you put into a task. Once you commit, do it.

Unlike outcome, input can be controlled by you. When it comes to living the life you want, making sure you allocate time to living your values is the only thing you should focus on.

NIR EYAL

"When it comes to our time, we should stop worrying about outcomes we can't control and instead focus on the inputs we can. [...] The one thing we control is the time we put into a task."

Turn your Values into Time

To call something a distraction you need to know what it is distracting you from, to differentiate between traction and distraction you have to plan ahead.

When planning your calendar make sure it reflects your values so you can become the person you aspire to be.

A framework which you can use to schedule a balanced life is the three life domains: you, relationships and work. Plan your day to spend time within each domain according to your values.

Scheduling isn't easy, hence why you'll need to revise and refine your schedule regularly. Despite that, you must commit to it once it's set.

NIR EYAL

"Values are not end goals; they are guidelines for our actions. [...] If we chronically neglect our values, we become someone we're not proud of - our life feels out of balance and disminished."

JOHANN WOLFGANG VON GOETHE

"If I know how you spend your time, then I know what might become of you."

Make Time for Traction

Part 2 of Indistractable is dedicated to the conscious decision of making time for traction. The author divides this Part as follows:

  • Turn your Values into Time
  • Control the Inputs, not the Outcomes
  • Schedule Important Relationships
  • Sync with Stakeholders at Work

  • Claim your courage. You have to be willing to climb over obstacles, to do what’s difficult, and to keep doing that every day.
  • Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
  • Revealing that you are vulnerable to your employees lets them see that you are human, just like them.
  • Confront reality head-on.
  • Seek feedback and actually listen.
  • Say what needs to be said. Real conversations are difficult to have, especially if there is conflict involved.
  • Communicate openly and often. Courageous leaders are open with their information. 
  • Give credit to others.
  • Hold yourself accountable.
  • Delegate to your employees.
  • Admit when you’ve made a mistake. Remove ego and pride from your leadership style. 
  • Change direction when required.

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