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3. Distraction, busyness and constant switching are mental habits

We don’t need any of these habits, but they build up over the years because they comfort us. We can live more simply by letting go of these mental habits.

What would life be like without constant switching, distraction and busyness?

2. Become mindful of attachments that lead to clutter and complexity.

For example, if you are attached to sentimental items, you won’t be able to let go of clutter.

If you are attached to living a certain way, you will not be able to let go of a lot of stuff.

If you are attached to doing a lot of activities and messaging everyone, your life will be complex.

1. We create our own struggles

 All the stress, all the frustrations and disappointments, all the busyness and rushing … we create these with attachments in our heads.

By letting go, we can relax and live more simply.

Shift from long-term to short-term accountability

The virtues of the shift from annual performance reviews to frequent check-ins should be apparent to leaders looking to drive rapid behavior change. More frequent feedback enables real-time coaching and allows managers to place the emphasis on what is most needed from the employee in that moment.

Reward programs can also help drive swift behavior change. Retailers instituted hazard and overtime pay to support their change efforts at the onset of Covid-19, and many of their employees rose to the occasion, taking on tough assignments to keep the business humming.

Embrace a “test-and-learn” approach

Recent events have confirmed what many change leaders already knew — though your change vision is critical to driving alignment and buy-in, that picture will seldom stay the same from the start of a change project to its finish.

The fact that many companies are bringing employees back to work in phases allows for the agile iteration and continuous learning. They should take advantage by piloting change tools and processes on early returners and improving them with each subsequent wave.

Use internal social channels and influencers

nternal social media and collaboration platforms are likely the fastest and most effective way to drive understanding of your change efforts and recruit the people who will champion the transformation.

This more informal channel created greater authenticity, enabled two-way dialogue and made it possible for the CEO to assess employee sentiment as the change efforts unfolded.

Employee influencers should be tapped to initiate online conversation around change efforts , leveraging positive peer pressure to bring colleagues on board and creating a sense of virtual community around the initiative.

Encourage self-organizing teams to supplement your efforts

When time is of the essence, these teams can help tackle challenges and opportunities as they see them, including those that aren’t visible to leadership but are critical to supporting the change agenda.

CEOs can accelerate the change process by empowering a group of trusted experts deeper in the organization who can be redeployed full-time against the challenge at hand.

Companies should also look to build an external network of advisors who can quickly be tapped to weigh in on business threats where in-house expertise doesn’t exist.

To eliminate friction and delays, the group of internal and external experts will also need to quickly align on guiding principles and open a physical or virtual “war room” to drive collaboration.

Declare your change vision

The first step in well-known change management models is often to “create a sense of urgency.” Depending on the change you are pursuing, you may be able to skip straight to declaring a change vision that outlines a compelling vision of your future state.

Companies without a clear vision will spend too much time fielding stakeholder inquiries instead of tending to the necessary changes.

In the midst of a Covid-induced recession, and with some industries on the brink of extinction, change isn’t about fine-tuning — it’s existential.

But traditional change management — often characterized by heavy process, lengthy timelines, and clunky rollouts — won’t cut it right now. The type of change management required in this moment is quick, agile, and (in many cases) virtual.


In the wake of Covid-19, organizations are fundamentally rethinking their product and service portfolios, reinventing their supply chains, pursuing large-scale organizational restructuring and digital transformation, and rebuilding to correct systemic racism from the ground up. Traditional change management process won’t cut it. The author borrows from agile software development processes to reinvent the change management playbook.

The imagination is meant to be inspired, to see possibilities by appreciating what is available to it. While it is no simple task to see the good in everything, the imagination powers the image of the reality you will perceive. Therefore it is not the image of the past nor the image of the present that should influence us, but rather the image of the future. Not allowing what has happened, nor your present circumstance, to completely change the image of your future. Perhaps it may refine as we learn and grow, but appreciating the image of the future will enable us to remain inspired by it.

You Matter ❤️

The more you practice all the above, the more skilled you will become in detecting negative patterns before you get stuck. Thus, you will grow to become freer and less reactive .

So…Whatever you’re doing, stop doing it right now. Close your eyes, relax a bit, and start breathing slowly while counting your breaths. There. For a moment, you experienced the present in all its majesty.

That is why…YOU MATTER❤️

Check-In And Look Deeper Part 2

Find the wisdom. These habitual patterns have been with you for a long time: they certainly have something to teach you. See what it is.

Get to the heart of the matter. Stick your head into the demon’s mouth. If it’s too traumatic, don’t do it by yourself and ask for some help.

Infuse the stuck place with being. Find meaning in your negative habitual patterns by framing them within the wholeness and completeness of the existence.

Check-In And Look Deeper Part 1

Name your “tunes”. Identify the things that replay in your awareness while you’re trying to meditate or do something else.

Expand your awareness. These things may be just the tip of the iceberg: look deeper.

Feel your feelings. Think of the ghost-analogy: the persisting feelings endure because you’ve never allowed them to pass through you and leave. 

Notice resistance and attachment. What you resist, persists….so don’t!

Food/Drinks Before Meditation

Eat lightly and drink even lighter. Big meals make you drowsy, and coffee makes us agitated. Stay away from them as much as you can but especially during the hours before meditation. I am not even going to mention other mind-altering substances: indulging them usually adds to the burden of stress which meditation strives to eliminate from your life.

Choose comfort over passion.

Meditation is not a fashion show, so don’t spend too much time thinking when it comes to your clothes. The only thing you need to remember is to keep your clothing loose and roomy and avoid constricting your breathing or your circulation in any way.

Create A Sacred Space

Even though meditating in nature is better than meditating at home, if you are like most people, the former is rarely an option. The good news is that meditation can be as relaxing at home (or even on the train 😎).. if you pick the right spot. It should be neither too dark nor too light, relatively quiet and away from traffic or anything that reminds you of work. 

Prepare For Take-off In 10 Steps

  1. arrange your legs
  2. lengthen and straighten your spine
  3. rock your body from side to side like a pendulum
  4. rock your body from front to back
  5. tilt your pelvis slightly forward and soften your belly
  6. tuck your chin gently
  7. rest your tongue on the roof of your mouth and breathe through your nose, if possible
  8. rest your hands on your thighs or in your lap
  9. relax your body from head to toe, letting go as much as possible of any tension or discomfort
  10. begin your meditation.


Scientific studies have demonstrated that meditation is not only a great antidote to these stressful times, but is also an all-around helper, reducing both intangible psychological states – such as alienation and disconnection and also very measurable health markers such as blood pressure and cholesterol levels. Also, it makes people more creative and more empathetic while helping them manage their stress and pain better. This, ultimately, means that people who meditate are not only healthier than those who don’t but also much happier and tend to lead more purposeful and balanced lives.

In conclusion, Lastly, some researchers have found that by doing simple things, such as taking breaks or not being afraid to walk away for five minutes to clear your head, can help you focus. So try some of these tips and see if they improve your productivity. 

So take a break, refresh yourself and start once again. 

That's all 

Good day

Reading nourishes your mind and soul. It makes you activate your all senses together, you learn new things and you implement them in life.

Reading can bring a great change if you implement the values of reading in your life, you can go for books Reading or listening to podcasts and speeches.

The time you use in scrolling Instagram reels try to use that time in learning something new.

Those were the 4 tips on how you can stay productive in your life. Here's a bonus tip for you.

One would think that getting a good night’s sleep is easy; after all, you are expected to go to bed, sleep all night, then wake up refreshed and ready to tackle the day. But the truth is, some find it hard to fall asleep, while others spend a majority of the night tossing and turning.

A good sleep can make your mind much more relaxed. Having a good sleep helps your mind in reorganising all that complex stuff that you have acquired throughout your whole day.

Multitasking is the biggest enemy when it comes to productivity while doing something important. You must keep in mind that your focus must be on a single thing.

Working on two things at the same time makes you confused and chances of mistakes increases as it may cause you a lot of damage.

Multitasking makes your brain focus on two things at a single time. As a result, your focus gets divided into two things and you become less productive.

So try to avoid multitasking but you can go for multitasking while doing something boring.

Checklist is one of the best ways that can help you in arranging your work that you are going to do throughout your whole day.

Creating a checklist makes you focused towards your work as you know what you have to do next. 

A morning checklist is one of the most valuable tools you can have when it comes to getting organised and making the most of your mornings. 

By planning out your morning the night before, you avoid having to rush around getting ready for work in the morning.

Tips On How To Stay Productive

A productive day means achieving all the work you set out to do. This is the essence of any work productivity. While some people may be naturally productive, others may be struggling to stay productive. There are some simple things that can boost your productivity. 

Productivity is for everyone. In fact, being productive is essential for you to be successful in all that you do. Productivity is the ability to effectively get tasks done. Any day that you don’t complete a task that you set out to do, is a day that you’re not productive. 



But [man’s] banishment to [a desert’s] rocks and echoes no metaphysics can make right or tolerable. This result is so against nature, such a half-view, that it must be corrected by a common sense and experience […] A man must be clothed with society, or we shall feel a certain bareness and poverty, as of a displaced and unfurnished member. He is to be dressed in arts and institutions, as well as in body garments. Now and then a man exquisitely made can live alone,and must; but coop up most men and you undo them.


Dear heart! take it sadly home to thee,– there is no cooperation. We begin with friendships, and all our youth is a reconnoitering and recruiting of the holy fraternity they shall combine for the salvation of men. But so the remoter stars seem a nebula of united light, yet there is no group which a telescope will not resolve; and the dearest friends are separated by impassable gulfs.


But the necessity of solitude is deeper than we have said, and is organic. I have seen many a philosopher whose world is large enough for only one person. He affects to be a good companion; but we are still surprising his secret, that he means and needs to impose his system on all the rest. The determination of each is from all the others, like that of each tree up into free space.


We pray to be conventional. But the wary Heaven takes care you shall not be, if there is anything good in you.


We have known many fine geniuses with that imperfection that they cannot do anything useful, not so much as write one clean sentence. ‘Tis worse, and tragic, that no man is fit for society who has fine traits. At a distance he is admired, but bring him hand to hand, he is a cripple. One protects himself by solitude, and one by courtesy, and one by an acid, worldly manner, each concealing how he can the thinness of his skin and his incapacity for strict association.


Nature protects her own work. To the culture of the world an Archimedes, a Newton is indispensable; so she guards them by a certain aridity. If these had been good fellows, fond of dancing, port, and clubs, we should have had no “Theory of the Sphere” and no “Principia”. They had that necessity of isolation which genius feels. Each must stand on his glass tripod if he would keep his electricity.


Few substances are found pure in nature. Those constitutions which can bear in open day the rough dealing of the world must be of that mean and average structure such as iron and salt, atmospheric air, and water. But there are metals, like potassium and sodium, which, to be kept pure, must be kept under naptha. Such are the talents determined on some specialty, which a culminating civilization fosters in the heart of great cities and in royal chambers.

Gottman writes down a time when her wife was grumbling. Taking that as a bid, he reacted to that bid and asked her what happened. She replied that she was tired folding the laundry clothes. As a reaction to this, he helped her by folding some clothes for her. This tells her how important she is to Gottman and how important her miseries are to him.

He then played jazz music which reminded them of an old date in a jazz club. They then went for dinner together. And this is how accepting a small bid and reacting to it can create romantic moments for a couple and create an emotional bank for couples

In 1990, Gottman started a research in which he studied how 130 couples reacted to each others' bids.

After six years, he compared the couples who were still together versus the couples that got divorced.

It turned out that the couples who were together reacted to each other's bids on an average of 86% of the times, on the other hand the divorced couple just responded for 33% of the times.

It may sound simple but a key component in building a relationship is attention.

In a relationship, partners often share their personal feelings or mundane comments over silly things. They do it to start a conversation or to get attention. These comments or stories are called "bids" for attention. And how we react to these bids decides the future of a relationship

Gottman also uses verbal observations to predict whether the couple "criticize or complain".

Both of these sound argumentative but the main difference being the intention. While criticizing, the person's main aim is to make the other person feel inferior or bad whereas a complaint can be made politely, urging the other person to take the complaint sportingly and work for it.

Firstly, couples in fight or flight mode -- racing heartbeat, adrenaline rush, high blood pressure, etc. are more likely to split up. These people are always in a mode to either attack or be attacked.

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