If we know we are going to be rebuked anyhow, isn't it far better to beat the other person to it and do it ourselves?

If we want to make friends, let’s put ourselves out to do things for other people, thins that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness.

Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.

Let the other person save face. How? Suppose we are wrong. Suppose we are harsh, unjust, and brutal. Suppose we destroy others. What do we achieve? It is more important to be kind than to be right.

The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere. One comes from the heart out, the other from the teeth out. One is unselfish, the other selfish. One is universally admired, the other universally condemned.

The world is full of people who are grabbing and self-seeking. So the rare individual who unselfishly tries to serve others has an enormous advantage.

Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person's precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.

Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes them strive to justify themselves. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person's precious pride, hurts their sense of importance, and arouses resentment.

If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, keep this principle in mind: 'Become genuinely interested in other people.'

The expression one wears on one's face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one's back.

Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain, but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.

Ask yourself: What is the worst that can happen? Then prepare to accept it. Then proceed to improve on the worst.

If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own.

Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say 'You're wrong'

You can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness.

Remember that other people may be totally wrong. But they don’t think so. Don’t condemn them. Any fool can do that. Try to understand them. Only wise, tolerant, exceptional people even try to do that.

It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.

When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.

The desire for a feeling of importance is one of the chief distinguishing differences between mankind and the animals.

When we are wrong, we should admit it immediately. When we are right, we need to say so, and say it without resentment or belittlement.

Anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is interested in the same things you are. Think of them as people who really want to help you and you turn your opponents into friends.

Give honest, sincere appreciation. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.” and people will cherish our words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime - repeat them years after you have forgotten them.

Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

Top inspirational quotes from the book How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. This book had a major impact in my life. I was able to get my first job at 18 due to using Dale Carnegie's teachings from this book.

Updated for today’s readers, Dale Carnegie’s timeless bestseller How to Win Friends and Influence People is a classic that has improved and transformed the professional and personal and lives of millions. One of the best-known motivational guides in history, Dale Carnegie’s groundbreaking book has sold tens of millions of copies, been translated into almost every known language, and has helped countless people succeed. Originally published during the depths of the Great Depression—and equally valuable during booming economies or hard times—Carnegie’s rock-solid, time-tested advice has carried countless people up the ladder of success in their professional and personal lives. How to Win Friends and Influence People teaches you: -How to communicate effectively -How to make people like you -How to increase your ability to get things done -How to get others to see your side -How to become a more effective leader -How to successfully navigate almost any social situation -And so much more! Achieve your maximum potential with this updated version of a classic—a must-read for the 21st century.

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Dale Carnegie was an American writer and lecturer, and the developer of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills.

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To seek answers, we must bravely discard the shackles of preconceived notions. Our surroundings, our educators, have inadvertently led us astray, imparting flawed knowledge and misinformation. Yes, knowledge is undeniably powerful, but can we truly wield power in information handed to us?

Reconsidering Knowledge 

It’s a profound revelation—we are not just misled; we are the architects of our own misdirection. The call for change echoes through these words. Do you dare to heed this call? Change is not an abstract concept; it permeates every facet of our existence. The onus is on us—our choices shape our destiny.

The Choice Of Self-directed Knowledge 

The system’s influence extends to granting us freedoms that often lead down the path of corruption. It dictates what we perceive, how we act, and what resonates in our minds. Yet, the paradox lies in the fact that it cannot control our minds unless we relinquish that control.

The Paradox Of Knowledge & Power

Success intertwines with change. This message is a catalyst; will you let it open your eyes? The challenge persists—will you regress into the clutches of the system, forgetting your innate potential? Know thyself, hack thyself, and join the league of the grateful.

Do You Considered The Change

Society, a complex web of relationships and expectations, is not our ally. We acknowledge this truth, yet fail to delve into understanding and critical thinking. Pause and reflect—are we the person we genuinely aspire to be, or have we succumbed to the mold society imposes?

A break For Understand

Self-design becomes imperative. We must confront and triumph over our internal struggles, seizing control of our own narrative. It’s not merely about challenging the system; it’s about redefining ourselves. The very essence of cracking the system lies not just in understanding it but in constructing a system of our own.

Build Your Own System 

Understanding the system is a journey—simple to comprehend, yet arduous to escape. We unwittingly confine ourselves to a comfort zone, not realizing that anything exerting control over us, even our seemingly innocuous devices, falls under the umbrella of the system.

Dictating Perception & The Limits Of Control 

Our strategy must be one of intellect—outsmarting the system and, paradoxically, learning from it. The revelation is staggering; we were blinded, deaf to our own existence. Designing our system becomes imperative. It’s a realization that not everyone attains, reserved for those willing to undergo profound personal transformation.

Importance Of Creating A System 

The idea of being the chosen one surfaces, often concealed by societal norms. Reject the ordinary; embrace the extraordinary. The power to change resides solely within us. The wisdom encapsulated in “Do not wait until the conditions are perfect to begin; beginning makes the condition perfect being our guiding light.

Society’s Role and the Call for Self-Design

This is no esoteric revelation; it’s a reminder, a guidepost on the path to self-discovery. Every revelation comes at a price, and understanding and implementing these insights demand a toll—a toll paid willingly to liberate oneself from the clutches of the system.

The Importance Of SelfIntention 

“In the symphony of change, the extraordinary is not found in conformity but in the courageous embrace of one’s unique potential, resisting the ordinary and rejecting regression into the familiar confines of the system.”

Escaping this intricate web of the system is no facile task. The system employs mechanisms, tantalizing us with instant gratification, perpetuating a cycle that keeps us tethered. Imagine a world where liberation from this system is facile—no one would grapple with poverty unless due to sheer toil without knowledge or control.

Hard work Without Knowledge 

“In the tapestry of self-discovery, each unraveling layer is a thread woven with the courage to question and the resilience to redefine.”

“To escape the intricate web of systems, one must be both an intellectual strategist and a humble learner—the paradoxical keys to mastering and liberating oneself.”

“True freedom isn’t found in the granted liberties that lead to corruption; it emerges when we dictate our perceptions and navigate the boundaries of our own control.”

Let’s embark on a profound journey into self-discovery, unraveling the layers that define our essence. Who are we, and, more importantly, who do we aspire to become? The critical question looms—do we exist in true freedom, or are we unwittingly entrapped within a system of control?

Journey Into Self-discovery

In conclusion, remember this: “The system is designed to gain knowledge to easily enforce in the system through that knowledge; therefore, knowledge should be independent of any system.” It’s a profound truth that beckons us to chart our course independent of the systems that seek to confine us.

The Proclamation on Knowledge’s Independence

Let’s assert that knowledge should not merely be handed down; it should be seized, earned through diligent exploration. A vigilant mind is essential; we must scrutinize and be discerning about what beliefs we embrace. Despite the illusion of a lack of choices, the reality is different—we are ensnared by the system, trapped in a state of confusion.

Impact Of Knowledge 

CHAPTER 1.THE SYSTEM — This article urges questioning, escaping societal control, and self-redefinition. Emphasizing self-awareness and challenging systems, it advocates for personal autonomy in modern complexities.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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There’s room for you. There’s a place for you at the top! TRAIN your MIND and USE IT! Give yourself to a teacher. Give yourself to a TUTOR. Train yourself, train your MIND! If you train your Mind, IT will be ready to deliver to you the right thoughts and ideas that will earn you COMMERCIAL VALUE. There is No poverty for the man, who has made an INVESTMENT in his MIND and his willing to ACT!

Invest In Your Mind

Success is waiting for the man who plans for it, who reaches out for it! Who says I will wake up and he wakes up, who says I will read this book and He does. Who says I will go to school and he goes. Success is waiting for the Man who makes a DECISION.

Planning To Succeed 

There are certain things you must do… There are things that are not in abundant supply, they are limited. One of them is TIME. Save time! Save it! Keep track of your time. The Bible says for us to redeem the time for the days are evil. You don’t have extra time. Life is not a GAME, therefore make everyday count! Improve yourself every day! Introduce something into your Life that counts.

Improve yourself every day

When you become an adult, you take responsibility for your future. Become Responsible! What do you have in yourself? There are many who cry for help and because there are no answers to their call for help, they feel the pangs and pains of neglect. No! Refuse to give up!

Refuse to give up!

You can make new decisions today, that will change what tomorrow will bring. Invest in your future. Refuse to be a Mental hobo! Refuse to end your Life on the sidewalk!

Decisions And The Future 

Distinguish yourself! Engage yourself in national issues. It is time to PUT your Best into what you do! GET BETTER and BIGGER! Be excellent!!

Make Yourself Different From The Rest.

Time is important! Time is Important! Change the Position… Say to yourself I will be WATCHED. There are those who only think of designer perfume, designer clothes, designer shoes… Where are your own designs? Challenge yourself for the future!

Implement Your Ideas

Choose to be a success! Become inspiring! Distinguish yourself with character, with excellence! If you are a Musician be a musician with a difference! Become inspiring! Whatever you do, do it with excellence. Put your best into what you do and change your World! Remember there is no extra time. Whatever you do now, do it the Best way the FIRST TIME. Success is waiting for the man who says yes to success!

Become inspiring!

I believe in your future! There’s a reason I believe in your future. I believe that if you hear these words, you will act on them and they change your future. None of you was born to be POOR! You may have been poor BUT you were not Born to be poor! You may have been brought up poor, BUT you were not brought up to be POOR! Understand this, the definition of ADULTHOOD is RESPONSIBILITY.

ADULTHOOD is RESPONSIBILITY.

Believe in what God made, God made you and He never made a failure. Believe that God has a purpose for your life. You may have been born as a parental accident but you are not a divine accident. God knew you were coming and he made sufficient provisions for you! There is a place for you in the world.

There is a place for you in the world.

Decide to be smart! Decide to be a problem solver. If you make that decision, that is what you will be. Problem solvers are in short supply in the world. There’s a place for a man who decides to be excellent!

Be a problem solver

You cannot change yesterday, but you can do something today that can change tomorrow! It doesn’t matter how you were born, that was yesterday. It doesn’t matter what happened last 5years, the last 10 years. You may not be able to change that but can reposition yourself today.

You Change Tomorrow 

There’s no hunger for the man who has trained his mind to think through every problem, to solve every problem. Train yourself, think through a problem, render solution and let men come to you for advice!

Critical Thinking 

This article was inspired by this sermon https://youtu.be/eXrj8U-h2vg?si=oAix1ah3oVlUBsBI by Pastor Chris Oyakhilome. It has a very inspiring message regardless of religion, there are a lot of insights that one can pick out and apply to achieve greatness. Follow me for more.

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The thing is, John, life is an amazing story. It's just that sometimes we forget we're the author, and we can write it however we want..

The whole book is about a guy named John, who feels very lost in life, and suddenly he stumbles upon a café, where he has very deep conversations with 3 people - Casey, Mike and Ann. Eventually as he talks to them, the conversations profoundly change his perspectives on life.

The five time bestseller of the year that has transformed the lives of millions around the world. In a small cafe at a location so remote it stands in the middle of the middle of nowhere, John-a man in a hurry-is at a crossroads. Intent only on refueling before moving along on his road trip, he finds sustenance of an entirely different kind. In addition to the specials of the day, the cafe menu lists three questions all diners are encouraged to consider: Why are you here? Do you fear death? Are you fulfilled?With this food for thought and the guidance of three people he meets at the cafe, John embarks on a journey of self-discovery. Along the way he discovers a new way to look at life, himself, and just how much you can learn from a green sea turtle.

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Resilience is also a part of courage. Persist through tough times. Use past failures as guides, work through them logically, find what you must change. Remain unwavering, in the toughest of times, have the calmest of minds. Do not get angry or frustrated, accept the situation as it arose, understand that it is simply in the nature of the universe that this were to happen, and that to get angry at this is against the nature of the universe and of man.

Courage (Resilience)

Do effective things, eliminate the unnecessary. Have necessary things, eliminate the extravagant. Say less, say only the effective things. Eat less, eat healthy in so far as it allows you to work tirelessly toward your purpose.

Temperance

Be just to others. Be tolerant of others, see their side of things. Be strict with yourself and be tolerant with others. Forgive more.Read both sides of an argument. Eliminate any bias as far as possible. Act out in a just way, in a moral way, and even a kind way. Being kind is a trait of the divine.

Justice

Between what happens to us, and what we react to it, there is a gap. This gap is where wisdom presides. A wise man uses this gap and reacts appropriately to the stimulus that the outside world offers us. What is appropriate, the wise man decides based on the knowledge he has, the wisdom of the people of the past, that of the people around him, of old men and of children alike, that of rocks and pebbles too. Standing atop shoulders of giants, he navigates through life. The wise man is ever learning, and absorbs wisdom from the universe like a sponge.

Wisdom 

Be willing to take risks. Don't live the life of a worm, who simply does everything for the sake of comfort. Be driven by a purpose, beyond accumulating objects of comfort. Take risks, live dangerously.

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