Be Your Own Hero

• Don't wait for someone to save you

  When push comes to shove, people will let you down. They may have the absolute best intentions, but no matter how much they promise they are going to be there for you, they will let you down. It’s human nature. So if you think someone is coming to save you, a knight in shining armor, please stop.

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• You are your own hero

  

  Only you can control your decisions, your next moves.  You have been given every tool you need to save yourself. And it is entirely your own decision whether you want to save yourself or not. 

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• Speak Kindly To Yourself

  

  When you try to help another person you probably don’t start with a critical attack towards them about everything they’ve done wrong or aren’t good at. Yet, so often we speak harshly to ourselves in our own minds. Being your own hero means standing up for yourself when critical self-talk and negative spirals of thinking are starting up in your head.

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• Your Inner Dialogue

  Listen to how you speak to yourself and get to know how kindly or unkindly you treat yourself every day. Do not stand for self-bullying.

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• Rewrite Your Stories of Adversity

  Re-author the MEANINGS you draw from things that have happened in your life. Your stories of hurts, losses and failings can become inspirational reminders to you of your resilience and survival.

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• Find Your Flow

  Our greatest strengths and personal superpowers are often found in those things we’re good at, and that we enjoy — our flow. Your places of flow, be they sports, nature or something else, feed the hero part of yourself. Flow gives you purpose and meaning.

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• Honor Your Commitments

  Being your own hero means showing yourself real love by developing your own values and staying true to any commitments you’ve made to yourself. Do what you say you’re going to do and feel proud of yourself, confident in your character.

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• Heroism

  

  A man can’t be anyone’s hero until he becomes his own hero first. To become his own hero a man must be willing to plumb the depths and explore the aspects of his life that are most dear to him, his relationships with his wife, friends, children, and even coworkers. When he’s accomplished this task, he is his own hero, and everyone else’s too. 

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• Becoming a hero

  In mythological fables, a man had to slay a dragon or a giant before he could marry the princess.Today, instead of slaying a dragon, he has to slay his flawed notion of manhood. He has to prove his inner-hero courage by becoming a fully empowered, authentic, emotionally open and honest man, first with himself, and ultimately with everyone.

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• Slaying the fear dragon

  Men need to learn to be emotionally honest in relationships. When a man musters the courage to share his deepest truth, he creates a platform for his inner hero to develop. A man who is his own hero doesn’t surrender to fear, and never allows fear to dictate his behavior. He stands up to his fear because he knows how to move beyond it. 

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• How to miss the mark

  A man who brags about his wealth or power misses being his own hero by a mile because inflating his own ego is the least manly or heroic act.

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• Building character

  To reveal your hero status, ask yourself:Do I honor and respect my men friends, and keep their confidences? Do I live in a manner that reflects my highest ideals? Do I have the courage to be emotionally honest with women? Do I love my children unconditionally and selflessly? Do I respect and support my children’s choices? Do I treat my employees or coworkers with a level of respect I want? Do I volunteer in my community or reach out to help others? Do I live in integrity with myself?

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• Act like a sea star

  

  ... not a wounded bird.  While a wounded bird usually can’t heal on its own, a sea star regenerates its own limbs. It doesn't have to wait for someone to come to the rescue. While outside help can be beneficial, you don't always need someone to help you overcome an obstacle. You can find solutions to your problem.

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• The world is your oyster

  

  Oysters form pearls as a way to protect themselves from foreign substances, such as sand. Listen to your inner voice. Not only is it there to protect you, but it can guide you toward people, information and ideas that can transform your life.

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• Dive deep into the research

  

  To become your own hero, go above and beyond surface level information.  Reading the right book or article can provide you with valuable guidance that you probably won’t find anywhere else.

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• Avoid becoming overwhelmed

  

  Exposing yourself to too much information can actually work against you. Confusion can lead to indecision, which can easily prevent you from moving forward. Nip it in the bud using stress-reduction techniques. Go for a walk, listen to music, cook, or write. The time away will allow you to see things from a fresh perspective.

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• Learn from your mistakes

  

  You will likely go through a lot of trial and error before you find a complete solution. Do not strive for perfection. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Fully immerse yourself in the journey.

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• Don’t be afraid to ask for help

  

  Sometimes, life can get so challenging that we isolate ourselves. You should find a source of emotional support during those times. Seek out people who lift you up, rather than pull you down.

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• Make gratitude a daily habit

  

  When you stop and think about everything you have to be thankful for, the situation seems a lot less bleak. Every day, count on one hand five good things that are happening in your life. Jot them down in a journal, so you can revisit them anytime.

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