Stay informed about personal finance and investing by continuously educating yourself. Read books, articles, and blogs on personal finance, investment strategies, and successful financial stories. Attend financial seminars or workshops, and seek advice from financial professionals. Knowledge is power when it comes to managing your money effectively.

Continuously Educate Yourself:

Relying solely on a salary may limit your earning potential. Consider developing multiple streams of income to boost your earnings. This could include side hustles, freelancing, or investing in income-generating assets such as real estate or stocks. Diversifying your income sources can help you increase your earning potential and accelerate your wealth-building journey.

Develop Multiple Streams of Income: 

Building wealth takes time and effort, and it requires discipline and persistence. Stay focused on your financial goals, and avoid impulsive decisions or get-rich-quick schemes. Be patient and stay committed to your financial plan, even when facing challenges or setbacks. Stay disciplined with your spending, saving, and investing habits, and never give up on your dreams of becoming a millionaire by 30.

Be Disciplined and Persistent:

Becoming a millionaire by the age of 30 is a dream for many young people. While it may seem like an ambitious goal, with the right habits and mindset, it can be achievable. Here are 7 habits that can help you on your journey to becoming a millionaire by 30.

Why Discuss This Topic?

Saving and investing are essential habits for building wealth. Create a budget to track your income and expenses, and aim to save and invest a portion of your income every month. Look for investment opportunities that align with your financial goals and risk tolerance. Compound interest can work wonders in growing your wealth over time.

Save and Invest:

In conclusion, becoming a millionaire by the age of 30 requires a combination of smart financial habits, disciplined saving and investing, continuous learning, and networking. It's not an overnight success, but with determination, persistence, and the right mindset, it is achievable.﻿Follow me on Deepstash for great content about UX Design, Human Psycology, Freelancing, Money and much more. I will be posting multiple times daily!

Conclusion

One of the first habits you need to develop is setting clear financial goals. Create a roadmap for your financial success by setting short-term and long-term goals. These goals should be specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART). Regularly review and update your goals to stay focused and motivated.

Set Financial Goals

Avoid unnecessary expenses and live below your means. Don't succumb to the temptation of overspending on things that don't contribute to your financial goals. Practice frugality by cutting back on discretionary spending and finding ways to save money, such as cooking at home, using public transportation, or negotiating better deals.

Live Below Your Means: 

Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who share your financial goals. Network with successful people who can inspire and mentor you. Learn from their experiences, seek their advice, and build a strong support system. Having mentors who have achieved financial success can provide valuable guidance and insights on your path to becoming a millionaire.

Network and Seek Mentorship: 

Money isn’t everything but everyone can apply these skills to thier life! 

Sign up to Morning Brew for free today: https://morningbrewdaily.com/ali I recently interview Cliff Weitzman on my podcast, and he shared some really interesting tips about relationships and making better connections with people. Cliff is one of the most impressive and successful people I know, so I thought it'd be worth breaking down 7 of his best pieces of advice. Enjoy x 🎙 The full interview with Cliff: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yfALZJcurZw Free Trial for Speechify +- Discount - https://speechify.com/ali 🍿WATCH NEXT: Why Following Your Passion is Terrible Advice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dE-wvWdM6jY 7 Habits that Save Me 3+ Hours a Week: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hXP5fUfBGQQ How to Become Luckier - An Evidence-Based Guide: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WizT_VdtOYM 7 Side Hustles You Can Start in 2023: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I-dlPuqFguo ⌚️Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 1:10 Habit 1 2:26 Habit 2 3:20 Habit 3 5:41 Habit 4 7:17 Habit 5 9:07 Habit 6 10:08 Habit 7 💌 Sign up to my free weekly email newsletter - https://go.aliabdaal.com/subscribe-sundaysnippets MY FREE ONLINE COURSES: 🚀 Productivity Masterclass - Principles and Tools to Boost Your Productivity - https://go.aliabdaal.com/course/productivity 🎓 How to Study for Exams - An Evidence-Based Masterclass - https://go.aliabdaal.com/course/studying 🎬 YouTube for Beginners - Everything You Need To Know To Start - https://go.aliabdaal.com/course/YouTube-for-Beginners MY CREATOR COURSES 🎬 Check out my free 7 day email course on how to become a part-time YouTuber: https://aliabdaal.com/part-time-youtuber-crash-course/ 🏆 Creatorpreneur - My flagship course for scaling up your creative side-hustle → https://creatorpreneur.academy/course 🗣 Camera Confidence - My self-paced course on how to improve your creativity, career, or communication skills → https://cameraconfidence.aliabdaal.com/ MY FAVOURITE GEAR 🧑‍💻My MacBook Skin (& other tech): https://dbrand.com/palettes 🎥 My YouTube Camera Gear - https://kit.co/AliAbdaal ⌨️ My Keyboard - Wireless Coral mechanical keyboard (Cherry Blue) -https://go.aliabdaal.com/keyboard 📝 My favourite iPad Screen Protector - Paperlike - https://go.aliabdaal.com/paperlike 🎒 My Desk Accessories + Todo List - Ugmonk - https://go.aliabdaal.com/ugmonk MY FAVOURITE TOOLS 🚀 VidIQ - How I optimise my YouTube videos - https://go.aliabdaal.com/vidiq ✍️ Shortform - The BEST summaries of books - https://go.aliabdaal.com/shortform 📚 Readwise - How I remember what I read - https://go.aliabdaal.com/readwise 🎵 Epidemic Sound - Where I get my music (amazing for YouTubers) - https://go.aliabdaal.com/epidemicsound MY KEY LINKS 🌍 My website / blog - https://www.aliabdaal.com/ 🐦 Twitter - https://twitter.com/aliabdaal 📸 Instagram - https://instagram.com/aliabdaal WHO AM I: I’m Ali, a YouTuber, podcaster, soon-to-be author and ex-Doctor working in London, UK. I make videos that explore the strategies and tools that help us live happier, healthier and more productive lives. I also have a weekly podcast called Deep Dive (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChfo46ZNOV-vtehDc25A1Ug), and I write a weekly email newsletter that contains some quick thoughts + links to interesting things (https://go.aliabdaal.com/subscribe-sundaysnippets). PS: Some of the links in this description are affiliate links that I get a kickback from 😜

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I recently interview Cliff Weitzman on my podcast, and he shared some really interesting tips about relationships and making better connections with people. Cliff is one of the most impressive and successful people I know, so I thought it'd be worth breaking down 7 of his best pieces of advice. Enjoy x

🎙 The full interview with Cliff: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yfALZJcurZw

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How to Become Luckier - An Evidence-Based Guide: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WizT_VdtOYM
7 Side Hustles You Can Start in 2023: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I-dlPuqFguo

⌚️Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
1:10 Habit 1
2:26 Habit 2
3:20 Habit 3
5:41 Habit 4
7:17 Habit 5
9:07 Habit 6
10:08 Habit 7

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🗣 Camera Confidence - My self-paced course on how to improve your creativity, career, or communication skills → https://cameraconfidence.aliabdaal.com/

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🧑‍💻My MacBook Skin (& other tech): https://dbrand.com/palettes
🎥  My YouTube Camera Gear - https://kit.co/AliAbdaal
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📝  My favourite iPad Screen Protector - Paperlike - https://go.aliabdaal.com/paperlike
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WHO AM I:
I’m Ali, a YouTuber, podcaster, soon-to-be author and ex-Doctor working in London, UK. I make videos that explore the strategies and tools that help us live happier, healthier and more productive lives. I also have a weekly podcast called Deep Dive (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChfo46ZNOV-vtehDc25A1Ug), and I write a weekly email newsletter that contains some quick thoughts + links to interesting things (https://go.aliabdaal.com/subscribe-sundaysnippets).

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7 Habits to Be a Millionaire by 30

When it comes to your journal entries, if it’s important enough to record, then it’s important enough to date.
Having a date above each entry can help you understand your thought process as it relates to important life events.

Date each journal entry

Start your daily journal off on the right foot by scheduling your writing for a set time every day.
<ul>
<li>If you find your mind is most active in the morning, wake up 15 to 20 minutes earlier and jot down your thoughts then. </li>
<li>If you prefer to record everything after the day is over, then make it an evening activity before you go to bed.</li>
</ul>

Schedule journaling time

The slowness of writing by hand is actually better for connecting with your thoughts as you write them.
Since it takes longer to write everything, you end up thinking deeper thoughts and really considering how you feel about what you’re writing.

Write by hand in your journal

<ul>
<li>When you keep a journal, you can look back on important life events to read about how you felt at the time. You may also be able to learn from these past experiences.</li>
<li>Writing about traumatic events results in physical and psychological health benefits. Journaling focuses on understanding traumatic events and makes people see these events with an extra level of clarity.</li>
</ul>

Benefits of a journal

There is a traditional way of journaling with a notebook and a pen or pencil. Then there’s the modern method, where you type your thoughts on a device.
Choose a method that you can do consistently.

The right journaling tools

Journaling is about you and your thoughts. The best way to record those thoughts is to minimize distractions.
You need a quiet part of the room that’s away from other people. Separating yourself from technology is also important while you write in your journal.

The right journaling environment

<ul>
<li>The Freedom Journal is goal-oriented, as it’s designed to help you achieve one goal within 100 days. </li>
<li>The Moleskin Journal is whatever you want it to be, as you write whatever is on your mind. This type of journal is versatile and excellent for sorting through your thoughts.</li>
<li>The Five-Minute Journal focuses on gratitude. Take five minutes every day to write about the good things in your life. This simple task leads to a more positive mindset and increased happiness.</li>
</ul>

3 types of journals

When you start your journaling habit, make that your main priority. Commit to it for at least 30 days, and, to get the best results, tie it to another pre-existing habit of yours.
For example, if you start your day with a cup of coffee, you could decide to journal every morning while you drink your coffee.

Commit to your journaling practice

The quality and depth of your writing aren’t important in journaling.
Just get your honest thoughts down on paper as they come to you.

Journaling is not professional writing

The easiest way to protect your journal is to keep your journal with you at all times. 
You may consciously or sub-consciously avoid writing about certain topics for fear of what others could think. This fear may hold you back from writing about stuff that matters in your journal.

Protect your privacy

The biggest mistake is to journal only in reaction to something that is going on, instead of letting it be part of a system.
Make writing in your personal journal part of your everyday routine.

Integrating journaling in your daily life

Record how you really feel, not how you think you should feel. 
Share the first thought that comes to mind. The first thing you think about is typically what’s most important to you at that moment.

Honesty and journaling

When you know your journal is for your eyes only, you have the freedom to write whatever you want without worrying about anyone else’s thoughts or judgments.
As you write, don’t worry about your grammar or spelling, no matter how good or bad they are. If you can understand what you wrote in each entry, then the grammar and spelling are fine.

Don't censor yourself while journaling

Have you ever tried to start a journaling habit, only to quit a few days later?Personally, my problem was always starting and stopping.I'd get excited about writing a daily journal, and for the first week, everything would go smoothly. Then, I'd get busy one day and decide that "missing one day won't hurt."

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The "Achievable" component of SMART goals refers to the need for a goal to be realistic and within reach, given your resources and limitations. When a goal is achievable, it is more likely to be accomplished, as you will have the necessary resources and support to make it happen.Setting achievable goals requires considering resources, skills, and limitations, and ensuring the goal is realistic and within reach. This increases motivation and chances of success, and having a clear action plan helps ensure the goal is achievable.

#3 Achievable

"Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible."

The "Measurable" component of SMART goals refers to the need for a goal to be quantifiable and have objective metrics for tracking progress. When a goal is measurable, it is easier to track progress, determine when you have achieved it, and stay motivated. Measuring progress helps you to see that you are making progress toward your goal, which can increase motivation and help you stay on track.Setting measurable goals requires clarity and well-defined objectives and metrics for tracking progress. Regular tracking helps stay motivated and make necessary adjustments for goal achievement.

#2 Measurable

The five components of SMART goals are:<ol><li>Specific: A specific goal outlines what you want to achieve and should be clearly defined.</li><li>Measurable: A measurable goal should be quantifiable and have objective metrics for tracking progress.</li><li>Achievable: An achievable goal should be realistic, given your resources and limitations.</li><li>Relevant: A relevant goal should be meaningful and aligned with your values, priorities, and overall life goals.</li><li>Time-bound: A time-bound goal should have a deadline or timeline, providing a sense of urgency and helping you prioritize your efforts.</li></ol>

5 Components

For a goal to be considered achievable, it should have several key elements:<ul><li>Realistic: The goal should be realistic and achievable within your current resources, skills, and limitations.</li><li>Challenging: The goal should challenge you, but not be so difficult that it is unattainable.</li><li>Resources: The goal should be achievable with the resources available to you, such as time, money, and support.</li><li>Action plan: The goal should have a clear action plan, outlining the steps you need to take to achieve it.</li></ul>

Key elements to become ACHIEVABLE

"Successful people set goals. They know where they're going, and they work towards a definite purpose."

The "Relevant" component of SMART goals refers to the importance of a goal being relevant and aligned with your values, priorities, and overall life purpose. A relevant goal is one that has significance and meaning to you and is aligned with your long-term goals and aspirations.Setting relevant goals involves considering personal values, priorities, and life purpose, and ensuring alignment with these factors. This increases motivation and chances of success by making the goal significant and fitting into the overall life direction.

#4 Relevant

"A goal properly set is halfway reached."

For a goal to be considered specific, it should have several key elements:<ul><li>Clearly defined outcome: The goal should have a clear and defined outcome that is easy to understand and measure.</li><li>Detailed: The goal should have enough detail to clearly articulate what is expected.</li><li>Action-oriented: The goal should specify the actions required to achieve it so that you know what steps to take.</li><li>Focused: The goal should be focused and not too broad, allowing you to concentrate your efforts and make consistent progress.</li></ul>

Key Elements to be SPECIFIC

The "Time-bound" component of SMART goals refers to the need for a goal to have a specific deadline or time frame. This helps to create a sense of urgency and focus and ensures that the goal is not left open-ended or indefinitely postponed.Setting time-bound goals involve having a specific deadline for a sense of urgency and focus. A deadline also increases motivation and allows for flexibility in goal achievement.

#5 Time-bound

For a goal to be considered time-bound, it should have several key elements:<ul><li>Specific deadline: The goal should have a specific and clearly defined deadline or time frame.</li><li>Urgency: The deadline should create a sense of urgency and help to keep you focused and motivated as you work towards achieving your goal.</li><li>Flexibility: The deadline should be flexible enough to allow for adjustments or changes, if necessary.</li></ul>

Key elements to become TIME-BOUND

SMART goals are a widely used and effective method for setting and achieving personal and professional goals. The acronym SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound, and refers to a set of criteria that a goal should meet in order to be considered effective. The SMART goal-setting method helps individuals and organizations set goals that are well-defined, achievable, and aligned with their values and priorities

Be SMART

The SMART goal framework is a useful tool for setting clear, achievable, and measurable goals. The acronym SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. By following this framework, individuals can create goals that are well-defined, realistic, and aligned with their values and priorities, which increases the chances of success and motivation.

Take-home message

For a goal to be considered relevant, it should have several key elements:<ul><li>Personal significance: The goal should be meaningful to you, and align with your values, priorities, and overall life purpose.</li><li>Relevance to larger goals: The goal should be aligned with your larger goals and aspirations, and contribute to your overall life direction.</li><li>Relevance to the current situation: The goal should be relevant to your current situation, and take into consideration your current circumstances and limitations.</li></ul>

Key elements to become RELEVANT

The "Specific" component of SMART goals refers to the need for a goal to be well-defined and clearly outlined. A specific goal should answer questions such as "What do I want to accomplish?" and "How will I know when I have achieved it?" When a goal is specific, it helps to focus attention and avoid confusion or distractions.A specific goal helps focus, track progress, measure success, and stay motivated. To set specific goals, it's important to be detailed and precise for a clear understanding of what you want to achieve and how.

#1 Specific

For a goal to be considered measurable, it should have several key elements:<ul><li>Objectives: The goal should have well-defined objectives and metrics for measuring progress.</li><li>Quantifiable: The goal should be quantifiable, allowing you to track progress in a clear and tangible way.</li><li>Data-driven: The goal should be based on data and information, allowing you to track progress and adjust your strategy as needed.</li><li>Regular tracking: Regular tracking of progress is important in order to determine if you are on track to achieve the goal.</li></ul>

Key Elements to be MEASURABLE

The SMART framework helps individuals set clear, achievable, and relevant goals, with a sense of urgency, increasing motivation, focus, and chances of success. It clarifies goals, tracks progress, stays motivated, sets achievable goals, makes goals relevant and important, and sets a deadline for urgency.

Want a SMART goals quick overview? Or need to know what are SMART goals? Or would you like to see specific SMART goal examples? All of these questions are answered in this animate SMART goals video. The SMART goal acronym stands for: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time-bound. This simple goal-setting concept can become your secret weapon to achieving great things in your life. We all have dreams and aspirations. Many of us long for fulfilling relationships. Some desire personal freedom. Others want fame and success. And some strive for a profitable business or career. Wherever your ambitions may lie, SMART goal setting can get you there. So in this video, I will provide a quick overview of SMART goals and then show three examples for each of the seven areas of your life -- for a total of 21 examples. ⭐⭐ And if you want to take IMMEDIATE action on this strategy, then be sure to check out this FREE Printable SMART Goals Worksheet 👉 👉 https://www.developgoodhabits.com/sgm-yt NEXT VIDEOS TO WATCH: ○ 12 Good Morning Routine Habits of the World’s Most Successful People https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRir6egbZIg ○ Process Goals VS Outcome Goals: How to Set Goals You Can Actually Achieve https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tfQftLaQQ7Y ○ How to Build a New Habit That ACTUALLY Sticks: 9 Steps to Form a Good Habit https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KIJ-GQWSSC8 RESOURCES: ○ 4 Free SMART Goal Setting Worksheets and Templates: https://www.developgoodhabits.com/goal-setting-worksheet/ The Develop Good Habits channel focuses on helping you build new habits that stick. With our focus on self improvement, you will discover practical productivity tips to create the perfect work life balance in your life. Moreover, you will also see simple videos about productivity tips and how to maximize your morning routine. If you enjoy content about personal growth, then be sure to subscribe to our channel:: https://www.developgoodhabits.com/subscribe Disclosure: There might be affiliate links on this page, which means we get a small commission of anything you buy. As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases. Please do your own research before making any online purchase.

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Want a SMART goals quick overview?  Or need to know what are SMART goals?  Or would you like to see specific SMART goal examples?

All of these questions are answered in this animate SMART goals video.

The SMART goal acronym stands for: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time-bound.

This simple goal-setting concept can become your secret weapon to achieving great things in your life.  

We all have dreams and aspirations. Many of us long for fulfilling relationships. Some desire personal freedom. Others want fame and success. And some strive for a profitable business or career.

Wherever your ambitions may lie, SMART goal setting can get you there. 

So in this video, I will provide a quick overview of SMART goals and then show three examples for each of the seven areas of your life -- for a total of 21 examples.  

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NEXT VIDEOS TO WATCH: 

○ 12 Good Morning Routine Habits of the World’s Most Successful People    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRir6egbZIg
○ Process Goals VS Outcome Goals: How to Set Goals You Can Actually Achieve    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tfQftLaQQ7Y
○ How to Build a New Habit That ACTUALLY Sticks: 9 Steps to Form a Good Habit    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KIJ-GQWSSC8

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The Develop Good Habits channel focuses on helping you build new habits that stick.  With our focus on self improvement, you will discover practical productivity tips to create the perfect work life balance in your life.  Moreover, you will also see simple videos about productivity tips and how to maximize your morning routine.  If you enjoy content about personal growth, then be sure to subscribe to our channel:: https://www.developgoodhabits.com/subscribe 

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21 SMART Goals Examples

What is emotional intelligence? How do you improve yours? Why should you even care?Personally, I'm more likely to do things if they're easy. That's why I'm a big fan of the simplest emotional intelligence-improving idea I've ever come across: memorizing specific words and phrases that leverage emotions in positive ways to make it more likely you'll achieve your goals. Over time, these phrases become second-nature, you begin to notice why they work.

7 Smart Phrases People With High Emotional Intelligence Keep Saying Over and Over

Quick background on this one. People with high emotional intelligence understand that if you want someone to agree with you, or to choose the course of action you want them to follow, it makes sense to make it easy for them to do so.

5. "I make this mistake all the time ..."

Actually, this is a great example to leave things on, because it illustrates how practicing emotional intelligence doesn't always mean being nice to people. That can be a great side-effect, but it's not the ultimate goal.

“There is no separation of mind and emotions; emotions, thinking, and learning are all linked.”-Eric Jensen

Emotional Intelligence Quote

If there's a person on this beautiful planet of ours who isn't flattered when asked to give their advice, I haven't met them. So, almost no matter what else you follow this question with, people with high emotional intelligence know that it's geared to trigger a warm response.But, there's actually a centuries-old technique attached to this, in that people are also hard-wired to want to be able to help others -- or at the very least, to know that they could help others if they wanted to. (Ben Franklin wrote about this phenomenon in the 1770s.)

6. "Can I ask for some advice?"

It's sort of like learning phrases in a foreign language phonetically, only to realize after using them for a while that you better understand what they actually mean and how to spell them.Here are seven smart, simple, specific things that people with high emotional intelligence learn to say reflexively, over and over.

Politeness costs nothing. But people with high emotional intelligence understand that gratitude is one of the keys to happiness in life, which can only leave people feeling good about those who express it to them.<ul><li>Bonus point no. 1: Find opportunities to end conversations with expressions of sincere, uncontroversial thanks. (Emphasis on "uncontroversial." Things like "Thank you for taking the time to talk," as opposed to "Thank you for coming around to my point of view.")</li></ul>

2. "Thank you." (Also "please" and "you're welcome.")

Bottom line, the request suggests that others have or know something you don't. Emotionally intelligent people know that increases pride, and interest, and maybe willingness to cooperate.<ul><li> (Bonus level on this one, the next time you see the same person? "I took your suggestion to ...")</li></ul>

<ul><li>Bonus point no. 2: Saying "You're welcome," instead of more dismissive phrases like "No problem," acknowledges that you've done something for someone else that is worthy of gratitude. It's a trigger for positive reactions in others.</li></ul>They're such short phrases, and we use them all the time. But emotionally intelligent people do so intentionally--going into conversations looking for an opportunity to repeat them, because they learn how powerful they can be.

We'll end with a phrase that's truly next-level, because it probably presages something negative, but it works anyway. In short, these six words can only be taken as a compliment, but they're very likely to be followed by something more difficult:<ul><li>"I expect a lot from you, but this time you came up short."</li><li>"I expect a lot from you, and that's why I'm so disappointed."</li><li>"I want you here because you're amazing, and I need to know I can rely on you."</li></ul>

7. "I expect a lot from you ..."

Yes, I listed this one next because it's the seeming opposite of the previous phrase. But, good fences make good neighbors, and healthy boundaries make for healthy relationships. In short, people with high emotional intelligence understand that saying no when they're offered something they don't really want, whether it's a business opportunity or an invitation or a flyer on the street, is a mark of respect to other people. It says you respect your time, and you're going to respect other people's as well.

3. "No, thank you."

It sounds basic, but this is the exact opposite of the way many people try to persuade others to do things: basically by brute force. Just imagine the emotional reaction you'd have to someone saying each of the following two things to you, and comparatively how likely you'd be to go along:<ul><li>Example no. 1: "I can't believe you were so foolish as to make this mistake! You need to fix it right now!"</li><li>Example no. 2: "I make this mistake all the time; it's so easy to miss. I wonder if you'd check and see if you might have done something similar."</li></ul>

There's a lot of power packed into these six words, and emotionally intelligent people appreciate why. First, no matter what happens after this sentence, you've signaled to someone else that you care to make the attempt to understand where they're coming from. You're not assuming you understand and you're not ignoring them. You're making the effort.Second, the fact that it's phrased as a question? Chef's kiss. There's emotional power in asking permission like this, and it likely gives you leeway as you articulate your understanding.

4. "Can I see if I understand?"

On Dax Shepherd's Armchair Expert podcast, Bill Gates once explained how this kind of approach was key to his leadership style at Microsoft. Actually, Gates used a slightly different phrase: "The reason you're here is because you're amazing."But, as you might expect, it was often followed with something like, "But, you're not meeting expectations at the moment." These kinds of phrases are designed to leverage other people's pride and even guilt, to get them to perform.

"Why" is a magic word. It's like a linguistic can opener that pries motivations free, and separates emotion from objectivity. <ul><li>"Why are we all competing to buy the same product?"</li><li>"Why am I working so hard on this one particular project?"</li><li>"Why am I so quick to respond when this demanding client asks something of me?"</li><li>"Why am I still working late nights and weekends, when my family would rather have me home?"</li><li>"Why is the person in that car yelling at me?"</li></ul>

1. "Let's think about why."

Finally, it's powerful because if you're asking to understand, you're not saying things that are less effective at building rapport; for example, summarily assuming "Look, I know how you feel."Whether we're talking about people's deep convictions, or their experiences -- or even the details of a supply they need to purchase, or driving directions -- everyone wants to be understood. But, most people also understand how difficult it is to do that, if you truly mean it.Anyway, ask the question like this, and then articulate what you think you understand as a test. You'll be amazed at the results.

People who challenge themselves to ask this question over and over, both silently (to themselves) and out loud, are more likely to find the things that they're emotionally motivated to achieve, and to avoid the ones they don't.And when they find unhealthy emotions acting as the driving forces, they can look elsewhere.

See what I mean? Granted, "I make this mistake" is a bit of a placeholder phrase on this list; the point is to use your words to create emotional safety valves that make it easier for people to shed negative emotions in any situation, and simply act in your interest.Starting out by stating that you often make the very mistake you're about to discuss suggests that there's not an issue of moral failing or superiority here (warning: bad emotions!). You're just looking for answers.

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'Why is the person in that car yelling at me?'

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Make yourself useful. Instead of consuming so much information, products, and entertainment from others, spend a fraction of that time on creating something yourself.

Create something

You always pay for something with money, time (the most valuable thing you have), or other resources.Life is a business. And smart business people spend their resources wisely.

Nothing in life is free

Wrong reasons to start relationships include money, fear of being alone, abuse, needing attention.The foundation of all relationships should be based on love, respect, support, trust, patience, good company, laughter, sadness, and more support.

A firm foundation for relationships

... in order to improve your self-confidence.You only improve your self-confidence by becoming good at something: By learning, doing, seeing results, and repeating that process for years. Your confidence will grow slowly every day.

Improve your skills

Don’t believe all the success stories you see everywhere. YouTubers, Instagram models, millionaire entrepreneurs: They seem perfect. But you only see the outside.You don’t have to be a cynic. Just don’t take appearances for facts.

Don’t believe everything you see

“People don’t like to think, if one thinks, one must reach conclusions. Conclusions are not always pleasant.”

Waiting, postponing, doubting, researching too much — it’s all not useful. Get your act together, and decide firmly whenever you have to make one. And when you made the wrong decision, own it, apologize, and make another decision.

Never be afraid of making decisions

Every time you experience stress over a problem, you’re basically sabotaging your life.A problem is nothing but an unanswered question. So stay calm. And figure out the answer.

Problems are unanswered questions

We’re social animals. When we’re alone, we die early.  So be nice to each other. And respect that your friends also have lives of their own.

Value your friends

You control your thoughts. That means you decide what you do with your life. If you’re unsatisfied, angry, or frustrated, that’s all you.

Happiness is a choice

It’s fuel for you. You can use criticism to improve yourself, your product, or your service. Or, if the criticism makes no sense, it can make you angry, which is also a good thing. That type of anger is useful. “I’ll show them!”

Learn to love criticism

If you can’t take care of your body, you can’t take care of anything.You can influence your health by eating healthy, exercising, and treating your body with respect.

Take care of your body

Being a leader also has nothing to do with your title.When everyone looks at each other because no one wants to take responsibility, decide that you will take responsibility.

Decide to become a leader

Never let anything hold you back when you think of ideas.You’ve got nothing to lose. Just make sure you act small. Put in the work and stay practical.

Think big, act small

In almost everything you do, you're selling yourself.When you sell, be transparent, honest, and to the point. Don’t waste your time on people who don’t like you anyway.

See yourself as a salesperson

There’s only one thing that helps you to go from nothing to something: You have to put in the work. Make sure you value effectiveness over everything. Results matter. Get things done and move on to the next thing.

Productivity yields results

I'm the last person to say that life is easy. I don't think that's the case at all. But there's one thing I've learned in recent years that changed everything. The way you THINK determines the outcome of your life. But thinking is hard. That's why we don't do it often enough.

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