If you want to create a new habit, you have to make it easy to integrate by decreasing the activation energy for the habits you want to implement. In a nutshell: the less time it takes to get done (ideally 20 seconds or less), the more likely you’re going to do it!The 20-second rule teaches us how to replace bad habits with good ones to create happiness in our lives.

#6: The 20-Second Rule

When over a thousand highly successful professional men and women were interviewed as they approached retirement and asked what had motivated them the most, throughout their careers, overwhelmingly they placed work friendships above both financial gain and individual status.The more social support you have, the happier you are.

#7: Social Investment

Happiness is not the belief that we don't need to change; it is the realization that we can.

There are 3 types of reaction when we face failure -(1) No change, (2) More bad things happening - Worse than before, and -(3) Falling Up: Accepting the failure, learning from the mistakes, the failure makes us stronger.Falling Up is the way to respond to any failure which will make us stronger and happier in the long run.

#4: Falling up

<ul><li>Meditation: Studies show that after meditation you experience feelings of calm and contentment. 5 minutes of meditation is enough. </li><li>Find something to look forward to.</li><li>Commit conscious acts of kindness.</li><li>Infuse positivity into your surroundings.</li><li>Exercise.</li><li>Spend money (but not on stuff).</li><li>Exercise a signature strength.</li></ul>

Raise Your Happiness Level

"Happiness is not the other side of success. Success does not create happiness. Happiness creates Success."

We think the happiness equation looks like thisWork Hard -> Success -> HappinessBut in reality:Happiness + Positive Mindset -> Success'Waiting to be happy limits our brain potential for success, whereas cultivating positive positive brains makes us more motivated, efficient, resilient, creative & productive which drives performance upward. '

#1: The Happiness Advantage

<ol><li>Happiness is not just a mood - it's work ethic.</li><li>By changing our reaction to every action, we can change our viewpoint to process the world.</li><li>Try to scan for positive - You'll be able to experience happiness, gratitude, and optimism.</li><li>Take Failure as an opportunity to grow.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The most successful people, in work and in life, believe that their actions have a direct effect on their outcomes. </li></ol>

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"The most successful people often see adversity not as a stumbling block, but as a stepping stone to greatness."

Just like the game of Tetris, you can think that every block that is falling makes your position better or worse than before. If you consider it to be 'Better' then it's The Positive Tetris Effect.In life, if you go along with the 'Positive Tetris' mindset i.e, everything that is happening to you is making you better than before, then you will see more opportunities and become happier and the inverse is also true (The Negative Tetris Effect)

#3: The Tetris Effect

“The most successful people invest in their friends, peers, and family members to propel themselves forward.”

"Happiness is not all about yellow smiley faces and rainbows. For me, happiness is the joy we feel after striving our potential."

“The most successful people, in work and in life, are those who have what psychologists call an ‘internal locus of control,’ the belief that their actions have a direct effect on their outcomes.”By tackling one small challenge at a time—a narrow circle that slowly expands outward—we can relearn that our actions do have a direct effect on our outcomes and that we are largely the masters of our own fates.

#5: The Zorro Circle

"Give me a lever long enough and a fulcrum on which to place it, and I shall move the world." --ArchimedesThe fulcrum is actually our mindset and the lever is the power or potential. This principle teaches us how to adjust our way of thinking in such a way that it offers us the power to be more fulfilled and successful.We just need to get a long lever (the power) and a fulcrum (mindset) to place (at the right position), and then everything is possible!

#2: The Fulcrum and the Lever

"Happiness Advantage" by Shawn Achor posits that happiness leads to success, not the other way around. It provides strategies for maintaining positivity and increasing happiness to enhance performance and achieve success.

INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER • An engaging, deeply researched guide to flourishing in a world of increasing stress and negativity—the inspiration for one of the most popular TED Talks of all time “Powerful [and] charming . . . A book for just about anyone . . . The philosophies in this book are easily the best wire frames to build a happy and successful life.”—Medium Happiness is not the belief that we don’t need to change; it is the realization that we can. Our most commonly held formula for success is broken. Conventional wisdom holds that once we succeed, we’ll be happy; that once we get that great job, win that next promotion, lose those five pounds, happiness will follow. But the science reveals this formula to be backward: Happiness fuels success, not the other way around.   Research shows that happy employees are more productive, more creative, and better problem solvers than their unhappy peers. And positive people are significantly healthier and less stressed and enjoy deeper social interaction than the less positive people around them.   Drawing on original research—including one of the largest studies of happiness ever conducted—and work in boardrooms and classrooms across forty-two countries, Shawn Achor shows us how to rewire our brains for positivity and optimism to reap the happiness advantage in our lives, our careers, and even our health. His strategies include:   • The Tetris Effect: how to retrain our brains to spot patterns of possibility so we can see and seize opportunities all around us • Social Investment: how to earn the dividends of a strong social support network • The Ripple Effect: how to spread positive change within our teams, companies, and families   By turns fascinating, hopeful, and timely, The Happiness Advantage reveals how small shifts in our mind-set and habits can produce big gains at work, at home, and elsewhere.

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Shawn Achor is an American educator, author, and speaker known for his advocacy of positive psychology. He is best known for his research reversing the formula of success leading to happiness—his research shows that happiness in fact leads to success. Achor spent 12 years studying what makes people happy at Harvard University. He later authored The Happiness Advantage and founded the Institute of Positive Research and GoodThinkInc. His TEDx talk "The Happy Secret to Better Work" is one of the 20-most viewed TED talks.

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The Happiness Advantage

The author emphasizes the importance of taking small, consistent actions every day to achieve success. He also encourages readers to think deeply about what they want their lives to represent and to be more loving, authentic, and creative. The book is a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve their life and achieve their full potential.

Small Daily Acts of Greatness

This idea emphasizes the importance of continuous learning. It suggests carrying a book everywhere, taking a speed-reading course, and reading a book a day. It also highlights that all answers to any questions are in print, and we become the books we read. The section encourages us to read more, learn more, and be aware of our associations. It concludes by stating that as we learn more, we can do more, and as we know better, we can choose better.

How to Be a Life-Long Learner

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Robin Sharma asserts that everyone has a purpose and mission in life. He encourages individuals to discover their destiny by understanding themselves deeply and listening to their heart and soul. Once this destiny is found, it should be lived fully and authentically, serving others and making a positive impact. Sharma emphasizes that living one’s destiny is the best way to honor oneself and avoid regret. He believes that destiny and leadership are interconnected, and by living one’s destiny, one can inspire others to greatness.

Destiny and Leadership

“Microadventures” is about rediscovering joy in simple activities from our childhood. It could be skipping stones, making snow angels, or just being playful. Engaging in these activities can bring happiness and fulfillment. This concept encourages us to live fully each day, contributing to a great life.

The Value of Microadventures

The "11 Rules for a Deeply Rewarding Life" essentially guide us towards a fulfilling life. They emphasize the importance of valuing relationships over possessions, being authentic, learning from failures, showing kindness, taking risks, continual learning, building deep relationships, exceeding expectations, and aiming for excellence. The core idea is to live each day fully, contributing to a great life.

The 11 Rules for a Deeply Rewarding Life

Authentic leadership is all about being the person you know in your heart you have always been destined to be.

The author believes that elite performers play victor versus victim. He also suggests that elite performers spend more time thinking, get into balance, take calculated risks, be more loving, and be different. In addition, he provides six ways to achieve personal greatness, including writing out a 20-year plan for your professional and personal life, spending more time thinking, getting into balance, taking calculated risks, being more loving, and being different. Finally, he emphasizes the value of your reputation and how to guard it as one of your most cherished assets.

Work as a Planet-Class Performance

The author suggests five philosophies that will help the reader live a big life, such as recording a definite chief aim statement, creating a dream team, creating success structures, taking big action, and paying attention to their associations.The author explains that these philosophies will help the reader to follow their bliss, to create the experience of life they want, to awaken their potential, and to close the gap between who they are and who they are meant to be.

How to Live a Big Life

"Ambidextrous Leadership" emphasizes the importance of balance in achieving success. It suggests that striving too much is akin to trying to control your destiny and force outcomes. On the other hand, merely stating your intentions without taking action can lead to spiritual apathy. The key to real success lies in being both practical and spiritual. It involves declaring your intentions, clarifying your vision, taking action, and then accepting that even if things don't go as planned, all is for the best. This approach promotes a sense of coherence and trust in life's unfolding process.

Ambidextrous Leadership

The section "Why Keep a Journal" emphasizes the importance of journaling as a tool for personal discovery and elite performance. It suggests that journaling allows you to process unfelt emotions, record your dreams, deepen your understanding, and strengthen your commitment. It also mentions that writing in a journal helps you learn from life, making you wiser each day. The act of writing deepens your resolve to make good things happen in your life. This simple act allows you to be more proactive rather than reactive in your daily life.

Why Keep a Journal

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This point outlines some of the key characteristics and habits of elite performers, who are people who excel in their personal and professional domains. Some of these traits include playing victor versus victim, focusing on the worthy, living their truth, building human connections, adding outrageous value, and being devoted to excellence. It also offers a process that can help anyone become truly excellent in what they do.

What Makes an Elite Performer

This point urges us to stop postponing our happiness and fulfillment until some future date, and instead to embrace the present moment as the best time to live our biggest lives. It reminds us that we have the power to choose how we show up each day, and that we can align our actions with our highest values and vision. It also challenges us to take more risks, be more authentic, and be more loving, as these are the things that most people regret not doing when they face their mortality.

Live Fully Now

Robin Sharma suggests that your success is influenced by your associations. Spending time with exceptional people can positively impact your mindset and performance. Wealth and leadership extend beyond just making money. Sharma identifies eight elements of true success: inner wealth, physical wealth, family and social wealth, career wealth, economic wealth, circle of genius, and adventure success. By focusing on these, you can achieve personal greatness and become an elite performer.

The Power of Your Associations

This iead emphasizes the importance of balance in achieving success. It suggests that striving too much is akin to trying to control your destiny and force outcomes. On the other hand, merely stating your intentions without taking action can lead to spiritual apathy. The key to real success lies in being both practical and spiritual. It involves declaring your intentions, clarifying your vision, taking action, and then accepting that even if things don't go as planned, all is for the best. This approach promotes a sense of coherence and trust in life's unfolding process.

A Balanced Model for Success

The Steve Jobs Question is a phrase that refers to the question Steve Jobs asked himself every day: "If today were the last day of your life, would you want to be doing what you’re doing?" Jobs believed that asking this question helped him stay focused on what was important and avoid wasting time on things that didn’t matter. Jobs was known for his relentless pursuit of excellence and his ability to inspire others to do their best work. He was a visionary leader who transformed the technology industry and left a lasting legacy.

The Steve Jobs Question

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"The Mastery Manual" by Robin Sharma is a comprehensive guide to personal and professional greatness, offering 36 modules that encompass leadership lessons, inspirational quotes, reflective journaling questions, and practical application strategies, covering a wide range of topics from living fully and finding your destiny, to mastering your craft and leaving a lasting legacy. The book's ultimate goal is to help readers unlock their potential, excel in their field, and make a positive impact on the world.

A Life-Changing Guide for Personal and Professional Greatness A MANUAL FOR DREAMERS + WORLD-CHANGERS You have genius in you. And the fact you now hold this book is testimony that you are ready to translate your gifts and talents into reality. So you and our world rise. This life-changing manifesto by legendary leadership and personal mastery expert Robin Sharma will show you how to:■  Turn fear into fuel and procrastination into power■  Leverage small daily wins into gargantuan victories ■  Reinvent yourself as an elite producer who dominates your field■  Master your inner world to create a monumental outer one■  Balance great achievements with rest, happiness and a beautiful spiritual life ■  Make your mark and leave a legacy  ROBIN SHARMA is a globally respected humanitarian. Widely considered one of the world’s top leadership and personal optimization advisors, his clients include famed billionaires, professional sports superstars and many Fortune 100 companies. The author’s #1 bestsellers, such as The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari, The Greatness Guide and The Leader Who Had No Title are in over 92 languages, making him one of the most broadly read writers alive today.Go to robinsharma.com for more inspiration + valuable resources to upgrade your life “Robin Sharma’s Following Rivals that of the Dalai Lama.” The Times of India “Global Humanitarian.”CNN “Leadership Legend.” Forbes

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This chapter explains how to admit your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. It argues that this will make the other person feel less defensive and more willing to listen to your feedback. It also shows that you are humble and honest and that you have high standards for yourself and others. The chapter also warns against using insincere or exaggerated confessions, as that would only backfire and damage your credibility.

Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person

This chapter introduces the second principle of human relations: Smile. The author explains that a smile is a simple but powerful way to show friendliness, warmth, and interest in others. He cites examples of how a smile can make people more attractive, more persuasive, and more successful. He also gives tips on how to smile sincerely and genuinely, even when feeling unhappy or stressed. He suggests that smiling can improve one’s mood and attitude, as well as the mood and attitude of others. He concludes that a smile is a valuable asset that costs nothing but creates much.

Smile

This chapter advises how to avoid giving direct orders that may offend or provoke resistance from the other person. It suggests using questions or suggestions instead of commands and letting the other person feel that he or she has some choice or control over the situation. The chapter gives examples of how leaders like Henry Ford, Ralph Waldo Emerson, and Abraham Lincoln used this technique to influence their workers, friends, and generals. The chapter also explains why this technique works, based on the psychological principle of respect for the other person’s ego.

Ask questions instead of giving direct orders

The author argues that admitting one’s mistakes is a sign of courage and honesty, and it can prevent arguments and resentment. He gives examples of how people like Abraham Lincoln, a businessman named Warren, and a Confederate general named Lee admitted their errors and gained respect and sympathy from others. He also gives tips on how to admit one’s faults gracefully and sincerely, such as using humor or self-criticism. He concludes that admitting one’s wrongs is a powerful way to influence people and build trust.

If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically

This chapter teaches how to avoid hurting the other person’s pride or dignity when you have to correct or criticize them. It argues that humiliating or embarrassing the other person will only make them resentful and hostile, and damage your relationship. It suggests using tact and diplomacy, and giving the other person a chance to explain or justify themselves. The chapter gives examples of how leaders like Confucius, Benjamin Franklin, and J. P. Morgan used this technique to deal with their opponents, rivals, and partners.

Let the other person save face

The author explains that arguing with people is futile and harmful because it makes them defensive, resentful, and stubborn. He gives examples of how famous people like Abraham Lincoln, Benjamin Franklin, and Socrates avoided arguments and used tact and diplomacy instead. He also gives tips on how to handle disagreements gracefully and respectfully, such as listening first, finding areas of agreement, admitting mistakes, and postponing action. He concludes that avoiding arguments is a better way to influence people than trying to prove them wrong.

The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it

The author explains that people are more likely to agree with you if you start with points of common interest and avoid direct contradiction. He illustrates this principle with the example of Socrates, who used skillful questioning to lead his opponents to his conclusions. He also gives practical tips on how to apply this principle in business and personal situations, such as finding out what the other person wants, asking questions that elicit a positive response, and postponing action until both sides are in a cooperative mood.

Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.

This chapter explains the second principle of human relations: Give honest and sincere appreciation. The author claims that people crave for recognition and praise and that giving them genuine appreciation can win their cooperation and loyalty. He warns against flattery, which is insincere and manipulative. He gives examples of how leaders like Lincoln, Schwab, and Carnegie used appreciation to motivate and influence others. He advises us to look for the good in people and make them feel important.

Give honest and sincere appreciation

The author explains that people who have a grievance or a complaint want to be heard and understood. By listening patiently and sympathetically, you can let them vent their emotions and calm down. You can also learn more about their situation and their point of view. The author gives examples of how this principle helped salespeople, managers, and spouses to deal with difficult customers, employees, and partners. He also warns against interrupting, arguing, or contradicting the other person while they are talking.

Let the other person do a great deal of the talking

The author explains that people are more likely to cooperate and accept our ideas if we show them respect and empathy. He suggests that we avoid telling people they are wrong or giving orders, and instead ask questions that let them discover the truth for themselves. He gives examples of how this principle helped a sales manager, a lawyer, a teacher, and a parent to get cooperation from others. He also quotes Socrates, Galileo, and Benjamin Franklin to illustrate the power of this approach.

Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.

This chapter teaches how to avoid discouraging or demoralizing the other person when you point out their mistakes or shortcomings. It recommends using encouragement and optimism, and making the other person feel that the fault is minor and easy to fix. The chapter gives examples of how leaders like Thomas Edison, Harvey Firestone, and J. Pierpont Morgan used this technique to deal with their inventors, mechanics, and bankers. The chapter also explains why this technique works, based on the psychological principle of motivation.

Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct

This chapter explains how to persuade and influence people to do what you want them to do, without using coercion or threats. It suggests using positive reinforcement, such as praise, appreciation, and rewards, and appealing to the other person’s noble motives, such as fairness, justice, and goodwill. The chapter gives examples of how leaders like Franklin D. Roosevelt, Woodrow Wilson, and Andrew Carnegie used this technique to win over their opponents, allies, and employees. The chapter also explains why this technique works, based on the psychological principle of reciprocity.

Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest

The author explains that people have a deep need to feel valued and appreciated and that one of the quickest ways to make someone like you is to show genuine interest and admiration for them. He gives examples of how famous people like Andrew Carnegie, and Franklin D. Roosevelt used this skill to win the loyalty and cooperation of others. He also gives tips on how to use praise, appreciation, and encouragement effectively and sincerely. He concludes that making the other person feel important is one of the most powerful ways to make a lasting impression and influence people positively.

Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely

The author explains that most people are more interested in their own lives and opinions than in anything else and that they appreciate someone who listens attentively and sympathetically to them. He gives examples of how successful people have used this skill to win friends and influence people. He also gives tips on how to show genuine interest, avoid interruptions, and make the other person feel important. He concludes that being a good listener is one of the easiest and most effective ways to make a good impression and build rapport with others.

Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves

you should try to understand and respect the other person’s feelings and goals, even if they are different from yours. You should avoid judging, arguing, or dismissing their ideas and desires, and instead show that you care about them and their perspective. This will help you build rapport, trust, and cooperation with the other person, and make them more open to your ideas and suggestions. Being sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires is one of the principles of winning people to your way of thinking, according to Dale Carnegie.

Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires

This chapter advises how to change people’s behavior and attitude by changing their labels or nickname. It suggests using positive and flattering names that imply desirable qualities, such as “the best salesman in the office” or “the most reliable worker in the team”. The chapter gives examples of how leaders like Al Capone, George Eastman, and Abraham Lincoln used this technique to influence their gangsters, employees, and generals. The chapter also explains why this technique works, based on the psychological principle of suggestion.

Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise

This chapter teaches the first principle of human relations: Don’t criticize, condemn or complain. Criticism hurts people’s pride and makes them resist change. The author gives examples of criminals, Lincoln, and others to show the effects of criticism and understanding. He advises us to improve ourselves, reward good behavior, and appreciate people’s motives. This will help us get along with people better.

Don’t criticize, condemn or complain

This chapter introduces the third principle of human relations: Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. The author explains that remembering and using people’s names is a powerful way to make them feel valued, respected, and important. He gives examples of how successful leaders, politicians, and businessmen have used this skill to win friends and influence people. He also gives tips on how to remember names and avoid forgetting them. He concludes that remembering names is a key to success in any field of endeavor.

Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language

The author explains that people are more likely to listen and respond positively to someone who shows an interest in what they care about. He gives examples of how famous leaders like Theodore Roosevelt and Franklin D. Roosevelt used this skill to win the respect and admiration of others. He also gives tips on how to research and discover the interests of the people you want to talk to. He concludes that talking in terms of the other person’s interests is one of the best ways to make a good impression and build rapport with others.

Talk in terms of the other person’s interests

This chapter explains how to motivate people to do their best by appealing to their competitive spirit and desire for achievement. It argues that people are often bored and uninterested in their work or tasks, and need a challenge to arouse their enthusiasm and creativity. The chapter gives examples of how Charles Schwab, Andrew Carnegie, and other successful leaders used challenges to inspire their workers and associates to accomplish extraordinary results. The chapter also suggests some ways to create challenges, such as setting high goals, offering rewards, or stimulating friendly rivalry.

Throw down a challenge

"You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him to find it within himself."

This chapter introduces the first principle of human relations: Become genuinely interested in other people. The author argues that people are not interested in us, but in themselves, and that the only way to win their friendship and influence is to show sincere interest in them and their affairs. He gives examples of how this principle works in sales, business letters, social situations and personal relationships. He advises us to cultivate a curiosity and enthusiasm for people and to ask ourselves: “What is there about him or her that I can admire?”

Become genuinely interested in other people

The author explains that telling someone they are wrong is a sure way of making enemies and arousing resentment. He gives examples of how successful people like Benjamin Franklin, Socrates, and Charles Schwab avoided arguments and showed respect for others’ views. He also gives tips on how to disagree diplomatically and tactfully, such as using phrases like “I may be wrong” or “It appears to me”. He concludes that respecting others’ opinions is a better way to influence people than trying to show them they are wrong.

Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, ‘You’re wrong.’

This chapter explains how to appeal to the nobler motives of people when trying to persuade them to do something. It argues that people are more likely to respond positively if they feel that they are acting for a good cause, rather than for selfish or petty reasons. The chapter gives examples of how leaders like Abraham Lincoln, Charles Schwab, and Henry Ford used this principle to motivate their followers, employees, and customers. It also suggests some phrases that can be used to appeal to the nobler motives of people, such as “I don’t doubt that you want to do what is fair and right.”

Appeal to the nobler motives

This chapter explains the third principle of human relations: Arouse in the other person an eager want. The author argues that people are motivated by their own desires, not by ours and that we can influence them by showing them how our proposal benefits them. He gives examples of how to use this principle in sales, business letters, negotiations, and personal situations. He advises us to ask ourselves: “How can I make this person want to do it?” and to appeal to their interests and needs.

Arouse in the other person an eager want

This chapter teaches how to give constructive criticism without arousing resentment or anger. It recommends using some techniques such as beginning with praise, calling attention to mistakes indirectly, talking about your own mistakes, asking questions instead of orders, letting the other person save face, praising every improvement, giving a fine reputation to live up to, using encouragement, and making the other person happy about doing what you suggest. The chapter illustrates these techniques with examples from various fields and situations, such as business, education, and family life.

Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly

This chapter advises how to criticize someone without offending them or hurting their pride. It suggests that before pointing out a mistake or a flaw, you should start with a sincere praise or appreciation for something good that the person has done. This will make them feel valued and respected, and more willing to accept your feedback. The chapter gives examples of how famous leaders like Abraham Lincoln, Napoleon, and Ralph Waldo Emerson used this technique to correct their subordinates, friends, and family members.

Begin with praise and honest appreciation

This book shows the importance of avoiding criticism and understanding human nature in dealing with people. It also gives some suggestions on how to get the most out of reading the book, such as reviewing it frequently, applying the principles in daily life, and keeping a record of one’s progress. The web page aims to persuade the reader that mastering the art of human relations can lead to a richer, fuller, happier, and more fulfilling life.

In the present book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie says, "You can make someone want to do what you want them to do by seeing the situation from the other person's point of view and arousing in the other person an eager want." You learn how to make people like you, win people over to your way of thinking, and change people without causing offense or arousing resentment. For instance, "let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers" and "talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person." This book is all about building relationships. With good relationships, personal and business successes are easy and swift to achieve.

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Updated for today’s readers, Dale Carnegie’s timeless bestseller How to Win Friends and Influence People is a classic that has improved and transformed the professional and personal and lives of millions. One of the best-known motivational guides in history, Dale Carnegie’s groundbreaking book has sold tens of millions of copies, been translated into almost every known language, and has helped countless people succeed. Originally published during the depths of the Great Depression—and equally valuable during booming economies or hard times—Carnegie’s rock-solid, time-tested advice has carried countless people up the ladder of success in their professional and personal lives. How to Win Friends and Influence People teaches you: -How to communicate effectively -How to make people like you -How to increase your ability to get things done -How to get others to see your side -How to become a more effective leader -How to successfully navigate almost any social situation -And so much more! Achieve your maximum potential with this updated version of a classic—a must-read for the 21st century.

Dale Carnegie was an American writer and lecturer, and the developer of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills.

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In Japanese, the word Kaizen translates to many things, but the main idea is simply “change.” To take advantage of the power of change, you need to <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/mini-habits-summary/">start with your habits</a>. Which means you’ll have to look hard at the habits you already have.Your brain is always making habits as a way to save power on repeated behaviours. This preserves your mental energy for bigger, tougher tasks. But because it’s so automatic, you might form unwanted habits.

Kaizen Is Incremental Growth

Try setting your alarm just five minutes earlier and see if it makes a change to how rushed you feel getting out of the door. If this works, try extending this further by five-minute increments each week. Just having a bit more time to get your belongings together can have a huge impact.

Wake Up Just Five Minutes Earlier

Rather than sitting at your computer with a blank page in front of you, trying to magically be blessed with inspiration, try to do a small writing challenge each day instead. This can be the springboard for a bigger writing project and will get you in the habit of putting words down on the page. There are lots of podcasts and blogs dedicated to writing challenges.

Sticking To Your Hobby: A Writing Challenge

Change is infectious and when success is achieved in one area, you are encouraged to apply the same techniques to another area of your life. This is referred to as yokoten or ‘horizontal deployment’, i.e. copying what works in one area to see if it works in another.The philosophy of Kaizen is just as easy to apply to individual change as to change in a business; it is about setting long-term, medium-term and short-term goals, then thinking of small, incremental adjustments you can make to work towards these goals.

Yokoten: Horizontal Deployment

If you want to eat healthier, for instance, maybe you just add one vegetable to your plate each week to start. Once that habit has stuck, you can add more.Experts recommend this because it keeps you going in the normally difficult early stages. You’re also more likely to stick with your goal in the long-term when you follow this method, too!

The Eating Better Habit

Kaizen is a lifelong commitment to change, so there may be times when your motivation waivers or when you fall on hard times (unless you’re the luckiest person in the world). Nobody is perfect, and the idea isn’t to achieve complete perfection. It’s about approaching life as an exciting journey and opportunity for improvement.There will be inevitable stumbling blocks along the way, but there are some methods to keep in mind to make sure you continue with Kaizen.

Stumbling Blocks

Kaizen is a Japanese philosophy centered around incremental growth, and it begins with evaluating your habits.The best way to reach your big goals is to start with such a small step that the difference is barely noticeable.Track your progress with your habits by reviewing them regularly.

The Three Key Takeaways From Kaizen

Small changes like these aren’t usually easy to make because we don’t see the rewards immediately. In contrast, it’s easier to give in to a bad habit because they involve things that do reward us instantly. Kaizen fixes this problem by focusing on changing things in such a tiny way that your brain hardly notices. Ask yourself “What tiny steps can I take to move me closer to my goal?” Don’t discount things that seem ridiculously easy, either. They work!

Make The First Step Extremely Small

With many little strokes a large tree is felled

If your brain is still whirring, another idea is to get a piece of paper and write out a ‘brain dump’ of everything that is on your mind from that day. It doesn’t have to be anything coherent or fully formed – just write out everything that is troubling you. This can also be a really useful exercise if you wake up in the middle of the night and are unable to go back to sleep.

Do A Brain Dump

Start by interrogating your habits to make an inventory of your life. Get a piece of paper, divide it into the major sections of your life. Then, go through all areas of life and ask yourself if you’re doing all you can to be happy in that area. Dig deep to find out what you really seek. When you’re done with that, finish by writing down your biggest aspirations in each category.

Make An Inventory Of Life

Kaizen works best when you use a tracking system.Doing so helps you see the barely noticeable gradual changes. Your progress can then motivate you to keep going and show you additional areas where you can do better.Create your own journaling method to track your goals. Bullet journaling is one option that works really well for many people. You can also get a physical notebook and create your own by writing the days of the month and your goals and checking off which days you accomplish your goals.

Review Your Habits And Track Your Progress

Remembering the Kaizen approach and introducing a new activity into your routine with the least amount of disruption will mean you are more likely to stick to it. It can help to peg the activity to something you already do.Start knitting while you watch the evening news every day, or use the ten minutes waiting for your morning coffee to brew to write one hundred words of your novel. When you get home from work, dedicate ten minutes to practising the piano before you do anything else.

Sticking To Your Hobby: Start Off Small

The emphasis in Kaizen is always on doing things in small stages and treating the idea of change as an ongoing process rather than a quick-fix ‘to-do list’

First Kaizen step: if you’re having a tough time, keep a record of one small thing that you have achieved each day, then look back on this when things are feeling better and congratulate yourself on your resilience and for getting through.

Living The Kaizen Philosophy Everyday

Just six minutes of reading before bed has been shown to reduce stress levels by two-thirds and promote good sleep. Choose a couple of nights of the week where you read before bed rather than look at a screen and see if it makes a difference.

Read A Good Book

Part of practising self-compassion is not over-stretching yourself by doing things that you don’t want to do. Do you find that you are overwhelmed with trying to see everybody and fit everything in? Try to designate at least one or two nights per week for vegging out, doing your washing and cooking something healthy. Having more control over your own schedule and setting boundaries can feel wondrously liberating.

Learning To Say No: Setting Boundaries

Rather than trying to fit in your new activity when you have a small break from all of your other commitments, allocate some set time to your new hobby. Fill out the time in your calendar and set a reminder so that you definitely don’t plan anything else in its place.

Sticking To Your Hobby: Commit Spending Time

Kaizen is not one-size-fits-all; one person’s experience of it will be entirely different from another’s. The important thing is to listen to your mind and body, then create good habits that work for you and let go of the ones that aren’t doing you any favours.  The emphasis is on continuous improvement, so you should always be thinking about ways you can be tweaking your routine or simplifying your life. Staying mindful of your feelings and behaviours will mean that you will be more aware of when you need to take a step back or if you need a new challenge to get you out of a rut.

Bottom Line: Change For Good

Kaizen is useful for anybody wishing to change their routine. Rather than making any scary leaps into the dark, it is about stepping back and analysing your current habits, deciding what you could improve in your existing life, or thinking of new challenges you could start, then putting into place a plan to change in very small incremental stages. You will hardly even notice the difference to your routine.

Continuous Improvement

Focus your attention on improving just one room and see the effect it has on your mental state and how you feel about your home. It may spur you on to want to tackle more rooms in the house. And if you live with others, don’t take all of the burden on yourself; involve your partner, your children and your friends. A stress-free home will benefit them as much as you.

Your Home

Kaizen is Japanese for “change for the better” or “continuous improvement,” and the author explains this business philosophy that has expanded into the personal growth arena to give a clear pathway to reaching your goals through consistent incremental changes.

Reach your goals with Kaizen—the Japanese art of gentle self-improvement From Hygge to Ikigai, positive philosophies have taken the world by storm. Now, Kaizen—meaning “good change”—will help you transform your habits, without being too hard on yourself along the way. With Kaizen, even the boldest intention becomes a series of small, achievable steps. Each person’s approach will be different, which is why it’s so effective. First popularized by Toyota, Kaizen is already proven in the worlds of business and sports. Here, Sarah Harvey shows how to apply it to your health, relationships, money, career, hobbies, and home—and how to tailor it to your personality. Kaizen is the key to lasting change!

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Habits

Reach your goals with Kaizen—the Japanese art of gentle self-improvement From Hygge to Ikigai, positive philosophies have taken the world by storm. Now, Kaizen—meaning “good change”—will help you transform your habits, without being too hard on yourself along the way. With Kaizen, even the boldest intention becomes a series of small, achievable steps. Each person’s approach will be different, which is why it’s so effective. First popularized by Toyota, Kaizen is already proven in the worlds of business and sports. Here, Sarah Harvey shows how to apply it to your health, relationships, money, career, hobbies, and home—and how to tailor it to your personality. Kaizen is the key to lasting change!

Sarah Harvey is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Sarah Harvey has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Sarah Harvey's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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The Call of the Soul is the first stage of self-awakening when you sense a gap between who you are and who you could be. This awakening creates a longing for fulfillment, happiness, and harmony that external success cannot satisfy. It is a crucial step toward discovering your destiny, but it requires courage to face your fears, doubts, and insecurities. The Call of the Soul can happen at any time and in any situation, and it should not be ignored or resisted. By following this inner voice, you can discover your true purpose and live your best life.

The Call of the Soal

In Stage 5, The Road Less Travelled, you trust your intuition and inner guidance and embrace uncertainty and change. By following your own path and listening to your inner voice, you align with your true self and your soul's purpose. This road is rare and challenging, requiring you to be authentic, adventurous, flexible, and detached. To enjoy this journey, follow your passion and intuition, be open to new experiences, let go of control and expectations, and live in the present moment.

The Road Less Travelled

"Wisdom without execution is worthless."

During Stage 4, called The Test of Courage, you face challenges that test your faith and resolve. You encounter difficulties and setbacks that make you doubt yourself. This is when you overcome limitations and weaknesses, develop strength and resilience, and deepen trust, faith, and surrender. The Test of Courage is not a single event, but a series of challenges that occur throughout your journey. You can view it as an opportunity and use various tools to cope with it, such as positive thinking, meditation, and action.

The Test of Courage

"There is but one failure in life and that is the failure to try."

In Stage 3, The Journey Begins, you commit to pursuing your destiny and taking action towards your goals. It's an important step that demonstrates your determination and willingness to face challenges and experience fulfillment. Although the journey is not always easy, it requires you to be flexible, patient, and persistent. You can enjoy the journey every day by celebrating progress, seeking support, overcoming obstacles, and exploring new possibilities.

The Journey Begins

"All answers reside within you. You don’t need a guide. This journey is not really about learning things you need to learn so much as it are about remembering things you have forgotten."

Discover Your Destiny is a book that teaches you how to awaken your true self and live your purpose. It guides you through the seven stages of self-awakening, from hearing the call of your soul to receiving the gift of grace. It shows you how to overcome your fears, doubts, and limitations, and how to embrace your passion, intuition, and creativity. It inspires you to live a life of greatness, joy, and service, and to make a positive difference in the world. It is a book that will transform your mind and your life if you act upon its wisdom.

Seven Steps to Leading Your Best Life This deeply engaging story is filled with powerful and practical life lessons that will open you to new possibilities and transform your life forever.

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