<ul><li>Acknowledge the opinions, feelings and needs of others</li><li>Be more open to suggestions and compromises</li><li>Give 100% of your attention to the job</li><li>Spend more of your free time out with people</li><li>Get a grip on your emotions through regular practice</li><li>Work on overcoming your insecurities</li><li>Learn people’s emotional triggers and avoid setting them off</li><li>Start saying sorry more often</li><li>Learn to forgive</li><li>Encourage healthy discussions instead of fights</li><li>Stop sweating the small things</li><li>Don’t jump to conclusions</li><li>Make criticism constructive</li><li>Spend some time with your family</li><li>Don’t nag people, preach or give them unwanted lessons</li><li>Never make rash decisions or start conversations when you are feeling angry or moody</li></ul>

Improve Any Relationship

Humans are social creatures, and we thrive in small and medium-sized groups. Even the loners out there have a few family members and some friends in their close social circle. This means that we have to work hard on developing good relationships with those around us-our family, friends, lovers, coworkers and bosses.

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25 Tips to Help You Improve Any Relationship In Your Life

<ul>
<li>The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.</li>
<li>Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Neversay, “You’re wrong.”</li>
<li>If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.</li>
<li>Begin in a friendly way.</li>
<li>Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.</li>
<li>Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.</li>
<li>Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.</li>
<li>Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.</li>
<li>Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.</li>
<li>Appeal to the nobler motives.</li>
<li>Dramatize your ideas.</li>
<li>Throw down a challenge.</li>
</ul>

Win People To Your Way Of Thinking

You must have a good time meeting people if you expect them to have a good time meeting you.
Actions speak louder than words, and a genuine smile says, “I like you, You make me happy". But an insincere grin doesn’t fool anybody. We know it is mechanical and we resent it.

The Power Of Smiling

<ul>
<li>Begin with praise and honest appreciation.</li>
<li>Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.</li>
<li>Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.</li>
<li>Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.</li>
<li>Let the other person save face.</li>
<li>Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.</li>
<li>Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.</li>
<li>Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.</li>
<li>Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.</li>
</ul>

How to Change People Without Giving Offence or Arousing Resentment

We are interested in others when they are interested in us.
If you want to make friends, put yourself out to do things for other people – things that require time, energy, unselfishness, and thoughtfulness.

Learn To Be Genuinely Interested In People

Principles to follow:
<ul>
<li>Become genuinely interested in other people.</li>
<li>Smile.</li>
<li>Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.</li>
<li>Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.</li>
<li>Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.</li>
<li>Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.</li>
</ul>

Make People Like You

To be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.
Most people would prefer a good listener to a good talker.

Encourage Others To Talk About Themselves

Calling someone by their name is like paying them a very subtle compliment. Conversely, forgetting or misspelling someone's name can have the opposite effect and make it feel as though we are distant and disinterested in them.
From the waitress to the senior executive, the name will work magic as you deal with others.

Remember People's Names

The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
If we lose the argument, we lose; if we win the argument, we have made the other person feel inferior, hurt his pride, and made him resent us. In other words, we still lose.

It’s Impossible To Win An Argument

The only way to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.
To convince someone to do something, we have to frame it in terms of what motivates them. And in order to do that, we have to be able to see things from their point of view as well as our own.

Arouse In The Other Person An Eager Want

People want the approval of those with whom they come in contact. They want recognition of their true worth. They want a feeling that they are essential to the world.
But they don’t want to listen to cheap, insincere flattery - they crave sincere appreciation.

Make People Feel Important

We aren’t able to make real changes by criticizing people, and we’re instead often met with resentment. It’s important to remember that when dealing with people, we’re dealing not with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion, who are motivated by pride and ego.
Criticism is futile and dangerous. It puts a person in a defensive mode. People learn faster and retain knowledge more effectively when rewarded for good behavior than punished for bad behavior

Criticizing Others Doesn’t Yield Anything Positive

One of the fundamental keys to successful human relations is understanding that other people may be totally wrong, but they don’t think they are.
Put yourself in their place. Success in dealing with people depends on a sympathetic grasp of the other person’s viewpoint.

Don't Condemn, Try To Understand

<ul>
<li>Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.</li>
<li>Give honest and sincere appreciation.</li>
<li>Arouse in the other person an eager want.</li>
</ul>

Essential Techniques For Handling People

When talking with people, we should never begin with the points on which we disagree. We should start by emphasizing the things on which we agree, and be sure to convey that we’re both striving for the same result - our differences are in method, but not purpose.
The key is to keep our opponent from saying “no,” as this is a very difficult sentiment to overcome.

Emphasize The Points Of Agreeement

Good conversation starters for any social situation

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You can go after the job you want—and get it! You can take the job you have—and improve it! You can take any situation—and make it work for you! Dale Carnegie’s rock-solid, time-tested advice has carried countless people up the ladder of success in their business and personal lives. One of the most groundbreaking and timeless bestsellers of all time, How to Win Friends & Influence People will teach you: -Six ways to make people like you -Twelve ways to win people to your way of thinking -Nine ways to change people without arousing resentment And much more! Achieve your maximum potential—a must-read for the twenty-first century with more than 15 million copies sold!

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Updated for today’s readers, Dale Carnegie’s timeless bestseller How to Win Friends and Influence People is a classic that has improved and transformed the professional and personal and lives of millions. One of the best-known motivational guides in history, Dale Carnegie’s groundbreaking book has sold tens of millions of copies, been translated into almost every known language, and has helped countless people succeed. Originally published during the depths of the Great Depression—and equally valuable during booming economies or hard times—Carnegie’s rock-solid, time-tested advice has carried countless people up the ladder of success in their professional and personal lives. How to Win Friends and Influence People teaches you: -How to communicate effectively -How to make people like you -How to increase your ability to get things done -How to get others to see your side -How to become a more effective leader -How to successfully navigate almost any social situation -And so much more! Achieve your maximum potential with this updated version of a classic—a must-read for the 21st century.

Dale Carnegie was an American writer and lecturer, and the developer of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills.

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How To Win Friends and Influence People

<ul><li>Touch: Use your body to demonstrate warmth. Use gestures like shaking hands & patting their back while respecting their personal space. </li><li>Compliment: Develop the habit to remember details & express genuine praise when it is not expected. </li><li>Converse: Make time for rich and meaningful conversations. Don't stop talking once you've known each other.</li></ul>

How to Cultivate Intimacy? (1)

<ul><li>Listen: Develop the habit of attentive listening. Be genuinely interested in what the other person has to say.</li><li>Talk Freely: Don't suffer from "I-have-to-be-strong" syndrome. Talk about what you're feeling, be human. </li></ul>

How to Cultivate Intimacy? (2)

<ul><li>Intimacy is the feeling of closeness with someone. It usually denotes mutual vulnerability, openness, and sharing.</li><li>Intimacy is crucial. We are social creatures, we thrive on close personal relationships with others.</li><li>Mental/Emotional intimacy plays an important role in developing real & deep friendships.</li><li>Boosted morale, reduced stress, improved physical & emotional well-being are some benefits of emotional/mental intimacy.</li></ul>

Intimacy: The What & the Why 

<ul><li>Listen with your eyes: Use the visual cues effectively & consciously.</li><li>Disperse advice sparingly: More often than not, people don't actually need advice; they just want a sympathetic listener.</li><li>Never break confidence: Despite your need to show off, never break confidence in what someone told you in private.</li><li>Complete the loop: Staying silent is negative feedback. Always acknowledge the speaker.</li><li>Feel honored: Understand it is a great gift when people trust you. Bear the responsibility wisely.</li></ul>

How to improve your communication skills?

In the newly revised edition of The Friendship Factor, McGinnis reveals that at the heart of each relationship is the essential ingredient of warmth and caring-the friendship factor. With captivating examples from the famous and not-so-famous, as well as the teachings of Jesus, McGinnis shares the secrets of how to love and be loved. The Friendship Factor has sold more than one million copies and has been translated into twelve languages.

At the heart of each relationship, says McGinnis, is the friendship factor-the essential ingredient of warmth and caring. With captivating case histories and anecdotes about such famous people as George Burns, Howard Hughes, and C. S. Lewis, McGinnis shares the secret of how to love and be loved. The first edition of The Friendship Factor, published in 1979, has sold more than 350,000 copies.

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The Friendship Factor

<ul><li>Remember, when one distills the essence of our existence, it has almost nothing to do with material wealth, it is all about love.</li><li>Take the initiative to declare your affection to the people you care about and see the bond growing even stronger.</li><li>With that be sure to be selectively elusive.</li><li>While trying to play it cool, don't be the unsentimental one.</li><li>Showing affection will only make you human.</li></ul>

Dare to Talk about your Affection

You do not have to be an extrovert to have great friendships, here are 5 ways to deepen your friendships:<ol><li>Make Friendships your Top Priority,</li><li>Cultivate Transparency,</li><li>Dare to Talk about your Affection,</li><li>Learn the Gestures of Love,</li><li>Create Space in your Friendship.</li></ol>

5 Ways to Deepen your Friendships

<ul><li>Do not fear losing someone, for the idea of avoiding hellos to prevent the pain of goodbyes is anything but a solution.</li><li>"It's better to have loved and lost than to have not loved at all" ~ Alfred Tennyson.</li><li>Make conscious choices and efforts to make friends.</li><li>Strong friendships free us and do not cripple us with dependence.</li><li>Friendship is the most valuable asset out there, be sure to invest in it.</li></ul>

Make Friendships your Top Priority

<ul><li>If we are more humble than a facade, if we build more windows than walls, we will have more friends.</li><li>Get acquainted with the hidden section in your mind that contains memories of mean selfish impulses that terrify us, that erupt occasionally.</li><li>Dare to take the initiative of self-revelation, sharing, and opening up.</li><li>This does not allow your emotional life to be an open book. You must decide how much of yourself to reveal.</li><li>Be sure to exercise caution, as to not damage the listener.   </li></ul>

Cultivate Transparency

<ul><li>Spend time doing something together.</li><li>Be the one to provide help with some task.</li><li>While sending a gift, make sure to send a thoughtful one.</li><li>Just be kind, in general.</li></ul>

Learn the Gestures of Love

<ul><li>Give others room to grow.</li><li>Don't be the top dog by intimidating others. Any short-term benefits received will be at the cost of long-term rewards.</li><li>Don't be the manipulative type (overbearing, codependent, victim), consciously or unconsciously.</li><li>Be cautious with criticism, and be tolerant.</li><li>Accept them for who they are, even if you do not approve of everything.</li><li>Allow for solitude, and respect their need for privacy.</li><li>Don't expect to be the only one that matters, rather encourage other friendships.</li></ul>

Create Space in your Friendship

At the heart of each relationship, says McGinnis, is thefriendship factor—the essential ingredient of warmth and caring. With captivating case histories and anecdotes about such famous people as George Burns, Howard Hughes, and C. S. Lewis, McGinnis shares the secret of how to love and be loved. The first edition of The Friendship Factor, published in 1979, has sold more than 350,000 copies.

Never use gifts or fancy things to replace dealing with the underlying emotional issues. Not only does it brush the real problem under the rug, but it sets an unhealthy precedent within the relationship.

Covering up problems with gifts

It's when you get angry when your partner talks, calls, texts, hangs out with another person. This often leads to you hack into your partner’s email account, look through their text messages or even follow them around town, thinking of this as a display of affection.It transmits a message of a lack of trust in the other person and it’s demeaning.

“Loving” Jealousy

... for your own emotions. This is a subtle form of selfishness and a classic example of the poor maintenance of personal boundaries. Take responsibility for your own emotions and expect your partner to be responsible for theirs. <h2></h2>

Blaming Your Partner

This is when you and your partner continue to blame each other for past mistakes made in the relationship instead of solving the current problem.Deal with issues individually unless they are legitimately connected.

The Relationship Scorecard

For example, if someone feels like you’ve been cold to them, instead of saying, “I feel like you’re being cold sometimes,” they will say, “I can’t date someone who is cold to me." It’s crucial for both people in a relationship to know that negative thoughts and feelings can be communicated safely to one another without it threatening the relationship itself.

Holding the Relationship Hostage

It shows that you two are not comfortable communicating openly and clearly with one another. State your feelings and desires openly. And make it clear that the other person is not necessarily responsible or obligated to them but that you’d love to have their support.

Dropping “Hints”

It's quite rare that a romantic relationship is easy or simple, especially as time goes on. There are often weird, arguably unhealthy habits that we develop, because we're human and maybe that's just something that we do. But you can fix them.

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