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The weather affects so many decisions we make each day: what to wear, where to eat lunch, how to travel. We have these things in common, and we can talk about them if we try.
We need to reach out to people we don't know as it connects us in a world that seems to want to keep us apart.
Talking about the weather is good for us. Starting a conversation about the weather may provide some cues as to how, or if, you should continue with the conversation.
Perhaps you'll say, "It's a scorcher out there, isn't it?" and the other person will reply with a comment about climate change or something witty that sends your heart aflutter. Or they may put their head down and grumble something inaudible and leave in silence.
Both Async and Sync communication is necessary in a workplace.
As real-time communication is necessary to boost team morale, employee engagement and creative brainstorming, we cannot rely on only asynchronous communication. The manager needs to balance the communication methods to create a model best suited for the company culture.
Remote work involves asynchronous communication, but also involves Zoom check-in meetings and real-time messaging, making it a hybrid activity.
The pandemic has forced async communication on various companies which are now facing the pros and cons.
Asynchronous communication is when the exchanges of information among colleagues, clients or businesses do not happen in real-time, but whenever the other person is able to communicate. Our workdays are already filled with async communication (like email) but the pandemic has forced a lot more people to leave their shared workspaces and sit at their homes.
Zoom and even instant messaging is synchronous communication, and async communication is actually slow and less collaborative among team members, something which leads to confusion and even isolation.
This sign has a lot of possible origins. The popularisation is attributed to Ronnie James Dio in the 1970s. Dio says his Italian grandmother inspired him to pick up on the "corna" gesture to ward off the "evil eye" and bad luck.
His grandmother might have been inspired by the 1897 novel Dracula, which mentions characters using the sign to protect themselves from the evil eye.
The original gesture was an ancient pagan custom that demanded two people to cross fingers - the idea that wishes would be kept safe until they came true.
Early Christians often crossed their fingers when faced with persecution to invoke the power of Christ's crucifixion or to absolve themselves from sin. Some would cross fingers with fellow Christians before Mass to form the symbol of the ichthus.
The hand signs' meaning is believed to date back to ancient times, with the Greeks using it when referencing male genitalia. The Romans called it the "shameless finger."
Its earliest documentation in the U.S. was in 1886 when a pitcher for the Boston Beaneaters " flipped the bird" in a photograph with the team's rivals.
Putting two fingers up in the shape of a "V" behind your friend's head has a dark origin.
In ancient Rome, referees originally used these gestures to decide if a gladiator should live or die. However, thumbs up meant death, and pressing your thumb down on your fist meant life.
In 1917, in a book titled Over the Top, Arthur Guy Empey explained that U.K. soldiers used the phrase thumbs-up to indicate that all was well.
The "V" sign can be used as a symbol of peace or an insult. In the U.K., if your palm is facing yourself while you're making the sign, it's the same as using your middle finger in the U.S. If your palm is facing outward, the sign simply means the number two.
During WWII, the V sign (with your palm facing outward) was used to signify "victory.", After the 1960s, the hand sign began to be associated with "peace" by American and British youths.
One of the earliest depictions in art of a handshake is from the 9th century B.C. Homer mentioned a handshake in The Odyssey a century or two later.
Poor social skills are a real disadvantage because this is often seen as a moral failure rather than a merely intellectual one.
Having good social skills is more risk-avoidance than reward-seeking. Having good social skills is about avoiding misfires which cause mutual communication to break down.
Listening, the effort taken to correctly understand the social context and minds of other people, is probably more like 80% of social skills, with the last 20% being delivery of your message.
Social intelligence, like common intelligence, is most likely a mix of innate predisposition and effortful learning.
Some people, like it or not, have intrinsic personalities or capacities that make them more charismatic, likable, and socially intelligent. However, at the same time, acquired knowledge and skill matters as well.
The way to improve at anything is to practice.
Feedback is an important mechanism for practice. You try something, you get a response, and you use that response to adjust your output for next time.
It’s possible to be good at speaking but bad at listening or vice versa. A key part of effective speaking is understanding the listerners’ states of mind.
Many good speakers fail to land a joke, for instance, because they don’t understand very well how the person who is listening is actually processing what is being said.
In large organizations, being a great programmer, designer or writer is useless if you can’t effectively coordinate with the people around you. And in bigger organizations, the people around you can easily become the biggest obstacle to that success.
Knowing how to deal with people artfully, therefore, can easily become a key skill to success.