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..are one the most used keyboard features, with more than five billion of them used every day on social media.
The most popular one on Facebook and Twitter is the laughing yellow face with tears of joy, while Instagram has the heart emoji as the most used one.
Your ego will tell you that you're so smart and they are so intellectually inferior that you don't need to listen to this person.
Those who are most secure have the confidence to listen, regard, and value others.
Most of us want to appear knowledgeable by sharing what we know. This can stop us from listening to the other person because we only consider our clever response.
When you really listen to the other person, you can form insightful questions that naturally continue the conversation. You'll feed on the person's response that will bring out their best thinking, and your questions will bring out your best thinking.
If you have biases about someone, it can prevent you from listening to them. You may have more experience and think the other person has nothing to offer on the subject.
Engaging in listening means that you have to discard the filters you've built and focus on possible positive outcomes.
When you think someone says something wrong or misguided, it's easy to disregard their input.
When you disagree, you will judge the other person and stop listening. Instead, hear them out. Maybe you are missing something or can inspire them to grow.
Our brains are unable to receive many sources of information simultaneously—our brains process in series, not in parallel.
Listening to someone means you have to stop everything you're doing and focus.
Listening to someone can be difficult. But the more you practice, the easier it becomes.
One reason for trying to be a great listener is to show respect to everyone, and the best way to respect someone is to truly listen to them. Most likely, they'll reciprocate by listening to you.
The way to reach success is to make people around you successful. To help others succeed, you have to be good at listening.
Listening is about hearing what the other person is saying. It is thinking about how to help the other person achieve the best results by examining their words and asking thoughtful questions.
It's easier to focus on the information you disagree with than the bit of truth they may have to share. Or you may think you already know what the person will say. This can cause you to shut off because you think you know what will come next.
Maybe the person will say something different. If you stop listening, you won't know.
Turn the tables on your discomfort. Think of networking as an opportunity to give rather than to receive. Being a giver is the best strategy for building a valuable network that is saturated with reciprocity.
Even if you doubt you have something valuable to offer, you probably have more to offer than you realise.
Many people avoid networking because it feels awkward and unnatural. Research shows that networking to gain career benefits can lead to feelings of dirtiness.
But cultivating an effective network offers substantial professional and personal benefits, such as finding new jobs, obtaining promotions and receiving pay raises. A strong network is also associated with innovation, creativity, health and happiness.
When other people come to us and say that they have a problem, for most of us, the first instinct is to think about how to solve their problem instead of letting them solve it on their own. The desire to fix other's problems and offer answers instead of listening attentively to the other person is called the righting reflex.
People who open up want to feel empathy from the other person and to also not be judged for their situation. This makes them less anxious and defensive.
The ability to let others talk and not interrupt them is a skill that you must practice on a daily basis. This allows us to see more of the other person rather than ourselves.
Back in the 1990s, a woman naming Betty Bigombe was able to befriend a warlord by providing an opportunity for them to share their views. Betty Bigombe became Uganda's Woman of the Year for having initiated the peace talks to put an end to the violence between Kony and the Ugandan president and its people.
"Many communicators try to make themselves look smart. Great listeners are more interested in making their audiences feel smart."