The key difference between those who succeed in building a habit and those who don't is the ability to shake off the losses and start again.

The Key Difference Between Failing and Succeeding in Building a Habit

Due to the way we evolved, we prioritize short-term rewards over long-term benefits, making long-term gratification through difficult momentary action harder to enforce as a habit.This is especially true today, where we can find instant gratification everywhere we look, making it incredibly easy to fall prey to it and forget about our long-term goals.

Why Your Habits Never Stick

Pursuing our goals in ways that are fun, rather than more efficient, we persist longer and we are more likely to succeed.For example, if you have a show you love watching and you only allow yourself to do it during a cardio session on the treadmill, you will start looking forward to that session.Finding a way to make your habits more rewarding in the present moment will make you more likely to come back to them.

Leveraging Present Bias

Empirical studies show that people who build consistency in their routines end up really rigid, meaning that if they miss their narrow window of action they tend to skip it.On the other hand, those who build variability into their routines end up being more flexible, making them more likely to take action repeatedly and have their habits stick.Aim for frequent & flexible.

Variability Over Consistency

We understand it's hard to build a habit, we realize there are challenges to overcome, but we don't take the time to come up with the right strategy."What stops me from doing this now? What stopped me before?"Once we understand our personal barriers holding us from achieving our goals, we are going to be more capable of choosing the right tools to use.

#1 Habit-Building Mistake: Not Thinking Carefully About the Obstacles

Habit building is an important aspect of personal development. We need to understand the roadblocks to building better habits if we want to design the tools to help people overcome them. See if you like it.

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Why your habits never stick

The bottom line is that once you begin the practice of being radically candid, it will become your new way to operate. That’s likely to be your nerves at play, so just hang in there and you’ll improve.The more you follow this practice, the more you build that muscle for yourself, but you may also be inspiring others to do the same so they can also become great, candid, communicators.Keep this in mind:<ul><li>It makes sense to address things directly and clearly.</li><li>It’s helpful and honest.</li><li>It’s the right thing to do.</li></ul>

Rinse and repeat (pay it forward)

Easier said than done, but once you do it, you’ll never go back to being a word-mincing mush mouth again.<ul><li>It’s truth time. And it’s starting to feel good.</li><li>There are plenty of reasons to put off the hard talk or telling someone you care about that it’s time to face the music.</li></ul>When you reframe what you’re doing as giving someone the benefit of knowing the truth, rather than calling someone out, it might take the sting out for both parties.

Tell people what they need to hear, not what they want to hear.

Compliment sandwiches don’t really work because everyone knows what’s coming after the first bit of praise. However, there is something to be said for finding the good and highlighting it.<ul><li>Compliment, hammer, then reframe the compliment. Ugh.</li><li>It’s important to note is that there is always something good you can point out, even if it’s just the effort or intent. Just because something doesn’t work out or was a flop doesn’t mean everything about it was a fail.</li><li>Find the good and recognize it.</li></ul>

Point out the good

<ol><li>What’s the reason for dropping this truth bomb? Is it to address their career growth, their health, their relationship? You need to be crystal clear & make sure it is at the heart of the conversation.</li><li>Why does it matter to them & why does it matter to you? If you’re telling a hard truth because you’re giving insight that will help them advance in their career, that’s a great reason for them. </li><li>You should also address why it matters to you: In this case, the reason for your candor on your part may be that you’ve set a personal goal to be better at developing others instead of throwing in the tow<warningtag>el</warningtag></li></ol>

Clarify why

Based on Radical Candor, you have to start by caring personally:<ul><li>You need to know someone on a personal level, know their dreams, fears, and struggles, as well as what matters to them in life.</li></ul>Knowing what drives a person and their goals give you what you need to address them in a way that will strike a chord. Whatever you’re about to share needs to resonate and align with their personal core values.

Start with caring personally

None of this candor stuff works unless you’re telling the truth. That’s job one. Since the truth can be a bitter pill, we tend to embellish it a little bit, and before you know it, it bears little resemblance to the actual truth.<ul><li>That doesn’t mean that you should zing your words with a poisonous arrow, but rather, make sure they are factual, don’t exaggerate to make a point and be kind about it.</li><li>Being honest when you’re sharing will be appreciated. Sometimes it may take a bit of time, but in the long run, your friend or colleague will see it as the caring act that it was intended to be.</li></ul>

Tell the truth

No one likes to have the hard talk.
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<ul><li>Low susceptibility to FOMO.</li><li>A sensitive bullshit detector.</li><li>Valuing your independence over someone else’s priorities.</li><li>Respecting history more than forecasts.</li><li>Respecting the difference between rosy optimism and periods of chaos that trend upward.</li></ul>

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<ul><li>Expecting the ridiculous and absurd vs. assuming the world is always governed by rational decisions.</li><li>Accepting some inefficiency and hassle without losing your cool.</li><li>Knowing the long-term consequences of your actions.</li><li>Deserving the good reputation you have.</li><li>Getting along with people you disagree with.</li></ul>

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<ul><li>Curiosity across disciplines, most of which are outside your profession.</li><li>A well-calibrated sense of your future regret.</li><li>The ability to endure risk vs. assuming you can avoid it.</li><li>Respecting luck as much as you respect risk.</li><li>The willingness to adapt views you wish were permanent.</li></ul>

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<ul><li>Quitting while you’re ahead before you’ve exhausted or outgrown what made you successful.</li><li>Outperforming by merely “doing the average thing when everyone else around you is losing their mind.”</li><li>Thinking in probabilities vs. certainties, including the idea that a good decision can result in a bad outcome and vice versa.</li><li>Acknowledging that some things are unknowable and not fooling yourself into thinking you can figure them out.</li><li>Identifying what game you’re playing and not being persuaded by people playing different games.</li></ul>

Some useful traits... 3/4

A few pointers to keep in mind - they may be a quick read, but let them sink in.

Scott Adams, the Dilbert creator, says he doesn’t have any extraordinary skills. He’s a pretty good artist. He’s kind of funny, an OK writer, and decent at business. But multiply those mediocre skills together and you get one of the most successful cartoonists of all time. A lot of things work like that. A couple ordinary things you don’t notice on their own create something spectacular when they mix together at the right time. One of the big leaps forward for humanity is when we mixed copper, which is soft, with tin, which is like paper, and created bronze, which is hard and made great tools and weapons. It was like two plus one equals ten. Same with the weather. A little cool air from the north is no big deal. A little warm breeze from the south is pleasant. But when they mix together over Missouri you get a tornado. Same with people. It’s tempting to want to find the one big skill that will set you apart. But most incredible things come from compounding, and compounding isn’t intuitive because the incremental inputs are never exciting on their own. A few little things that are easy to ignore yet work wonders when combined together: Curiosity across disciplines, most of which are outside your profession. A well-calibrated sense of your future regret. The ability to endure risk vs. assuming you can avoid it. Respecting luck as much as you respect risk. The willingness to adapt views you wish were permanent. Low susceptibility to FOMO. A sensitive bullshit detector. Valuing your independence over someone else’s priorities. Respecting history more than forecasts. Respecting the difference between rosy optimism and periods of chaos that trend upward. Quitting while you’re ahead before you’ve exhausted or outgrown what made you successful. Outperforming by merely “doing the average thing when everyone else around you is losing their mind.” Thinking in probabilities vs. certainties, including the idea that a good decision can result in a bad outcome and vice versa. Acknowledging that some things are unknowable and not fooling yourself into thinking you can figure them out. Identifying what game you’re playing and not being persuaded by people playing different games. Expecting the ridiculous and absurd vs. assuming the world is always governed by rational decisions. Accepting some inefficiency and hassle without losing your cool. Knowing the long-term consequences of your actions. Deserving the good reputation you have. Getting along with people you disagree with. None of these are too exciting, but maybe that’s the point: Most things that look like superpowers are just a bunch of ordinary skills mixed together at the right time.

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An examination of several hundred persons with fortunes well over a million dollars revealed that every one of them had the habit of making judgments quickly.You are actually a high achiever if you are impatient and have a strong sense of urgency. Patience is not a talent.Patience is a character flow because exceptional achievers are impatient.They do not want to wait and want to attain their goals right now.High achievers and successful people understand the value of time and strive to make the most of it at all times.

3. You Have a Strong Sense of Time

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