Relationships with OthersCareers are undoubtedly important. Yet, your relationships with others and yourself are more significant. It is easy to feel overwhelmed by your daily work. You might arrive home feeling too tired to spend quality time with your friends and family. The morning is the perfect time to engage with your family or to have some time to self-nurture.

3. Spend Your Morning Nurturing Your Relationships with Others and Yourself

In What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast Vanderkam suggests making over your mornings by tracking your time, picturing the perfect morning, thinking through the logistics, building a habit, developing a feedback loop, and tuning up as necessary... Have a read

Three powerful mini e-books about high productivity, now together in paperback Laura Vanderkam has combined her three popular mini e-books into one comprehensive guide, with a new introduction. It will help readers build habits that lead to happier, more productive lives, despite the pressures of their busy schedules. Trough interviews and anecdotes, she reveals . . . What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast—to jump-start the day productively. What the Most Successful People Do On the Weekend—to recharge and prepare for a great week. What the Most Successful People Do at Work—to accomplish more in less time.

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Personal Development

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Habits

Three powerful mini e-books about high productivity, now together in paperback   Laura Vanderkam has combined her three popular mini e-books into one comprehensive guide, with a new introduction. It will help readers build habits that lead to happier, more productive lives, despite the pressures of their busy schedules. Trough interviews and anecdotes, she reveals . . .<ul><li>What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast—to jump-start the day productively.</li><li>What the Most Successful People Do On the Weekend—to recharge and prepare for a great week.</li><li>What the Most Successful People Do at Work—to accomplish more in less time.</li></ul>

Laura Vanderkam

What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast

<ul><li>Aim to find someone great, put in the effort, and create the relationship you want </li><li>A huge percentage of the success in a relationship is the effort you put into making it work</li></ul>Have hard conversations to make sure both of you are heading in the same direction before getting married:<ul><li>Where will you live?</li><li>Do you want kids?</li><li>How will you manage your money?</li></ul>

Tips For Long Term Relationship Success

<ul><li>Looks and money don’t matter in a long term partner as much as we think they do because we adapt to our circumstances over time</li><li>You don’t necessarily need someone with the same personality as you. You want someone whose personality complements yours.</li><li>You don’t necessarily need someone with the same hobbies as you. As long as you each have space to pursue your hobbies, you can make it work.</li></ul>

Stuff That Is Useless In Long Term Partners

It’s easier to meet people now than ever before, however, dating is harder now than ever because:<ul><li>People expect to get all of their needs met from one person today instead of several people like friends, family, etc.</li><li>People have high expectations of what relationships should feel like (due to comparing relationships from social media)</li><li>People suffer from the paradox of choice.</li><li>More options make us feel depressed, makes it hard for us to choose, and in some ways leads to decision paralysis.</li><li>People have fewer relationship role models (many parents are divorced).</li></ul>

Modern Dating Is Challenging

Why Dating Is Harder Now Than Ever Before. But there’s hope. Using insights from behavioural science, we can take control of our love lives.

A “must-read” (The Washington Post) funny and practical guide to help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams. Have you ever looked around and wondered, “Why has everyone found love except me?” You’re not the only one. Great relationships don’t just appear in our lives—they’re the culmination of a series of decisions, including whom to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love. Drawing from years of research, behavioral scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn’t lead to results. You have to actually change your behavior. Ury shows you how. This “simple-to-use guide” (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) focuses on a different decision in each chapter, incorporating insights from behavioral science, original research, and real-life stories. You’ll learn: -What’s holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern) -What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn’t) -How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you) -How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love) -How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews) -Why “the spark” is a myth (but you’ll find love anyway) This “data-driven” (Time), step-by-step guide to relationships, complete with hands-on exercises, is designed to transform your life. How to Not Die Alone will help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.

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Communication

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Love & Relationships

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Books

A “must-read” (The Washington Post) funny and practical guide to help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams. Have you ever looked around and wondered, “Why has everyone found love except me?” You’re not the only one. Great relationships don’t just appear in our lives—they’re the culmination of a series of decisions, including whom to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love. Drawing from years of research, behavioral scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn’t lead to results. You have to actually change your behavior. Ury shows you how. This “simple-to-use guide” (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) focuses on a different decision in each chapter, incorporating insights from behavioral science, original research, and real-life stories. You’ll learn: -What’s holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern) -What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn’t) -How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you) -How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love) -How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews) -Why “the spark” is a myth (but you’ll find love anyway) This “data-driven” (Time), step-by-step guide to relationships, complete with hands-on exercises, is designed to transform your life. How to Not Die Alone will help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.

Logan Ury

How to Not Die Alone

How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love

Having a weak circle of friends carries the same risk as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.Researchers suggest that core factors for a happy life include:<ul><li>number of friends</li><li>closeness of friends</li><li>closeness of family</li><li>relationships with neighbors and co-workers</li></ul>

The importance of friends

Before we commence with the festivities, I wanted to thank everyone for helping my first book become a Wall Street Journal bestseller. To check it out, click here. *** When you were a kid it was a lot easier. In college you almost had to be trying not to make friends.

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Health

This Is How To Make Friends As An Adult: 5 Secrets Backed By Research

Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness. … Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning or excusing offenses.

What Is Forgiveness

There are several reasons: Less stress, better for your mental health and self esteem. But it's difficult because we often believe forgiveness means lack of justice or weakness. And we're sometimes forced to forgive before we're ready.

Why Forgive?

Forgiveness typically involves:Letting go of anger or resentment you’re holding on to. Some amount of empathy towards the person who hurt you. Not necessarily reconciling or going back to the same relationship as before.

What Does It Involve

Self-forgiveness can lead to the improvement of both relationship and partner satisfaction. Being more benevolent towards oneself after transgressing can promote a better relationship, and accepting responsibility for one’s wrongdoing

What About Self-Forgiveness

What is forgiveness really all about? Some see it as healing and 
restorative, and others view it as harmful and invalidating. This episode 
is covering some of the studies that have been done about forgiveness while 
we look at its benefits and potential pitfalls.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Giving is the highest expression of potency. In the very act of giving, I experience my strength, my wealth, my power. This experience of heightened vitality and potency fills me with joy. I experience myself as overflowing, spending, alive, hence as joyous. Giving is more joyous than receiving, not because it is a deprivation, but because in the act of giving lies the expression of my aliveness.

There's a difference between falling in love and loving.People often fall in love for each other and become crazy for the partner. It starts with a big curiosity and attraction. At a certain point, when we know each other well enough and for a while, the intimacy starts getting less and ends in boredom. In reality their inicial crazyiness for each other was only an indicator for their loneliness before they met.

Falling in love

Commonly we think love is easy while finding an object to love is difficult. The cause for this lays in our belief that romantic love just happens spontaneously.Besides of that we often see attractive people as a gain if we manage to get together with them.People look for the best partner within their own possibilities on the market.

Love as an object

Opposite to a symbiotic union of love (where both parents get benefits for loving each other) the mature love unites while still preserving the own integrity, the own individuality. This love gives us the power of overcoming or feelings of isolation, but let's us still be ourselves. The paradox of it is that two human beings become one and are still two individuals.

Mature Love

Most of us think that love is passive, that you can be loved and that you fall in love. Not that love is actually a form of art.This is the reason why most people think that being loved depends of our popularity and our sex-appeal.

What we think love is

To learn how to love we need to understand that love is an art. Same as carpentry, medicine, music and many more things.To learn an art we first need to learn the theory followed by practise.

The First Step

Love is the unification of two poles, mostly of a male and a female pole. We can find a lot of examples in nature where one pole needs the other to be complete. Like day and night.

Polarised love

We humans know that we will die one day. Either before our beloved ones or after them. This makes life difficult. Because we get separated from others. This isolation makes us suffer and feel anxious. This is why we crave for love.Humans of all cultures try to overcome isolation by finding a better half. And it makes us conformists in order to not get expulsed from our social groups.

Our need for love

While people became conformists to belong to our society or subgroups, nowadays we demand equality for everyone but often get confused and think people should be the "same". But polarity is necessary in live and foremost in love.

"Equal" is not "same"

Love is an action. An action of giving. In our society we see giving in an economical way, which means we expect to get something back or having less after giving away something.On the other hand you can see giving as the highest form of power. In the act of giving I experience richness, power and strength. Giving is way more enriching than recieving because it expresses our power and vitality.

Loving means giving

A newborn baby gets all the love from his mother from they it's born. It gets unconditional love from her. The baby learns: they love me because I am.At the age of 8 to 10 kids start to learn that they can give love and receive love back. Thus they learn: I love because they love me.Mature love says: they love me because I love

How We Perceive Love During Life Stages

Traditionally the love we get from our mothers is different than the one we got from our fathers. This has to be seen in the context of Western traditional cultures.Maternal love: unconditional lovePaternal love: conditional love (you can do something to earn it - had its pros and cons)

Love From Parents

Care: love means caring for the life and growth of whatever we love.Responsibility: it's not about taking responsibilities for external things but being responsible means to be ready to respond internally.Respect: Respect doesn't mean to be submissive to another person. It means that see the other humans as they are, be conscious of their uniqueness. I don't expect them to be as I want them to be, but I love them as they are.Knowledge: you can't take responsibility or care for a person without knowing her or him. But the more you know a person the more you realize that you don't know her.

Elements of love

The landmark bestseller that changed the way we think about love: “Every line is packed with common sense, compassion, and realism” (Fortune). The Art of Loving is a rich and detailed guide to love—an achievement reached through maturity, practice, concentration, and courage. In the decades since the book’s release, its words and lessons continue to resonate. Erich Fromm, a celebrated psychoanalyst and social psychologist, clearly and sincerely encourages the development of our capacity for and understanding of love in all of its facets. He discusses the familiar yet misunderstood romantic love, the all-encompassing brotherly love, spiritual love, and many more. A challenge to traditional Western notions of love, The Art of Loving is a modern classic about taking care of ourselves through relationships with others by the New York Times–bestselling author of To Have or To Be? and Escape from Freedom. This ebook features an illustrated biography of Erich Fromm including rare images and never-before-seen documents from the author’s estate.

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Leadership & Management

The landmark bestseller that changed the way we think about love: “Every line is packed with common sense, compassion, and realism” (Fortune).  The Art of Loving is a rich and detailed guide to love—an achievement reached through maturity, practice, concentration, and courage. In the decades since the book’s release, its words and lessons continue to resonate. Erich Fromm, a celebrated psychoanalyst and social psychologist, clearly and sincerely encourages the development of our capacity for and understanding of love in all of its facets. He discusses the familiar yet misunderstood romantic love, the all-encompassing brotherly love, spiritual love, and many more. A challenge to traditional Western notions of love, The Art of Loving is a modern classic about taking care of ourselves through relationships with others by the New York Times–bestselling author of To Have or To Be? and Escape from Freedom.  This ebook features an illustrated biography of Erich Fromm including rare images and never-before-seen documents from the author’s estate.

Erich Fromm, Ph.D. (Sociology, University of Heidelberg, 1922), was a psychoanalyst and social philosopher who explored the interaction between psychology and society, and held various professorships in psychology in the U.S. and Mexico in the mid-20th century.Fromm's theory is a rather unique blend of Freud and Marx. Freud, of course, emphasized the unconscious, biological drives, repression, and so on. In other words, Freud postulated that our characters were determined by biology. Marx, on the other hand, saw people as determined by their society, and most especially by their economic systems.

What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast

How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love

This Is How To Make Friends As An Adult: 5 Secrets Backed By Research

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