Patronising pity can make the attention of others oppressive.
Loving companions do not judge us as beneath them. They don't oppress us by clinging to their belief in their own solidity and competence. Our companions indicate that they too might one day be in our place and suffer with and for us.

Love and non-judgment

When we are sick in our minds, we have this punishing sense of how terrible we are, even if we often can't point to a specific crime. We are appalled by, and unforgiving of, who we are.
In this situation, a loving companion can make all the difference. They don't try to persuade us of our worth. They make pleasant conversation about something that won't make us anxious. They can tolerate how ill we are and will stick by us. They love us for who we are rather than what we do.

Love is unconditional approval

When mentally ill, we may want to return again and again to the subject that should normally have been dealt with.
However, the loving response is to take the worry as seriously as possible and address it head-on without scoffing or denying the scale of the concern.

Love and patience

A loving companion looking after a mentally sick friend doesn't care very much about what other people may think. They don't care if they are in a minority when loving us. 
We are not loved for anything we have done, but simply because we exist.

Just the way we are

The mentally ill person is continually worried about ongoing and limitless torment. What if someone wants to take them away? What if the voices in their head never go away?
The loving companion does their best to quieten the panic. They present the future as unknowable but that the future will be fundamentally safe and bearable. They insist that they will be there.

Reassurance in mental health

Many mental traumas are the result of abandonment, and the neglect has thrown us off balance ever since. We may find it hard to depend on others.
A loving companion is ready to fight to earn our trust. We may try to incite despair and frustration and say some awful things to a carer we love. A wise companion will remain unruffled because they understand they are tested.

Loyalty and mental health

Love is critical to help us keep faith with life and rescue us from severe mental illness.
In fact, anyone who has ever suffered from mental illness and recovers will do so because of love, whether from a friend, a partner, a child, or a parent.

Love is vital in recovering from serious mental illness

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Question for you, what is your favorite word in the universe?It’s your name. Same for everyone else. So start remembering names. Firstly, if you don’t know someone’s name, it becomes blatantly apparent within seconds, and that’s bad if you should know it. Second, names hold a great power to influence people positively (let me expand on this)Once you know someone’s name, you own a part of them, you can grab their attention and make them feel good whenever u want.USE THIS POWER to make friends, to move up in your career, to become more likable, to make people happier. thxSincerely, Ben eidlisz

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Yes. Remove that word from your vocabulary, it is actually as worthless as the word actually.Gratitude is an act that is meant to show appreciation. When done correctly, it will leave a person with something to smile about for the rest of their day. However, “thank you” simply doesn’t do that.what does have that impact is specific gratitude.Drivers drops you off“Thank you.”vs.”Thanks for driving me, I don’t know how I would have gotten here without you.”TAKEAWAY: The more specific you are, the more apparent it is you are actually grateful. It’s simple and it makes life more pleasant.

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This is an important question that every couple should discuss at least annually. <ul><li>Review how things have been going between you two over the past few months and determine any mid-course corrections you need to make so that your relationship stays healthy and fulfilling.</li></ul>

7. "Are you happy with where our relationship is going?" 

This question can involve short-term and long-term goals, objectives, and desires. <ul><li>Take the time to know what those are for your partner and give their goals the attention they deserve. </li><li>Your efforts to make their ideal life a reality will help motivate them to prioritize your goals, objectives and desires, as well. (Be a giver to each other) </li></ul>

10. "What do you want out of our life together?"

You should ask and seriously discuss this question every few months. <ul><li>Think about several areas when you talk about this question, including career, family, finances, friendships, your marriage, self-development (skills, hobbies or education), and mental and spiritual growth.</li></ul>

6. "What goals would you like to set for us, and for yourself?"

Not, "what" are you doing, but "HOW" are you doing? <ul><li>Take time to ask this question and look your partner directly in the eyes while asking. </li><li>If you think there's something going on that they need to talk about, touch them on the arm or shoulder as you ask the question, or touch them softly on the face and tell them, "I really want to know how you're doing."</li></ul>

1. "How are you doing today?"

You see that your spouse is busy, hurried, or experiencing some frustration with getting everything done. <ul><li>Ask this question and be ready to take action on any request they have for help. </li><li>If you live with someone who tends to do it all on their own, touch them, look them in the eyes and say, "I really want to help you with this, what can I do?"</li></ul>

2. "Is there anything I can do to help you?"

<h2>When you know your partner is trying to make an important decision, ask them this question. Another way to ask it is, "What do you really want?" </h2><ul><li>To understand your spouse's thoughts and needs, it's necessary to know their heart-felt answer to this question. </li><li>Asking it invites them to think through and talk about what they value most.</li></ul>

3. "What's important to you?" 

This is a question you ask during free time, when planning a date, going out to eat, or when discussing deeper goals and direction in life. <ul><li>Another way to ask this is: "If you could do anything you wanted, what would that be?" </li><li>You know your spouse's major goals and dreams, so work with them to see how to make their wants, desires, and aspirations possible.</li></ul>

4. "What would you like to do?" 

<h2>This not a question that you often think to ask, but it's important to know their answer. </h2><ul><li>Know what concerns are nagging at your partner and be open to having a conversation about those worries (even if you don't feel concerned about the same things). </li><li>Whether it's about a project at work, a conversation with a family member, or the state of global affairs, know what scares them so you can help ease their fears.</li></ul>

8. "What is your biggest fear?" 

Strong connection with a long-term partner requires syncing up on many different (and deeper) levels, not just chit-chatting about the minutia of your day-to-day.To that end, here are 10 powerful questions to ask your <a href="http://www.yourtango.com/2013191628/ways-support-your-spouse-through-mental-illness?utm_source=self&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=syndication">spouse </a> or partner often to help deepen your connection and love for each other.

What makes communication meaningful? 

This question is especially important to ask when you know your spouse is going through a difficult or frustrating time. <ul><li>Perhaps it's a challenge your spouse is facing alone, or it could be a life obstacle you're facing together. </li><li>Find out what your spouse needs to feel nurtured and supported at this time, and then do that for them as much as you can.</li></ul>

5. "How can I encourage you?"

Life is not always fun. We spend much time doing our job, either at work or at home, that it's important to reward yourself for all your hard work and effort. <ul><li>Get involved in the things that bring happiness to each of you. </li><li>Activities that bring the greatest happiness can change depending on your stage in life, so don't be surprised when something new moves to the top of the list.</li></ul>

9. "What makes you feel the happiest?" 

You might fall even more in love with each other.

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