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Every Lifelong Learner Should Read These High-Impact Books
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How To Build The Self-Confidence You Need To Win At Life
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Do You Have These 6 ‘Mindful’ Skills? Or Are You Distracted?
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What's the Difference and Why Does it Matter?
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Pain Plus Reflection Equals Progress
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How to Rescue Yourself from Adversity – Personal Growth – Medium
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The Motivation Machine: How to Get & Stay Motivated for Any Goal
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The Way You Read Books Says A Lot About Your Intelligence, Here’s Why
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My top 10 quotes on failure
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The nature of mindsets – Benefit Mindset – Medium
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One Decision Separates The Wealthy From The Non-Wealthy
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Renowned Physicist: There Are Only 2 Problems That Stop People From Achieving Anything
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10 lessons from 100 days of meditation – The Mission – Medium
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The Doing Mindset > The Thinking Mindset – The Mission – Medium
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How to boost your creativity — even if you don’t think you’re creative
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How You Know
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To Change Reality, Stop Denying It
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Habits vs. Goals: A Look at the Benefits of a Systematic Approach to Life
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If You’re Not Changing As A Person Then You’re Not Intelligent (According to Einstein)
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Meditation for Neurotics – The Mission – Medium
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These Skills Are Hard To Learn But Pay Off For The Rest of Your Life
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Developing Resilience - Bounce Back from Setbacks with MindTools.com
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If You Knew Something Would Improve Your Life, Why Wouldn’t You?
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Do This For 10-Minutes Every Day To Change Your Life.
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Want to discover (or re-discover) your sense of purpose at work? Here's how
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Charlie Munger on Getting Rich, Wisdom, Focus, Fake Knowledge and More
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The Simple Art of Not Being Miserable – Personal Growth – Medium
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10X Your Results, One Tiny Action at a Time (The Power of Incremental Progress)
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How to Make Progress Every Day
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3 Ways to Improve Your Decision Making
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The Health Benefits of Journaling
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Advice from 30 year old me to 20 year old me – Found It – Medium
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4 simple exercises to strengthen your attention and reduce distractibility |
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6 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself EverydayPick the Brain
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Why Your Accomplishments Don’t Matter – Personal Growth – Medium
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12 Powerful Habits To Steal from Ultra Successful People
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What Can We Learn From the Prolific Isaac Asimov?
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How to Consistently Accomplish 100x More Results With 1/10th Your Usual Effort
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How I Hacked My Vulnerability – Personal Growth – Medium
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The Equation That Will Make You Better at Everything
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Active Listening: The Master Key to Effective Communication
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How to Take a Day Off
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My top 10 quotes on change
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The Most Important Question of Your Life
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7 Little Ways to Make Life Simpler
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Why Socrates is caught in an Infinite Time Loop – Creative Automata – Medium
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How to Start Good Habits and (Actually) Stick to Them, According to Stanford Psychologists
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How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life
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The Productive Benefits of Journaling (plus 11 ideas for making the habit stick)
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The Boundary You Didn’t Know You Were Missing – Member Feature Stories – Medium
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Read This If You Want To Keep A Journal But Don’t Know How
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When You're at the Crossroads of Should and Must
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Breaking Bad Habits With Environment Design: How Vietnam War Veterans Broke Their Heroin Addictions
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Why There is No Such Thing as Time Management – The Mission – Medium
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The 3 Levels of Self-Awareness
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Want to Lead a Happy Life? Science Says to Focus on These 10 Things
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Whatever You Do, Just Start. – Bianca Bass – Medium
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The Simple Habit That Can Change Your Life – Personal Growth – Medium
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Know Thy Time: Peter Drucker’s Strategy To Become More Effective
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To be resilient, face tragedy with humour and flexibility
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14 Ways To Make Journaling One Of The Best Things You Do In 2018
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15 Typical Life Problems And How To Solve Them. – The Mission – Medium
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How to See Reality as It Is
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Our 6 Must Reads to Make Self-Care Your Competitive Advantage
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The 7 Gifts of Adopting a Personal-Development Mindset
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Viktor Frankl on the Human Search for Meaning – Brain Pickings
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Stop Thinking and Start Doing: The Power of Practicing More
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Antifragile - by Nassim Nicholas Taleb
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The Proven, Reasonable and Totally Unsexy Secret to Success
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Maslow: The 12 Characteristics of a Self-Actualized Person
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How to Stop Worrying About the Future and Start Living Your Life Now
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How to Master the Art of Continuous Improvement
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Once you learn these 5 brutal truths about life, you’ll be a much better person (according to Buddhism) – Mind Body Heal
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Two Ways to Stop Caring What Others Think
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The Simple Formula to Improving Your Performance (in Anything)
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How to Know When to Quit
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How People Learn
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6 Ways Traveling Alone Makes You Stronger
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How to Never Run Out of Ideas Again – Personal Growth – Medium
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How to Be Less Wrong – Personal Growth – Medium
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Why ‘Find your passion!’ may be bad advice
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23 Smart Ways To Increase Your Confidence, Productivity, and Income
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Transform Your Life By Transforming Your Habits
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Why hiring the ‘best’ people produces the least creative results
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Want to discover (or re-discover) your sense of purpose at work? Here's how
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Purpose boosts our capacity to make the greatest impact in the work we do 

We feel energized, motivated and expanded when we have a sense of purpose. People who consider their work to be a calling— in other words, they felt their work had purpose — tend to be more satisfied than those who think of their work as “just” a job. Having a calling is not restricted to people in executive positions. For example, some hospital janitors believe they have a calling — they see their work as more than cleaning; it is about helping support patients’ healing.

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Read This If You Want To Keep A Journal But Don’t Know How
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“Don’t trust your memory. When you listen to something valuable, write it down. When you come across something important, write it down.”— Jim Rohn
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How to See Reality as It Is
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What Drawing Failures Teach About Reality

The reason drawing is hard, especially for familiar objects,is that we already have a lot of knowledge about the physical world as a three-dimensional space which interferes with the ability to translate that space into two dimensions.
The challenge of learning to draw, therefore, is to take the rather automatic process of ignoring what things really look like and focusing on what things really are(a chair, dog, face, etc.), and refocus your attention back onto the shapes and splotches that impinge on your retina.To see things as two-dimensional, even though your mind is racing ahead to turn them from shapes into things.

1 month, 2 weeks ago
How to Know When to Quit
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How to Pick Your Quitting Point

Choose your quitting points before you start. 
  • Set shorter lengths of projects: The easiest way to do this is to simply set projects that are short enough that committing to them all the way is easy enough to do.
  • Set re-evaluation points for ongoing habits and goals: For things which you expect to pursue for a very long time, you may want to set up junctures for re-evaluating your progress.
  • Based on impact to other areas of your life:Time is the most straightforward way to manage quitting points, but you may choose other metrics. One way might be to look at how those things impact your life.
 These are pre-specified periods of time, effort or stress that you decide you’re willing to endure before you step back and re-evaluate.

1 month, 2 weeks ago
Antifragile - by Nassim Nicholas Taleb
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Only the autodidacts are free.
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What's the Difference and Why Does it Matter?
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If you don’t have a strategy, you are part of someone else’s strategy.

— Alvin Toffler

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What's the Difference and Why Does it Matter?
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The Components of Strategy
  • A strategy is used within a particular domain.
  • A strategy has a single, well defined focus.
  • A strategy lays out a path to be followed.
  • A strategy is made up of parts (tactics).
  • Each of a strategy’s parts pushes towards the defined focus.
  • A strategy recognises its sphere of influence.
  • A strategy is either intentionally formed or emerges naturall
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What's the Difference and Why Does it Matter?
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“Grand strategy is the art of looking beyond the present battle and calculating ahead.Focus on your ultimate goal and plot to reach it.

― Robert Greene, The 33 Strategies of War

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Advice from 30 year old me to 20 year old me – Found It – Medium
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Plan in decades. Think in years. Work in months. Live in days.
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Do This For 10-Minutes Every Day To Change Your Life.
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Discipline in life is how you reach long-term success.There are no shortcuts and we all experience the same set of feelings and emotions.How you deal with them determines whether you’ll be Elon Musk or Johnny NoName.
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How to Rescue Yourself from Adversity – Personal Growth – Medium
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Reframing events is at the core of building resilience

Cognitive Restructuring is a practical way to how you think about adverse situations and unfortunate events . 

The method starts by calming oneself to identify the real situation and assess one’s emotions and thoughts(“I’m afraid that I’m going to die in this cave.”). 

Lastly, focus on identifying evidence that supports how you feel(“We are trapped without any communication system to ask for help”) and, also, those who contradict your feelings(“Rescuers can help us if we stay alive, calm, and safe.”).

4 months, 1 week ago
How to Rescue Yourself from Adversity – Personal Growth – Medium
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5 Ways to Build a First Responder Mindset

1. Reframe (your thoughts about) reality: You can’t control reality, but you can manage how you adapt to it.

2. Prepare for the worst: You can’t train to deal with every possible situation, but you can prepare your mind to adapt to unexpected ones.

3.Create alternative paths: Creativity plays a critical role in overcoming adversity.

4. Leverage the Power of Relationships: Rescuing yourself from adversity  starts with you but, as stated above, strong relationships are critical to bounce back.

5. Mind your spirit: Religious and spiritual support bring us comfort during adversity.


4 months, 1 week ago
How I Hacked My Vulnerability – Personal Growth – Medium
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People do not want to listen to your problems, unless you are telling a story about how you solved them.
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How to Be Less Wrong – Personal Growth – Medium
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The ability to correct mistakes=the capacity to embrace and understand the contradictions

The ability to correct mistakes and to be less wrong over time comes down to one thing: the capacity to embrace and understand the contradictions that arise in the world when they do.

When you believe one thing and reality tells you another, to self-correct, you have to first see the contradiction that has shown up. Similarly, when your identity is tied to one system and the world breaks it down, it’s this same contradiction that needs to be embraced before you can reconcile the pieces.

4 months, 1 week ago
The Equation That Will Make You Better at Everything
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Stress + Rest = Growth

As an athlete, if you want to improve something—your 100-meter time, say, or your deadlift PR—you’ve got to apply a challenge, some sort of “stressor,” and then follow it with a period of rest and recovery. 

Too much stress without enough rest and you get injury, illness, and burnout. Not enough stress plus too much rest and you get complacency, boredom, and stagnation.


4 months, 2 weeks ago
To Change Reality, Stop Denying It
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To change reality, stop denying it
“People who confuse what they wish were true with what is really true create distorted pictures of reality that make it impossible for them to make the best choices.” – Ray Dalio, Principles
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Renowned Physicist: There Are Only 2 Problems That Stop People From Achieving Anything
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There are two places we can find the knowledge we need
  • First - other people’s knowledge, a store of humanity’s knowledge, because virtually any problem or goal that we have has been solved/accomplished in whole or in part by many people throughout history.
  • Second - the orchard of undiscovered knowledge - the knowledge which exists theoretically, but just hasn’t been harvested by humanity yet. This is knowledge that is one leap of insight away from being discovered given our current collective knowledge.
4 months, 2 weeks ago
Renowned Physicist: There Are Only 2 Problems That Stop People From Achieving Anything
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The fundamental obstacle is always knowledge
As you get more and more fundamental on the root causes of any problem, challenges like lack of resources are real challenges that hold people back,but they are not fundamental.

There are many things out of our control that impact our success. These play huge roles in our life.  At the same time, there is a case to be made that, of the things we can control, knowledge is the most fundamental and important.

4 months, 2 weeks ago
How People Learn
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Expert competences, in any discipline:

• experts have lots of factual knowledge about their subject;

experts have a mental organizational structure that facilitates the retrieval and effective application of their knowledge;

• experts have an ability to monitor their own thinking (“metacognition”), at least in their discipline of expertise. They are able to ask themselves, “Do I understand this? How can I check my understanding?”

4 months, 2 weeks ago
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The Motivation Machine: How to Get & Stay Motivated for Any Goal
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Getting motivated then requires you to do some combination of:

  • Increasing how likely you Expect you are to accomplish the goal
  • Increasing the Value of achieving the goal to you
  • Decreasing your Impulsiveness and distractibility
  • Decreasing the Delay by making the results of the goal more immediate
4 months, 2 weeks ago
The Motivation Machine: How to Get & Stay Motivated for Any Goal
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When you quit something that you had initially wanted to do, it’s because  the reasons to stop eventually came to outweigh the reasons to continue

We can  break motivation down into two areas: creating motivation to get started, and maintaining motivation to continue.

Thus, to maintain your motivation you can either strengthen the reasons to keep going or weaken the reasons to quit. Successful motivation efforts generally include both.


4 months, 2 weeks ago
Active Listening: The Master Key to Effective Communication
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Listening is difficult because it involves suppressing your ego long enough to consider what is being said before you respond.
4 months, 2 weeks ago
Do You Have These 6 ‘Mindful’ Skills? Or Are You Distracted?
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Discernment = awareness to implications + ability to predict

Discernment means you’re aware of the IMPLICATIONS of what you’re observing. It means you can PREDICT where certain behaviors, actions, ideas, and environments will take you.

When you development discernment, you can make powerful choices, because you have both information and intuition. You can’t have discernment without first observing and paying attention.

4 months, 3 weeks ago
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Do You Have These 6 ‘Mindful’ Skills? Or Are You Distracted?
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Keystone skills = skills which facilitate the development of other skills

Keystone skills are those half dozen skills which facilitate the development of other skills. They are the foundation to living a life in alignment, to having confidence and clarity, and to becoming a powerful learner and leader.

Similarly, “keystone habits” lead to the development of multiple good habits. They start a chain effect in your life that produces a number of positive outcomes.

4 months, 3 weeks ago
Do You Have These 6 ‘Mindful’ Skills? Or Are You Distracted?
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The Expectancy Theory of Motivation
3 things must occur for a person to have high motivation for achieving their goals:
  • You must believe you can do what it takes to achieve your goal. 
  • You must believe that you know how to achieve it (you have the proper methods). 
  • Finally, you must believe that the rewards of the particular goal are personally meaningful.
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Do You Have These 6 ‘Mindful’ Skills? Or Are You Distracted?
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Essential skills to quickly filtering through the endless information, choices and distractions
  • Mindfulness — the awareness of CONTEXT and of changes within that context (patterns, themes, connections, predictions).
  • Discernment — the ability to recognize and anticipate the consequences of the patterns around you — and to know WHAT TO DO as a result.
  • Action —Experiential learning is far more powerful than gathering information. Experience is emotional — and emotion, not rationality, is what changes mindsets and behaviors.
  • Expectancy Another word for expectancy is faith — the belief in your ability to seize or create a future outcome.
  • Feedback — failure is feedback. You shouldn’t and can’t avoid feedback if you want to learn. 
  • Adaptability— according to Charles Darwin, it’s not the smartest or the strongest that survve, but the most adaptable to change. 
4 months, 3 weeks ago
How to Consistently Accomplish 100x More Results With 1/10th Your Usual Effort
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Action doesn’t matter if your beliefs are wrong. That’s like trying to sail a boat that’s still anchored to the harbor; you can thrash around all you want, but you’re not going anywhere.

If you want to succeed in your endeavors, you need to shift your frame of mind first.

4 months, 3 weeks ago
How to boost your creativity — even if you don’t think you’re creative
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The creative process is the act of making new connections between old ideas or recognizing relationships between concepts.

4 months, 3 weeks ago
15 Typical Life Problems And How To Solve Them. – The Mission – Medium
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We need less to destress
  • Declutter your home and office
  • Say no to more meetings
  • Say yes to invites from people that make you feel like saying “Hell Yes!”
  • Buy less material things
  • Have fewer people in your life
  • Listen to one podcast instead of many
  • Read fewer books instead of every one that’s recommended on a podcast
  • Have less recurring subscriptions
  • Invest and save more money so you can stress less about unexpected bills
  • Take regular breaks 
4 months, 3 weeks ago
If You’re Not Changing As A Person Then You’re Not Intelligent (According to Einstein)
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To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often. - Winston Churchill

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Why hiring the ‘best’ people produces the least creative results
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Progress occurs as much through sequences of small steps as through giant leaps.
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The Simple Art of Not Being Miserable – Personal Growth – Medium
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Happiness — or more accurately, a lack of unhappiness — is a product of the relationship that exists between our subjective expectations and the objective reality. Over the long-term, a feeling of peaceful contentment comes down to the objective reality giving us more than our subjective expectations.

We all have some influence on what this reality has to offer, but ultimately, many things are out of our control. The only solution, then, is to adjust our expectations by managing our personal desires.

4 months, 3 weeks ago
6 Ways Traveling Alone Makes You Stronger
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Benefits you can get from traveling alone:
  • You learn to rely on yourself
  • You deal with some big emotions
  • You build people skills
  • You chart your own course
  • You come face to face with your smallness in the world
  • You gain a sense of confidence


5 months ago
To be resilient, face tragedy with humour and flexibility
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People who are resilient tend to be flexible – flexible in the way that they think about challenges, and flexible in the way that they react emotionally to stress. They are not wedded to a specific style of coping. Instead, they shift from one coping strategy to another depending upon the circumstances. Many are able to accept what they cannot change; to learn from failure; to use emotions such as grief and anger to fuel compassion and courage; and to search for opportunity and meaning in adversity. 

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10 lessons from 100 days of meditation – The Mission – Medium
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All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.— Blaise Pascal
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Meditation for Neurotics – The Mission – Medium
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A guide to meditation basics

1.Focus on your breath by focusing on the breath’s physical sensation around your nose, chest, or belly.

2. Recognize your thoughts by labeling them: “____ is like this.”

3. Let go of your thoughts by envisioning them as clouds, bubbles, or leaves floating downstream.

4.Return to the breath and try to observe each breath from a fresh perspective, as if you were in a Museum of Breath.

5 months ago
10 lessons from 100 days of meditation – The Mission – Medium
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The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.— Sydney J. Harris
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The Way You Read Books Says A Lot About Your Intelligence, Here’s Why
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Book hoarders vs. smart readers

It’s not about how many books you finish.

Book hoarders and smart readers are differentiated by these 3 qualities:

Smart readers create a consistent learning ritual.

• Smart readers learn how to learn.

• Smart readers take action until they get the result they’re looking for

5 months ago
How To Build The Self-Confidence You Need To Win At Life
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Confidence doesn’t appear magically by itself.

You become more self-confident if you become better at what you do. That’s the system, and it’s backed by research.

 The following process is easy—but completing the steps takes hard work. It goes like this:

  1. Improve your competencies
  2. Put them into practice
  3. See results
  4. Grow more confident
  5. Repeat
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How To Build The Self-Confidence You Need To Win At Life
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Skills that every person can benefit from:
  • Emotional intelligence —Humans are inherently social. And if you want good relationships, you need emotional intelligence: Understanding other people’s emotions and how to respond to them. 
  • Self-awareness— You can practice self-awareness by continuous self-reflection. Write down your thoughts; try to understand why you do what you do, what you can do better, and what you’re doing well. Know yourself.
  • Problem-solving— Our current school system dates from the industrial revolution. We’re trained to become cogs in a wheel. We’re not trained to solve problems in complex situation — instead, we do what we are told. But the world has changed and in the current state, the person that is better at problem-solving will win.
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How To Build The Self-Confidence You Need To Win At Life
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“Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.”— Thomas Carlyle
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How To Build The Self-Confidence You Need To Win At Life
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“Self-confidence without competence is of as little use as is competence without self-confidence.” - Bernice Milburn Moore


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What Can We Learn From the Prolific Isaac Asimov?
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Know your Spots, and Stick to those Spots

“I’m no genius, but I’m smart in spots, and I stay around those spots.”
—Thomas Watson, Sr., Founder of IBM

5 months, 1 week ago
How to Never Run Out of Ideas Again – Personal Growth – Medium
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Get the basics down first


Think of yourself as an artist making a sketch to get the composition clear in his mind, the blocks of color, the balance, and the rest. With that done, you can worry about the fine points.  -Isaac Asimov

Trying to get everything right the first time is a big mistake. Lower your standards. Make a test product, a temporary sketch or a rough draft.

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How to Make Progress Every Day
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Success is a byproduct of self-discipline — it requires a method, not just a positive attitude.
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How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life
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The Wheel of Life

A great tool that many coaches have used for years. While the original wheel of life dates back to Buddhism, the modern wheel of life was created by Paul Meyer, a pioneer in the life coaching and self-improvement industry.

The purpose of the wheel is to look at areas of your life which are important to you. In each area, you rate yourself on a scale of 1-10. This gives you an idea of where you are in – or out of balance – and what areas you need to pay more attention to. It gives you perspective on the whole of your life.

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The Way You Read Books Says A Lot About Your Intelligence, Here’s Why
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View your unread books as a reminder of how little you know

Intellectual humility isn’t valuable just because it’s a virtue. It’s valuable because it gives us a more realistic conception of ourselves and our place in the world, which helps us conduct our lives more effectively and harmoniously, make better decisions and inspires us to learn more.

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Why ‘Find your passion!’ may be bad advice
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The problem with “find your passion” implies that once an interest resonates, pursuing it will be easy

But :

  •  The research found that when people encounter inevitable challenges, that mindset makes it more likely people will surrender their newfound interest.
  • The idea that passions are found fully formed implies that the number of interests a person has is limited. That can cause people to narrow their focus and neglect other areas.
5 months, 1 week ago
Stop Thinking and Start Doing: The Power of Practicing More
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Practice Focuses Your Energy on the Process


“Progress is a natural result of staying focused on the process of doing anything.”
—Thomas Sterner, The Practicing Mind

The state of your life right now is a result of the habits and beliefs that you have been practicing each day. When you realize this and begin to direct your focus toward practicing better habits day-in and day-out, continual progress will be the logical outcome.It is not the things we learn nor the dreams we envision that determines our results, but rather that habits that we practice each day. Fall in love with boredom and focus your energy on the process, not the product.

5 months, 1 week ago
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Whatever You Do, Just Start. – Bianca Bass – Medium
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Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever has.
5 months, 1 week ago
3 Ways to Improve Your Decision Making
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3 rules for improving the ability to predict the effects of personal choices and assess their desirability.

Rule #1: Be less certain: Once you accept that you’re overconfident, you can revisit the logic of your decision.

Rule #2: Ask “How often does that typically happen?”: The idea with both prediction and judgment is to get away from the “inside view,” where the specifics of the decision overwhelm your analysis. Instead, you want to take the “outside view,” where you start with similar cases before considering the specifics of your individual case.

Rule #3: Think probabilistically— and learn some basic probability: even relatively basic training in probability makes people better forecasters and helps them avoid certain cognitive biases. Improving your ability to think probabilistically will help you with the first two rules. 

5 months, 2 weeks ago
4 simple exercises to strengthen your attention and reduce distractibility |
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Mindfulness is about paying attention to the present moment with awareness and without emotional reactivity.

It doesn’t require any particular worldview or spiritual or religious belief system. 

Mindfulness training can be broken down into two major categories: focused attention and open monitoring. They’re very different, yet complementary, practices.

• Focused attention exercises cultivate your brain’s ability to focus on one single object, like one’s breath or walking.

• Open monitoring helps you learn to pay attention to what’s happening around you without becoming attached to it.  

5 months, 3 weeks ago
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How to Stop Worrying About the Future and Start Living Your Life Now
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Tips for stop worrying about the future and start living your life now
  1. Accept and trust that you’ll find a way to make things work in the future, even if you’re not sure how: Chances are, you are more intelligent, resourceful, and adaptable than you realize. And that you will find a way to not only survive in the future but also to thrive
  2. Strike a balance between now and the future: You need money for the future and for retirement. But you also need to live in the now. Aim to strike a balance between those two competing desires. Do everything you can to live your life now while also preparing for the future.
  3. Give up the idea that life has to look a particular way: Lots of people follow the safe path in life because that’s what they see everyone else doing. But there’s no reason why your life has to look like everyone else’s.
  4. Accept that the future is ultimately unknowable: None of us knows what the future holds. And no matter how much you plan for the future, your future will likely turn out to be very different than you expect.
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Two Ways to Stop Caring What Others Think
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There is a direct relationship between how quickly we judge and dismiss others and how strongly we fear being judged or dismissed.
Two ways to worry less about what others think:
  • We need to recognize that it’s impossible to be fairly judged.Nobody will ever understand you perfectly. You will continually be both underestimated and overestimated, shortchanged and given undue credit. In fact, your own assessment of yourself is hardly the “right” one. We tend to either obsess over our faults or overlook them completely, and we often don’t quite appreciate both how kind and how petty we can be. And with strangers, there’s no hope of anything approaching a fair assessment. They have zero context for what they see in you.
  • We can understand that kind of unfairness much more easily from the other side, by learning to become a lot more aware of our own judgments of strangers. Notice how quick and careless they are. You’ll discover that they’re almost always categorical (good person or bad person), that they’re provoked by a single behavior, and that we rarely second-guess these judgments.Notice what it feels like to judge a person, how absolute and uncomplicated it seems, then remember that you’re seeing this person through the keyhole of a single moment in their lives.
5 months, 3 weeks ago
Why Socrates is caught in an Infinite Time Loop – Creative Automata – Medium
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Being a debater without getting pissed-off, angry, and resorting to nonsensical diatribe
  • Listen. Avoid interrupting. This is the ego asserting itself.
  • Empathize. You need to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
  • Focus on your breathing: slow, deliberate breaths.
  • Slow the conversation.
  • Pause and reflect frequently. Do not rush things — this isn’t a race.
  • Focus on your body and its sensations. Use a touchstone or spinner if that helps. Put your hand on top of the table and pay attention to the sensation. Stop talking and pause.
  • Avoid making logical fallacies: arguments employing ad hominem and appeal to authority represent classic mistakes.
5 months, 3 weeks ago
Pain Plus Reflection Equals Progress
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Our most painful moments are also our most important. Rather than run from pain, we need to identify it, accept it, and learn how to use it to better ourselves.

Life is about what you do in the painful moments. The choices you make. The path you choose.

The easy path means being the same person you were yesterday. It’s easy and comfortable to convince yourself that the world should work differently than it does, that you have nothing to learn from the pain. The harder path is to embrace the pain and ask yourself what you could have done differently or better or what your blind spot was. It’s harder because you stop living in the bubble of your own creation and start living in reality.

5 months, 3 weeks ago
Pain Plus Reflection Equals Progress
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Being open about weaknesses means being open about who we are in the moment. It doesn’t mean that’s who we are forever. But we can’t improve what we can’t see.
5 months, 3 weeks ago
Pain Plus Reflection Equals Progress
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One of the most obvious sources of learning: ourselves.
Our images of learning are filled with positive thoughts about how we learn from others. We read memoirs from the titans of industry, read op-ed pieces from thought leaders, and generally try to soak up as much as we can. With all this attention placed on learning and improving and knowing, it might surprise you that we’re missing one of the most obvious sources of learning: ourselves.
5 months, 3 weeks ago
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Our 6 Must Reads to Make Self-Care Your Competitive Advantage
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The 20-40-60 Rule

The rule goes something like this: “At 20, you are constantly worrying about what other people think of you. At 40 you wake up and say, 'I’m not going to give a damn what other people think anymore.' And at 60 you realize no one is thinking about you at all.” The most important piece of information there: “Nobody is thinking about you from the very beginning.You need to be your own advocate. If you’re in a job you don’t like, you need to be the one to change it. You can’t sit in your office and wait for someone to bring you the answer.” - Heidi Roizen

6 months ago
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Why There is No Such Thing as Time Management – The Mission – Medium
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“When the goal is merely to ‘get through’ the day as quickly as possible, life will pass full of regrets. Time becomes the great taskmaster when it should be the liberator. Time is endured rather than enjoyed.” -Benjamin Hardy
6 months ago
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How to Take a Day Off
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6 Principles of a Proper Day Off

A Proper Day Off isn’t an invitation for laziness, or the shirking of responsibilities. In fact, a Proper Day Off is a day for exploring a certain other class of responsibilities: being a relaxed and present friend, parent, son or daughter, or stranger.

A few general rules, to keep your Day Off uncompromised:

1) No work, no “getting ahead”;

2) Don’t spend the day at home;

3) Involve loved ones;

4) Plan loosely, but don’t make an itinerary;

5) Minimize electronic device usage;

6) Enjoy the fruits of civilization(parks, museums, galleries, markets, public spaces, performance venues and heritage buildings).




6 months ago
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10X Your Results, One Tiny Action at a Time (The Power of Incremental Progress)
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The thing is, incremental daily progress (negative or positive) is what actually causes transformation. A figurative drip, drip, drip. Showing up, every single day, gaining in strength, organizing for the long haul, building connection, laying track — this subtle but difficult work is how culture changes. - Seth Godin

6 months ago
Breaking Bad Habits With Environment Design: How Vietnam War Veterans Broke Their Heroin Addictions
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To Change Your Behavior, Change Your Environment

The impact that external stimuli can have on behavior is well-known.

The people we connect with and the places we live in often determine our behavior and habits as much as we do ourselves.

The good news is that, at least to a certain degree, your environment is within your control. If you want to change your behavior, then change your environment. Even small adjustments can make a difference.

6 months ago
12 Powerful Habits To Steal from Ultra Successful People
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Habit stacking
Habit stacking is a concept of sticking a new habit to a current one. For example, when you’re brushing your teeth you can read two pages right after doing it. You’re more likely to develop a new habit on top of an old one because your brain has lots of synaptic connections for that habit to run it on autopilot. After you start stacking habit on habit, your order becomes a habit too, the best part is that habits are automatic, meaning that it doesn’t use your willpower so you can basically program yourself to do one or the other thing without even thinking about it.
6 months ago
6 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself EverydayPick the Brain
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6 questions to ask yourself everyday to support a journey of intentional self growth
  • What did I do today?
  • How do I feel right now?
  • What did I enjoy?
  • What did I learn?
  • What’s one idea I had today?
  • What are three things I am grateful for?




6 months ago
The 7 Gifts of Adopting a Personal-Development Mindset
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The Gifts of Adopting a Personal-Development Mindset

1. Sense of self: Any type of self-improvement begins with a keen awareness of who you are and what are your values, beliefs and the larger purpose you wish to pursue.You have to know who you are and what you want.

2. Sense of curiosity: To live successfully, you must be deeply curious about all the possibilities your future holds. It is important to have an unquenchable thirst for your advancement.

3. Sense of direction: Having a sense of direction improves your ability to prioritize.

4. Sense of follow-through: Knowing what you want to achieve makes it easier for you to see the benefits of taking action. 

5. Sense of urgency: A sense of urgency drives hard work.

6. Sense of resiliency: Resiliency prevents you from viewing any challenge as the end of the world. Resilience allots you the patience, awareness and fortitude to continue moving forward, even if that means completely changing course.

7. Sense of connectedness:  When you improve your personal development, you are better able to see which relationships and partnerships are worth investing in and which you need cut loose.


6 months ago
The Proven, Reasonable and Totally Unsexy Secret to Success
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Two primary ways to change long-term behaviors and improve performance for good:

1. Increase your performance by a little bit each day.

2. Change your environment to remove small distractions and barriers. 

6 months, 1 week ago
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Why Your Accomplishments Don’t Matter – Personal Growth – Medium
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The purpose of life isn’t to accomplish. It’s to experience. Right now.

If death isn’t relevant, and our identity isn’t infinite, then the only thing that is relevant is the experience of being aware while it’s still possible. What’s important isn’t to extend our lives through a temporary legacy beyond awareness, but it’s to experience, alter, and disrupt consciousness in ways that add some sense of joy or meaning to our day to day existence. What you leave behind and what you do  should matter only in the context of the experience you have while you are still alive and can relate to it.

6 months, 1 week ago
These Skills Are Hard To Learn But Pay Off For The Rest of Your Life
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Skills Are Hard To Learn But Pay Off For The Rest of Your Life

These skills may not seem earth shattering at first glance, but they  affect your much of a person's life and career:

  • Mental Toughness
  • Adaptability
  • Silencing one's inner critic
  • Learning to say “NO”
  • Critical thinking
  • Emotional intelligence


6 months, 1 week ago
Every Lifelong Learner Should Read These High-Impact Books
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Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame. Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible, but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it. To try to avoid pain is to give too many fucks about pain. In contrast, if you’re able to not give a fuck about the pain, you become unstoppable. -Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life 

6 months, 1 week ago
Every Lifelong Learner Should Read These High-Impact Books
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The question of what you want to own is actually the question of how you want to live your life. Keep only those things that speak to your heart. Then take the plunge and discard all the rest. The process of assessing how you feel about the things you own, identifying those that have fulfilled their purpose, expressing your gratitude, and bidding them farewell, is really about examining your inner self, a rite of passage to a new life. -Marie Kondō, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing 

6 months, 1 week ago
Every Lifelong Learner Should Read These High-Impact Books
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In your life, there are going to be constant demands for your time and attention. How are you going to decide which of those demands gets resources? The trap many people fall into is to allocate their time to whoever screams loudest, and their talent to whatever offers them the fastest reward. That’s a dangerous way to build a strategy. In order to really find happiness, you need to continue looking for opportunities that you believe are meaningful, in which you will be able to learn new things, to succeed, and be given more and more responsibility to shoulder. -  by Clayton M. Christensen, How Will You Measure Your Life?

6 months, 1 week ago
Every Lifelong Learner Should Read These High-Impact Books
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“To really achieve anything, you have to be able to tolerate and enjoy risk. It has to become a challenge to look forward to. In all fields, to make exceptional discoveries you need risk — you’re just never going to have a breakthrough without it.”- Steven Kotler, The Rise of Superman: Decoding the Science of Ultimate Human Performance

6 months, 1 week ago
Every Lifelong Learner Should Read These High-Impact Books
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Contrary to what we usually believe, the best moments in our lives are not the passive, receptive, relaxing times. The best moments usually occur when a person’s body or mind is stretched to its limits in a voluntary effort to accomplish something difficult and worthwhile. Optimal experience is thus something that we make happen. For a child, it could be placing with trembling fingers the last blockon a tower she has built, higher than any she has built so far; for a swimmer, it could be trying to beat his own record; for a violinist, mastering an intricate musical passage. For each person there are thousands of opportunities, challenges to expand ourselves.” - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience

6 months, 1 week ago
My top 10 quotes on change
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"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself."- Leo Tolstoy

6 months, 1 week ago
My top 10 quotes on failure
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"Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm". - Winston Churchill

6 months, 2 weeks ago
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My top 10 quotes on failure
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"One who fears failure limits his activities. Failure is only the opportunity to more intelligently begin again" - Henry Ford 

6 months, 2 weeks ago
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Viktor Frankl on the Human Search for Meaning – Brain Pickings
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"It is well known that humor, more than anything else in the human make-up, can afford an aloofness and an ability to rise above any situation, even if only for a few seconds. … The attempt to develop a sense of humor and to see things in a humorous light is some kind of a trick learned while mastering the art of living. Yet it is possible to practice the art of living even in a concentration camp, although suffering is omnipresent."- Viktor Frankl

6 months, 2 weeks ago
Developing Resilience - Bounce Back from Setbacks with MindTools.com
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Essential elements for resilience:
  1. Challenge – Resilient people view a difficulty as a challenge, not as a paralyzing event. They look at their failures and mistakes as lessons to be learned from, and as opportunities for growth. They don't view them as a negative reflection on their abilities or self-worth.
  2. Commitment – Resilient people are committed to their lives and their goals, and they have a compelling reason to get out of bed in the morning. Commitment isn't just restricted to their work – they commit to their relationships, their friendships, the causes they care about, and their religious or spiritual beliefs.
  3. Personal Control – Resilient people spend their time and energy focusing on situations and events that they have control over. Because they put their efforts where they can have the most impact, they feel empowered and confident. Those who spend time worrying about uncontrollable events can often feel lost, helpless, and powerless to take action.
6 months, 2 weeks ago
Want to Lead a Happy Life? Science Says to Focus on These 10 Things
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10 Ways to Cultivate More Happiness


1. Make little changes in your daily routine, such as getting more sleep, exercising, getting out into nature, and meditating.

2. Read more books. Read books to learn—research suggests that lifelong learners remain healthy and engaged, and live long lives. Read books as an escape from your everyday life, Read books—it will make you happy.

3. Find your right fit or match, both personally and professionally. If you love what you do and who you are with, you’ll position yourself for personal happiness and professional success.

4. Be grateful. Sanderson suggested two specific activities to help foster a greater sense of gratitude. First, keep a daily gratitude journal. Second, pay a “gratitude visit” to someone from your past who has had a significant impact on your life, and let them know how you feel.

5. Smile more—even if you don’t feel like it. Research shows that the simple act of smiling can trick your brain into a happier state.

6. Relish simple, everyday moments. Appreciating life’s small moments, such as a beautiful, sunny day, green shoots sprouting from the ground, and skipping rocks at the beach, teaches you to be more grateful for what you have, especially during moments of stress and angst.

7. Perform random acts of kindness. Do good deeds. Volunteer. Be charitable. Shop (for someone else!). Numerous studies have shown that you can help yourself by doing good for others.

8. Spend money on experiences versus things. Studies have shown that buying an object—a car, handbag, or kitchen gadget—can quickly lead to buyer’s remorse. On the other hand, investing in experiences—a concert, a camping trip, music lessons—leads to greater happiness. Experiences create “happiness residue,” and our perceptions of them often get better over time.

9. Avoid comparisons. Whatever you may think of someone else’s life, particularly as viewed through the phony, filtered lens of social media, it’s almost certainly messier than you imagine. It’s easier to embrace, and learn to love, your own imperfections, if you don’t conjure up myths about how perfect everyone else’s lives seem.

10. Build and maintain close relationships. According to Sanderson, having a small number of tight, meaningful relationships is one of the highest predictor of happiness.

6 months, 2 weeks ago
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23 Smart Ways To Increase Your Confidence, Productivity, and Income
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“We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give"Winston S. Churchill 

6 months, 2 weeks ago
The Simple Habit That Can Change Your Life – Personal Growth – Medium
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“Resilience is how you recharge, not how you endure.” -Shawn Achor
6 months, 2 weeks ago
Know Thy Time: Peter Drucker’s Strategy To Become More Effective
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If you want to get things done, you have to allocate large chunks of (uninterrupted) time to your work

“To be effective, every knowledge worker, and especially every executive, needs to be able to dispose of time in fairly large chunks. To have small dribs and drabs of time at his disposal will not be sufficient even if the total is an impressive number of hours.” - Peter Drucker

6 months, 2 weeks ago
The Productive Benefits of Journaling (plus 11 ideas for making the habit stick)
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What you write, you control (in a manner of speaking)

There are a couple of different things at play when we write about what’s on our minds that contribute to a greater sense of calm and control.

Our short-term memory storage is limited- The vast majority of us can only hold five or six, maybe seven items in our head at a time. Anything beyond and we start to forget things and feel overwhelmed with information. Recording your thoughts in a medium outside your own head clears out that storage. As a result, yourmind becomes quieter: It stops returning to the same worn-out mental loops over and over. You can begin to think more clearly.

Reframing our personal narrative - When you recount and reflect upon your thoughts and experiences you are, in effect, telling your own story. Journalinghelps clarify, edit, and find new meaning in these narratives. 

6 months, 2 weeks ago
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The Health Benefits of Journaling
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Benefits of Journaling

Clarify your thoughts and feelings: Taking a few minutes to jot down your thoughts and emotions (no editing!) will quickly get you in touch with your internal world.

Know yourself better: By writing routinely you will get to know what makes you feel happy and confident.

Reduce stress: Writing about anger, sadness and other painful emotions helps to release the intensity of these feelings. 

Solve problems more effectively: Writing unlocks these other capabilities, and affords the opportunity for unexpected solutions to seemingly unsolvable problems.

Resolve disagreements with others: Writing about misunderstandings rather than stewing over them will help you to understand another’s point of view. 

6 months, 2 weeks ago
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The Simple Formula to Improving Your Performance (in Anything)
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The 2 "zones" that the most successful people occupy at any given time

The learning zoneThe purpose of the Learning Zone is to soak up everything we can to improve.

The performance zoneThe performance zone is where we intentionally apply what we have learned, and we work towards mastery.

 We can not excel without both.

"The performance zone maximizes our immediate performance, while the learning zone maximizes our growth and our future performance.The reason many of us don't improve much despite our hard work is that we tend to spend almost all of our time in the performance zone. This hinders our growth, and ironically, over the long term, also our performance."  - Eduardo Briceno 

6 months, 2 weeks ago
How to Master the Art of Continuous Improvement
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Continuous Improvement Tools

Quick steps to starting focusing on continuous improvement.

Step 1: Do more of what already works - Progress often hides behind boring solutions and underused insights. You don’t need more information. You don’t need a better strategy. You just need to do more of what already works.

Step 2: Avoid tiny losses - In many cases, improvement is not about doing more things right, but about doing fewer things wrong.

Step 3: Measure backward - Measuring backward means you make decisions based on what has already happened, not on what you want to happen. 

6 months, 2 weeks ago
If You Knew Something Would Improve Your Life, Why Wouldn’t You?
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Knowing what to do is easy. Doing what you know, however, is rare.And that, right there, is the dividing line between happiness and misery, failure and success. As Woody Allen explained,“Eighty percent of success is showing up.”


6 months, 2 weeks ago
How You Know
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"A perfect formulation of a problem is already half its solution."

- David Hilbert 

6 months, 3 weeks ago
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Charlie Munger on Getting Rich, Wisdom, Focus, Fake Knowledge and More