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An argument with a worry is an argument you can't win: when you tell yourself not to worry, you aren't going to silence it — you're engaging the worry in conversation, inviting it to explain itself further.

Worry causes anxious, repetitive thoughts — but if you concentrate on stopping those thoughts, you are actually directly contributing to them. Worry develops from and perpetuates a state of fear — but forcing yourself to suppress a negative emotion can instead magnify it, or activate other negative affects like anger or despair.

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  • Intellectually, worry causes us to involuntarily repeat unpleasant and unproductive thoughts, thoughts that do not contribute to effective problem-solving but cyclically feed on themselves. And trying to silence a recurring thought is a lost cause, thanks to a cognitive glitch known as the "thought suppression paradox."
  • Emotionally, worry is most directly related to fear; more specifically, what affect theorists define as the "affect" of fear, an evolved set of automatic psychological and physical functions that emerge to guide our behavior when we are confronted with anxiety. Unfortunately, affect is not always appropriate or helpful.

Since we cannot stop worrying through conscious effort, the best course of action is to concentrate on working around it. 

  • Accept worry, acknowledge the stressors and limitations it has imposed on us, and focus pragmatically on achieving the best possible outcomes under the circumstances. 
  • Instead of trying to stop worry, treat it like a headache, or a sprained ankle: it may hurt, and it's going to mess up your day, but no matter what you do, it's not going away immediately, and fixating on it will probably make it worse.
What Worry Is

Worry is an attempt to solve an issue that has an uncertain, and possibly negative, outcome.

An important point here is that worry is a combination of cognition and affect, a process that engages both our intelligence and our emotions — and the problem with trying to interrupt it is twofold.

If you made a fool out of yourself and real harm was done, plan to follow up with the person involved.

Be prepared to make amends. For example, "I feel bad about spilling my drink on your dress, and I'd love to have it dry cleaned for you." You'll come across as having good interpersonal skills, and being proactive will also improve your self-esteem.

Embarrassing yourself

At some time in our lives, we all do or say something that we later regret.

If you find yourself dwelling on these moments because you think you embarrassed yourself socially, don't let that undermine your confidence. There are steps to take to help you let it go.

If a moment that makes you feel embarrassed is an objective fact, ask yourself if it is a big deal.

  • If you spilt your drink on someone, was real harm done? Maybe the person laughed it off and was nice to you the rest of the time. *Forgive yourself and let it go.

List the things you did or didn't do that concerns you. Then ask yourself, "Is this an objective fact?" It mustn't just feel true.

  • An example of an objective fact: You spilt a drink on someone.
  • An example of feeling it is true: You made a fool of yourself.

Rhythm comes from movement implied through the elements of art in an organised but varied way.

While pattern demands consistency, rhythm relies on variety, similar to rhythm in music.

Contrast is when each element of art in a composition is made stronger in relation to the other. When next to each other, contrasting elements are among the first places that the viewer's eye is drawn.

Examples of contrast:

  • Negative/positive space.
  • Complementary colours placed next to each other.
  • Notan - light-dark harmony.

It moves the viewer's eye around and inside the image.

A sense of movement can be created by diagonal or curvy lines, edges, the illusion of space, repetition, and energetic mark-making.

It is mainly achieved through contrast.

A visually dominant area of the composition creates emphasis and commands the viewer's attention.

It is generally agreed that a successful painting consists of the following:

  • It is unified
  • It has some variety created by areas of contrast and emphasis
  • It is visually balanced
  • It guides the viewer's eye around the composition.

The principles of art are often interlaced, and one will frequently depend on the other. That means that one principle of art can influence the effect and impact of another.

A painting will feel unified when all the elements fit together comfortably.

A painting needs both unity and variety. Too much unity makes it dull, and too much variety creates chaos. The best is to have areas of interest in your composition along with places for your eyes to rest.

A pattern is a consistent repetition of any of the elements of art or any combination of it.

Some classic patterns are spirals, grids, weaves.

The visual elements of a composition should feel balanced and stable. Imbalance causes the viewer to feel disturbed.

Balance can be achieved in three ways:

  1. Symmetry, where both sides of the composition have the same elements in the same position, such as the two sides of a face.
  2. Asymmetry, where the composition is balanced by the contrast of any of the elements of art. For example, a large circle on one side might be balanced by a small square on the other side.
  3. Radial symmetry, where the elements are equally spaced around a central point.
Understanding the elements and principles of art and design

The elements and principles of art and design are the foundation of the language we use when we speak about art.

  • The elements of art are the visual tools an artist employs to create a composition: The elements are line, shape, colour, value, form, texture, and space.
  • The principles of art define how the artist uses the elements of art to help show the artist's intent. The principles are balance, contrast, emphasis, movement, pattern, rhythm, and unity/variety.
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“Every man dies, but not every man really lives.”

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“When a defining moment comes along, you can do one of two things. Define the moment, or let the moment define you.”

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“Life is not the amount of breaths you take. It’s the moments that take your breath away.”

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“Nobody is gonna hit as hard as life, but it ain’t how hard you can hit. It’s how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. It’s how much you can take, and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done.”

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“Great men are not born great, they grow great.”

  • It's conscious​ detachment from real life.
  • The forms it can take: watching television or movies, listening to music, reading books, playing games and sports, daydreaming, etc.

Escapism doesn’t make you lazy, but too much can turn into avoidance and make you stagnate instead of actively pursuing your goals.

It can cause problems with your productivity at work, in your personal relationships, and it can even cut yourself off from normal social circles.

  • Use the “real life-right now” rule: No (insert type of escapism) if I know there’s something I’d enjoy happening in real life, right now.
  • Redefine what it means to escape: Instead of escaping from reality, you’re getting your energy back after spending it being productive.
  • Identify what you’re trying to avoid: Pinpoint the issue and confront it for a moment.
  • Keep yourself busy with things in the real world, both by confronting your issues and doing the fun stuff.
  • It allows a momentary reprieve from your circumstances, giving you a chance to recharge your batteries before you jump back into the fray.
  • Escapism allows you to step away from your emotions when you’re feeling overwhelmed, and come back to a problem with a fresh mind.

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